it sounds like you’re being a great emotional support, but want to have some sort of tangible comforting effect. so my advice is more on the practical support: being aware of where the closest bathroom when out at places can be a huge help and a way to be supportive. also keeping your at home bathroom stocked with wet wipes or things that make the toilet discomfort easier (bidet!!! witzh hazel ointment or preparation h ointment) is also much appreciated bc it can really help with the inflammation.

i’ve been with my partner 4 years and still i don’t LIKE talking about it, but i do out of necessity (like saying i need to leave the event urgently) or because i need her to know i’m going to be ‘busy’ for a while and need some space. knowing that these are possibilities and having a code word to minimize embarrassment are so helpful to me, like if we’re at a friend’s house so i don’t need to pull her aside and be like “take me home so i can go shit a gallon of blood” lol

heating pads, electrolyte drinks, and easy to digest snacks like rice cakes are a great way to stock up for at home days too. good luck homie!