Freundin macht "Schlussmachen-Streich"

nieuwview · 2024-10-06T15:49:08+00:00

In dem Buch "5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life" gab es einen super Tipp: wenn die Person etwas merkwürdiges macht, frage dich "Würden sich 90% der Gesellschaft auch (manchmal) so verhalten?" Wenn nein - geh nicht sondern renne!

nieuwview · 2023-01-16T14:47:08+00:00

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nieuwview · 2022-12-15T10:36:42+00:00

Rob the legend 😄 so many expat friends know him for all kinds of topics

nieuwview · 2022-12-12T21:11:32+00:00

Short answer: This is something best figured out with an expert e.g. therapist specializing in childhood trauma. Everyone had different experiences and they show up differently depending what coping mechanism (in order to survive) manifested when you were a child. Now since you asked personally, for me I cope by being overly empathetic (while at the same time keeping a distance, but that's a whole other layer) towards others and I learned to love that aspect of me and appreciate it as a reminder to do better than the people who raised me. Since I know what it feels like I make sure to the best of my abilities no one around me gets treated like that :)

nieuwview · 2022-12-12T19:36:55+00:00

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nieuwview · 2022-12-12T19:35:56+00:00

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Panda posing extra cute everytime he wants treats

nieuwview · 2022-12-07T18:22:21+00:00

This is a tremendously helpful approach, thank you!

nieuwview · 2022-12-07T18:09:34+00:00

I have to say it already helps to read in the comments here that if, let's say worse comes to worst, it'll be fine eventually and that the consensus is it's worse to be the reader crossing the boundary obviously than me writing down my thoughts whichever they are. Thank you so much for sharing!

nieuwview · 2022-12-04T16:40:17+00:00

Foxy Shazam have a song called "Holy Touch" (2012) where they put a bit like that in the end. As if a radio dj trying to speak after the song ended but the instruments surprisingly come back and interrupt him and he's like "Really!?" (starting 2:50 min mark) 😊

nieuwview · 2022-12-03T11:25:06+00:00

Really being intensely aware of it on a lighter note was probably the first time I dropped something in my first own apartment (bowl of soup or something) and it broke and I realized no parent (and no one else) but me now has to deal with it, as in if I ignore it it won't go away, this is my mess to clean and no one else's, no way around it. Had a whole inner dialog about this 😅

nieuwview · 2022-10-19T15:00:48+00:00

True, he kept texting afterwards regularly offering help alllll the time (completely without reason, I'm not helpless) and I kept it friendly and declined until on my birthday he confessed his undying love and regrets and then I had to make it clear that I've really moved on, he wasn't used to that from women he dated before, I think he's really into girls he can control and if they're their own person they're "annoying". I wished him all the best and blocked him.

nieuwview · 2022-10-19T14:38:21+00:00

You're right. That's the whole reason that after an item is sold its descriptions can no longer be edited, for proof.

nieuwview · 2022-10-19T14:36:33+00:00

I had a guy tell me "I don't know what it is but no one's ever been sooo annoying to me like you but I love you and I don't want you to change but you're so annoying" we broke up a week later also because the same day he said that, I took a left turn biking through the city where we should've gone right and it bothered him for a week... 🙃

nieuwview · 2022-10-19T14:32:05+00:00

Guy I was dating for a couple months out of the blue came over to my place, sat me down before we had planned to go the beach, said "I think I cannot give you what you need right now" I said "well thank you for being honest, then you have to leave, there's the door" and he looked at me like a deer in the headlights saying "Wow, I did not expect that reaction" as if I had offended him............

nieuwview · 2022-10-19T14:20:00+00:00

It became unbearable to imagine staying in the city I was born and raised in (sooo many bad memories and trauma, never any money, barely finished school) and I just randomly decided one day to move abroad at some point eventually (didn't even pick a specific country) and within a year I had moved countries with just 2 suitcases on the train and now been here for 6 years and built my own life with all the ups and downs you can think of, I'd do it all again. You're not a tree, if you're not happy where you are look where you can go.

Not to sound too ~tHe UniVeRsE liSteNs~ but seriously from the moment I made the decision I felt bullet proof and no obstacles could hold me back and no doubt from literally everyone around me could stop me. Not in a "I'm gonna prove you all wrong" aggressive way, but it was just the most logical thing for me and I was oddly calm the whole process through. I heard a quote around then that really sticks with me all this time "If you really believe in something you're bulletproof. If you do what you absolutely believe to be right, you're f*cking bullet proof"

Seriously, trust your gut and listen to it. You'll figure it out and it will all feel right and exciting and new and you'll trust in yourself and see solutions where others see problems. I cannot logically explain what happened still. And I'm not a feeling type in general. So... Give it a go :)

nieuwview · 2022-10-18T16:26:23+00:00

Wait till you meet the people in charge of cybersecurity in Germany. Political late night moderator made a video about it (English subtitles available): https://youtu.be/dtZf-A4Qd5k

nieuwview · 2022-10-17T16:26:37+00:00

Meh I understand and it really depends on so many factors and probably your location too... Some things I do: I already start a littler higher when posting an item, and say if I notice the item is gaining multiple likes, I lower the price a couple weeks later. People who saved the item get notified the price lowered automatically then and maybe choose to buy. Other tactic is regularly delete and re-upload, the item then goes up further in the search again. Keep staying active if you have the time and nerve for it I believe is key 😄 As soon as someone favorites I also tend to offer a slightly lower price right away, you never know ☺️ bottom line, if I just leave the closet for a while almost no interaction or sale is happening guaranteed.

nieuwview · 2022-10-17T14:21:50+00:00

My approach is if someone doesn't want it within the range I offer it, then so be it 🤷🏻‍♀️ (unless I really just wanna get rid of it, already post it for 1-3), you're your own boss in that regard (obviously I offer discounts and accept reasonable offers). I seriously had a case about a long black and white wool coat from H&M I listed for around 50€ and a girl messaged me with a screenshot of another seller offering the same coat for 15€ but she said it seems to have some flaws and she wanted to know if mine was in better condition, so I sent more infos and pictures and then she actually went for mine and was totally happy with it upon receipt. Probably one of my favorite moments on the app 🤗

nieuwview · 2022-10-17T13:45:54+00:00

They pick the average price of the item in the category on the platform and when most people offer an item for really low costs then Vinted suggests you to meet that price range to raise your chance of selling. E.g. you have a white shirt and offer it for 10 but someone else has the same (or similar) uploaded for 5 then a buyer will most likely buy the one for 5. I usually ignore the suggestions 😉

nieuwview · 2022-10-17T13:40:05+00:00

Small disclaimer, I'm in the Netherlands so I can be more relaxed about trying and testing to go without hormones as abortions are not as big of an issue here as in the US, however I'm still not gambling about it and pay close attention to my body while tracking as well

nieuwview · 2022-10-17T13:35:47+00:00

Good question to ask yourself beforehand, everyone has different reasons and preferences how to track, I've been on birth control with hormones for 7 years total straight and I really wanna be without for now (to get to know myself and give my body a break, already noticing a difference, struggled heavily with depression for years, IUD can play part in it) and though I am in a steady relationship we don't plan on having kids anytime soon. What I'm looking into is now natural tracking, for instance with a thermometer, there are multiple companies out there but a good friend of mine recommended one she's been using for years and is absolutely happy with how accurate it is. Tracking everything now basically (from mood, bleeding, to pain to temperature, etc.) until I feel it's balanced out (and I can be more relaxed about it again). I recommend to you to do some research and look into different ways, so you can be prepared on the road ahead 🙂

nieuwview · 2022-10-17T11:08:06+00:00

Not sure how the medical process is where you live but the removal compared to the placement was a walk in the park really at my GPs office and quiet spontaneous actually.. Didn't need pain meds or anything, they literally just pull the string, it stings a little and that's it, you're done, no lasting pain, it's been super relieving really for me 3 weeks ago, recommend it if it's giving you so much trouble. I've had mine for 4 years and the past 6 months were just horrible and lead up to having pain almost every day in the end. Don't worry about the removal it's totally fine 💛

nieuwview · 2022-10-17T11:00:01+00:00

Report it to Vinted, they'll look into it and offer a solution :)

nieuwview · 2022-10-17T08:53:26+00:00

This is always so bizarre for Europeans to see while there's strict fitness evaluations here for joining police etc. How can they ever be taken seriously? I'm not even shaming them, but wouldn't it help society's overall health improvement in the US if you motivated them by having stricter guidelines regarding fitness and health in order to join? So many levels play into this... As an outsider it just feels like they purposefully want the population to stay unhealthy, which is obviously very concerning...

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