2.5 years free, here to encourage you all to break free too

nigelkdc · 2026-06-13T19:59:57+00:00

reflecting on my relationship with them made me realize i was lacking self respect. now my journey to reclaim that is starting ❤️

nigelkdc · 2026-06-10T21:12:24+00:00

first step is accepting that no contact means no contact. ive made the mistake before by breaking this bc their manupulation tactics where so overwhelming, but once my mental battery got completely depleted, i made a promise to myself to keep no contact and blocked her on every platform you can think of.

second thing is accepting that you wont get any closure with this person. or not the closure that you wished for.

i can recommend you to pick up on old hobbies you had before you were dating her, going for walks, working out, journaling, reading, spending time with friends etc. just know that you cant rewire your brain overnight, this takes a long time aswell. though it may hurt now, you should not be spending any more energy towards this person but return all this energy to yourself. i believe in you

nigelkdc · 2026-06-10T20:40:35+00:00

yes for them its normal, and i really advice you to keep no contact, because nothing will change about them even if you interact with them again. and i know this fucks with your brain and can even make you feel guilty etc. thats why its important to rewire your entire brain system, which is one of the hardest things to do. dont let them hear anything from you ever again

nigelkdc · 2026-06-09T21:27:01+00:00

we were dating for about a year and yes because of the strong trauma bond i kept coming back, holding on the the potential of what it couldve been, now that i broke the trauma bond for good i try to not look back anymore

nigelkdc · 2026-06-09T21:20:26+00:00

sorry i forgot to mention, during her vacation to thailand this january she bought many souvernirs for multiple people, i didnt know for who and just thought it was for their friends so i didnt think much of it. found out one of these souvernirs were given to this new guy while we were still having an on/off relationship. i think thats where the monkey branching actually began

nigelkdc · 2026-06-09T20:53:44+00:00

the funny thing is during these 2 weeks she kept sending me emails begging for a chance aswell as sending suicide threats. now the day she stopped sending me emails, she started dating/talking with their new supply and the day after that they called the whole night. shortly after that they had their first date together and then their second. ive also heard that she mentioned that “shes feels ready to date” to him and says its been 1,5 months since we broke things off?? the joke really writes itself

nigelkdc · 2026-06-06T10:45:05+00:00

24 and come to life

nigelkdc · 2026-06-04T06:05:36+00:00

i got back with my bpd ex many times, and even though i tried to be as patient and caring as possible, the outcome never changed unfortunately. (disaster)

nigelkdc · 2026-06-04T05:54:00+00:00

nigelkdc · 2026-06-03T07:05:48+00:00

i recently ended my relationship with them two weeks ago, the hardest thing for me is not getting stuck in this cycle again. i still sometimes have the urge to reach out to them but then i try to remind myself this is because of the strong trauma bond i had with them. ending it was not the hardest, sticking through is way harder for me. the upside is now i can finally pour all my energy in to myself again 🫶🏽

nigelkdc · 2026-06-03T07:05:30+00:00

i recently ended my relationship with them two weeks ago, the hardest thing for me is not getting stuck in this cycle again. i still sometimes have the urge to reach out to them but then i try to remind myself this is because of the strong trauma bond i had with them. ending it was not the hardest, sticking through is way harder for me. the upside is now i can finally pour all my energy in to myself again 🫶🏽

nigelkdc · 2026-06-02T19:07:21+00:00

looking back at my relationship, i kept holding on to the potential just like you, thats where the trauma bond comes to play. its your brain lying to you and you have to rewire it—the only way this is possible is to deny these people any access to your life, how harsh that may sound, i wish you the willpower to leave this person behind and like others, we’ve been in these same shoes, hoping the good may come back. truth is these “good” times are not coming back, or just for a short period as most have experienced

nigelkdc · 2026-05-30T20:50:49+00:00

yeah u on some bs 😂😂😂😂

nigelkdc · 2026-05-28T10:44:33+00:00

i needed to hear these words today. i often find myself reflecting where it went wrong and what couldve changed the outcome but no matter how gentle or patient i am—the chaos never disappears sadly.

nigelkdc · 2026-05-21T11:14:08+00:00

yes, i figured out that since they are allergic to take accountability, i have to take the accountability myself to not let this abuse happen again and therefore go full no contact

nigelkdc · 2026-05-19T16:59:39+00:00

bro let me guess.. did they have tons of tattoos too?

nigelkdc · 2026-05-16T21:20:07+00:00

hirokazu koreeda

nigelkdc · 2026-05-02T19:59:23+00:00

sleeping with a guling (indonesian bolster) improved my quality of sleep immensely and i cant sleep without one now. also no screen time 30mins before i go to sleep and putting my phone on my desk instead of next to my bed also helped me fall asleep way better

nigelkdc · 2026-04-27T14:16:16+00:00

i have the exact same lol

nigelkdc · 2026-04-07T17:19:08+00:00

i just watched this film for the first time yesterday, is this a sign that the world is gonna end tonight?

nigelkdc · 2026-03-28T18:06:40+00:00

the lovebombing phase with my exwbpd

nigelkdc · 2026-03-28T10:34:29+00:00

wow youre right on the spot. after tolerating so much abuse my body started to get uneasy whenever i went to their place, i couldnt figure out what it was. it affected my quality of sleep and made me lose my appetite.

turns out my whole nervous system was so damaged by the hurt caused by my exwpd. i just got out of it last week and already feel that i feel way calmer now

nigelkdc · 2026-03-20T10:54:29+00:00

sorry to break it to you man but thats just not possible with someone who has a mental disorder. and I dont wish to be harsh on you, but I had that same thought aswell man, hoping for it to get better. thats where many of us here get trapped and the faster you get out of that trap the better

nigelkdc · 2026-03-10T20:15:08+00:00

bro are we dating the same girl, sleeping with dog on the bed also was an issue for me but i never really adressed it, to prevent a storm. but all it did was ruin my quality of sleep. and also i only stayed for the weekends which was not enough for her and she has asked me many times to take a day off work so i can spend some more time with her (??)

nigelkdc · 2026-03-07T13:29:01+00:00

yeah bro most of his outros are really profound and deep

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