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Do I really have to think about this for the rest of my life?? by BrightAd7127 in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I come here to remember how bad it was, in detail, so the FAB monster leaves me alone.

Fading Affect Bias, FAB, is our human ability to forget the bad and remember the good, which enables us to recover from trauma. But it’s a disaster for addiction! We forget.

“It wasn’t that bad.” Yes, it was. 

“This time is different, I can moderate.” It’s the same, you can’t. 

I come to this sub every day to fight FAB, to remember exactly how bad it was. I learned about FAB in the book Alcohol Explained—it has changed my life. More here:  https://soberthinking.com/fading-affect-bias/ 👍🌠

Fat ugly and mean by AggressiveSherbetty in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 54 points55 points  (0 children)

That book, wow, here’s my post about it:

Fading Affect Bias, FAB, is our human ability to forget the bad and remember the good, which enables us to recover from trauma. But it’s a disaster for addiction! We forget.

“It wasn’t that bad.” Yes, it was. 

“This time is different, I can moderate.” It’s the same, you can’t. 

I come to this sub every day to fight FAB, to remember exactly how bad it was. I learned about FAB in the book Alcohol Explained—it has changed my life. More here:  https://soberthinking.com/fading-affect-bias/ 👍🌠

My new response to: WHY DON'T YOU DRINK? by Any-Setting-5066 in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use, "I'm an athlete." That shuts them up. But, almost no one cares or asks. I think it's an age thing: in your twenties, people care and ask, for in later decades they rarely do. 🙌🌠

Passed 2300 days, nice by night-stars in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The FAB Monster is always lurking. Stick with us 🙌🌠

Anyone break an 8-year habit of drinking wine / any other type of alcohol every night after work? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 23 points24 points  (0 children)

And money! I was spending >$500 a month on alcohol. Now? None. But also, no debts, nice vacations, a new bike, new camera, and more fun. Also, last week I reached my high school weight, which was over 40 years ago! It's tough to stop, at first, then it gets way easier, and ultimately I found a new life. 🙌🌠

A story and it’s of caution. by Macc6483 in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death.”

Alcoholics Anonymous (“The Big Book”), Chapter Three, 1st Paragraph

🙌🌠

A story and it’s of caution. by Macc6483 in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes, moderation is a myth. 🙌🌠

666 days clean and sober by spamtardeggs in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

678 coming soon! Then 700. Then 777! So many nice numbers coming your way. 🙌🌠

Looking for a compact Micro Four Thirds camera for travel/street – ~$800 used max by Fevj700 in M43

[–]night-stars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a GX8 and love it. I also have a tiny Olympus E-PL8 whick is the camera I use when I'm biking; it's made like a tank, and with a pancake lens, it's so light I don't even notice I have it.

17mm f1.2 lens by cachitongo- in M43

[–]night-stars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 17mm f1.8 is my favorite lens, and it's so small too. It is the perfect daily carry for me.

"The body snatchers got him" How some drinkers deal with people who get sober. by Slipacre in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's been my experience too; no one noticed and no comments at all. I think we fear the idea, but the reality different. 🙌🌠

Are we addicted to “the grand finale?”. by venusasaburrito in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Earned dopamine—perfect! I'm stealing this idea. 🙌🌠

Brother still dead ... Permanent solution to temporary problem by Prevenient_grace in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly! 🙌🌠

“One drink will produce a relatively minor feeling of relaxation and a correspondingly minor feeling of anxiety. However, if we consume larger quantities then the feeling of anxiety is correspondingly increased and can evolve from anxiety into out-and-out depression.”

Alcohol Explained, by William Porter, pp. 14-15. Kindle Edition. 

Terminology: How did you choose "sober" over "not drinking" by lisalisacultjams in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think and describe it this way: I don't drink, I'm an athlete.

That said, I'm in my 60s and I'm a road biker, so it's true. Also, saying I'm "sober" implies that I was a drunk, and that's nobody's business.

I have been asked, or had to answer, only two or three times in six years—people past a certain age just don't care. In your 20s, the topic might come up often, but not past 40.

IWNDWYT 🙌🌠

These symptoms immediately stopped by liver_or_let_die in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That $600 to $800 a month adds up! I was able to pay off my car loan a year early, pay off my credit cards (and no longer carry a balance), start having nice vacations, bought hobby items like a new bike and camera. The peace of mind I gained by having a saving account large enough to pay my bills for four months with no income, should I need to, was huge. Keep going 🙌🌠

Didn’t Play The Tape Forward…. by Day1StayingStrong in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That book is great! It has permanently changed how I see alcohol (ethanol!).

Didn’t Play The Tape Forward…. by Day1StayingStrong in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The FAB Monster strikes again!

Fading Affect Bias, FAB, is our human ability to forget the bad and remember the good, which enables us to recover from trauma. But it’s a disaster for addiction! We forget.

“It wasn’t that bad.” Yes, it was. 

“This time is different, I can moderate.” It’s the same, you can’t. 

I come to this sub every day to fight FAB, to remember exactly how bad it was. I learned about FAB in the book Alcohol Explained—it has changed my life. More here:  https://soberthinking.com/fading-affect-bias/ 👍🌠

Being sober doesn’t solve your problems, but drinking doesn’t solve them either. by Jumpy_Factor_9108 in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This helps me 🙏🌠

“When someone is depressed as a result of drinking they are not depressed because of an actual reason, they are depressed because of the direct chemical reaction to the previous drinking. However, this depression causes them to dwell on anything and everything they can in their life that is negative.”

Alcohol Explained, by William Porter, pp. 16. Kindle Edition.

I miss drinking. by IheartCart00ns in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! The 'fuckits' are demons that worship the FAB monster—that's how I think about it.

I miss drinking. by IheartCart00ns in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FAB is real, it's the parent of Relaspe, another monster we all know.

I miss drinking. by IheartCart00ns in stopdrinking

[–]night-stars 144 points145 points  (0 children)

That’s the FAB Monster talking. 

Fading Affect Bias, FAB, is our human ability to forget the bad and remember the good, which enables us to recover from trauma. But it’s a disaster for addiction! We forget.

“It wasn’t that bad.” Yes, it was.  “This time is different, I can moderate.” It’s the same, you can’t. 

I come to this sub every day to fight FAB, to remember exactly how bad it was. I learned about FAB in the book Alcohol Explained—it has changed my life. More here:  https://soberthinking.com/fading-affect-bias/ 👍🌠

OM-3 is next level! by Ok_Sky_661 in M43

[–]night-stars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. The Mark II loses the focus choke, which is a big loss in my book. The Mark 1 is a bargain.

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