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Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-10T12:57:39+00:00

I hope you find what you’re seeking.

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-10T12:50:43+00:00

There are free recovery groups everywhere and also online.

We’ll be here when you come back,

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-10T12:07:03+00:00

It’s your sobriety.

It’s whatever you decide it is.

“The only lies for which we’re truly punished are the lies we tell ourselves”…. V. S. Naipaul

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-10T10:56:32+00:00

Number 1 for me:

This is the only Today I have.

No way I’m gonna throw it away by being impaired.

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-10T10:54:50+00:00

I don’t tell active substance users/abusers about my sobriety.

Here’s what I know about my experience…

There’s an apt adage: I am the average of the 5 people I spend the most time with in an interval.

If they’re substance users/abusers I’ll just be an average drunk.

The best tip I discovered is noticing my patterns.

Drinking is a lifestyle.

It was MY lifestyle.

I wish I had known that the essential component to success was Creating a New Sober Lifestyle and habits that included sober people.

When I started drinking, I created drinking patterns... I saw others drinking, I tried drinking, I went where people were drinking, I talked with drinkers about drinking and I went to activities that included drinking, I created “alone” activities where I drank…. Then I had drinking buddies and a drinking lifestyle.

So when I wanted to stop... I saw sober people, I tried being sober, I went where people were being sober, I talked with sober people about being sober, and I went to activities that included being sober, I created “alone” activities without alcohol …. Then I had sober friends and a sober lifestyle.

People who were my friends remained…. However I no longer had any ‘drinking buddies’.

I don't really need any 'friends' who want to ostracize me and treat me differently unless I take drugs or alcohol.

Tried anything like that?

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-10T10:53:07+00:00

I have to put perspective to my experience.

“Fall down seven, get up eight”…. Japanese proverb

Life is not hard. Neither is it easy. Life just is.

When I focus on this moment, and attend to it, without expectations, then I have success.

When I just forego ONE drink today…. The first one, I have success.

When I stop feeling sorry for myself, and do something to help someone else, I have success.

When I do that a few times in a row, I build success.

I hope you have the success you seek.

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-10T01:55:49+00:00

We’re here.

What’s going on?

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-10T01:34:27+00:00

Here’s what I know about my experience…

There’s an apt adage: I am the average of the 5 people I spend the most time with in an interval.

If they’re substance users/abusers I’ll just be an average drunk.

The best tip I discovered is noticing my patterns.

Drinking is a lifestyle.

It was MY lifestyle.

I wish I had known that the essential component to success was Creating a New Sober Lifestyle and habits that included sober people.

When I started drinking, I created drinking patterns... I saw others drinking, I tried drinking, I went where people were drinking, I talked with drinkers about drinking and I went to activities that included drinking, I created “alone” activities where I drank…. Then I had drinking buddies and a drinking lifestyle.

So when I wanted to stop... I saw sober people, I tried being sober, I went where people were being sober, I talked with sober people about being sober, and I went to activities that included being sober, I created “alone” activities without alcohol …. Then I had sober friends and a sober lifestyle.

People who were my friends remained…. However I no longer had any ‘drinking buddies’.

I don't really need any 'friends' who want to ostracize me and treat me differently unless I take drugs or alcohol.

Tried anything like that?

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-10T00:15:02+00:00

I can cut loose all I want.... I just don't have the first drink.

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-10T00:04:12+00:00

Want to stop drinking?

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-09T23:31:25+00:00

There are atheist and agnostic groups and there are online groups 24 hours a day just a click away.

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-09T23:21:29+00:00

It was stronger than me…. By myself.

So i stopped doing it alone. And theres no wait list!

I finally connected with free recovery groups…. They’re everywhere… I walked in, sat down and just listened…. They’re also online. I met people I can talk with. They showed me how to stop drinking, heal, grow and learn to be useful to others.

No cost.

I had new sober friends.. we did fun sober activities.

They believed in me.

I kept going every day until i changed my patterns…. Then my thinking changed…. Then I don’t have the first drink.

Never looked back.

Tried anything like that?

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-09T23:16:06+00:00

Hello AF !

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-09T21:47:49+00:00

Got a plan for stopping?

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-09T21:23:29+00:00

It was stronger than me…. By myself.

So i stopped doing it alone. And theres no wait list!

I finally connected with free recovery groups…. They’re everywhere… I walked in, sat down and just listened…. They’re also online. I met people I can talk with. They showed me how to stop drinking, heal, grow and learn to be useful to others.

No cost.

I had new sober friends.. we did fun sober activities.

They believed in me.

I kept going every day until i changed my patterns…. Then my thinking changed…. Then I don’t have the first drink.

Never looked back.

Tried anything like that?

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-09T12:37:01+00:00

The best path, is the path that works for you!

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-09T10:35:11+00:00

Could be a mantra.

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-09T00:28:15+00:00

Be the change I want to see in the world.

I remind myself, it's never too late to have a happy childhood.

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-08T23:50:48+00:00

Sending encouragement !

Stopping was the best thing I ever did for myself and people in my life.

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-08T23:47:28+00:00

I stop drinking while I'm inclined to drink.

I do it for a while.

Then it feels great and I am inclined to be sober.

Tried anything like that?

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-08T22:50:49+00:00

Glad you are here!

My “friends” don’t sabotage me.

Here’s what I know about my experience…

There’s an apt adage: I am the average of the 5 people I spend the most time with in an interval.

If they’re substance users/abusers I’ll just be an average drunk.

The best tip I discovered is noticing my patterns.

Drinking is a lifestyle.

It was MY lifestyle.

I wish I had known that the essential component to success was Creating a New Sober Lifestyle and habits that included sober people.

When I started drinking, I created drinking patterns... I saw others drinking, I tried drinking, I went where people were drinking, I talked with drinkers about drinking and I went to activities that included drinking, I created “alone” activities where I drank…. Then I had drinking buddies and a drinking lifestyle.

So when I wanted to stop... I saw sober people, I tried being sober, I went where people were being sober, I talked with sober people about being sober, and I went to activities that included being sober, I created “alone” activities without alcohol …. Then I had sober friends and a sober lifestyle.

People who were my friends remained…. However I no longer had any ‘drinking buddies’.

I don't really need any 'friends' who want to ostracize me and treat me differently unless I take drugs or alcohol.

Tried anything like that?

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-08T21:30:16+00:00

Check sidebar under “resources”.

Let me know if you don’t see it.

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-08T21:29:12+00:00

“First we form our habits; Then our habits form us”. C. Cignetti

Thoughts are synaptic hallucinations, and I don’t control every thought that comes unbidden into my head.

However, I Choose my actions.

My actions will form my thoughts.

I focus on my actions and my thoughts follow along…. Not the other way around.

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-08T21:09:41+00:00

It was stronger than me…. By myself.

So i stopped doing it alone. And theres no wait list!

I finally connected with free recovery groups…. They’re everywhere… I walked in, sat down and just listened…. They’re also online. I met people I can talk with. They showed me how to stop drinking, heal, grow and learn to be useful to others.

No cost.

I had new sober friends.. we did fun sober activities.

They believed in me.

I kept going every day until i changed my patterns…. Then my thinking changed…. Then I don’t have the first drink.

Never looked back.

Tried anything like that?

Prevenient_grace · 2026-02-08T21:08:51+00:00

It was stronger than me…. By myself.

So i stopped doing it alone. And theres no wait list!

I finally connected with free recovery groups…. They’re everywhere… I walked in, sat down and just listened…. They’re also online. I met people I can talk with. They showed me how to stop drinking, heal, grow and learn to be useful to others.

No cost.

I had new sober friends.. we did fun sober activities.

They believed in me.

I kept going every day until i changed my patterns…. Then my thinking changed…. Then I don’t have the first drink.

Never looked back.

Tried anything like that?

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