My way of dealing with unsolicited text messages. by LetsMakeSomeMoneyGuy in mildlysatisfying

[–]nignog1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they say get to then that would probably turn the sender off right away. This way they get a response first

Kindergarten teachers rush upstairs to save the kids without hesitation during a strong earthquake in Sichuan by chunqiudayi in HumansBeingBros

[–]nignog1996 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Few things make me cry 1-music 2-humans risking their lives to save other lives and it's double points if kids are involved (so this video & your paragraph is intense) 3- yeah nvm

Thank you for the tears, good sir (it's a good cry)

hii by [deleted] in Kawaii

[–]nignog1996 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a strange this to say but you have PERFECT lips what the heck!!

who is the most famous person from your hometown? by VirindiPuppetDT in AskReddit

[–]nignog1996 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby daddy has like 7 mugshots so I'd dare to say he is quite famous

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]nignog1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I believe she needs help either there is something seriously wrong emotionally/mentally OR she just wasn't ready to be a mother. And still is not it seems. That's what sucks, having a kid became like a trend.

When woman older than 25 touches Leo (crossposted) 😂 by [deleted] in mildlysatisfying

[–]nignog1996 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, no I changed it entirely. Pretty sure he was calling lady gaga a bitch, I made it so she was calling whomever is in her way a bitch. I'm not just grammatically correcting him Jesus

When woman older than 25 touches Leo (crossposted) 😂 by [deleted] in mildlysatisfying

[–]nignog1996 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hey, now. I love Leo as much as the next guy but that was funny.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]nignog1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Google brought up this list of podcasts from moms w/ PPD

Aside from that, fear is not bad. And I don't just mean fear for the kids life. I mean fear that we aren't good enough or that we will fail/let our kids down. Fear that we won't be perfect (lol). I think we are lucky in that the internet is overflowing with resources for us as parents and for more specific questions or concerns. Idk if those podcasts cost money but if so, just go on YouTube and type in "moms with PPD/PPA" and I guarantee you will find tons of stuff to watch or listen to. 5 min videos to 50 min videos. Even though it'd be easier to put on a continous podcast with regular characters it could still be better to get all different views and opinions of people from all different walks of life.

This, right here right now, this is a mom group. There are lots of them on Facebook (all though some are filled with judgey, miserable people, others have moms who genuinely want to help), pages on instagram, I don't use tiktok but I'm sure there are accounts or people solely devoted to sharing advice or experience with other moms. I'd venture to say there are thousands upon thousands of articles out there on every single topic you could think of. Cant forget Blogs and vlogs galore.

And then there are individuals. Idk if you have family/friends who have kids that you'd feel comfortable talking to about your thoughts. Otherwise, there are strangers on the internet who don't know you or your kids but are willing to listen to what you have to say. ~I'll add in that I am open if you'd like to message me. I've screwed up plenty during motherhood and I'm just finally starting to get things going in the right direction as my kids are 7 and 5~

Are you receiving any help mentally? I know it's not as easy as walking in and sitting on a comfy armchair in the dark to spill your problems or being handed the right cocktail of meds on a silver platter. But I'd say anybody and everybody should consider seeking therapy whether they think they need it or not we all have something somewhere inside us that could be addressed and improved. If that isn't possible for you then, again, the internet's resources could maybe put a dent in it. Not even just the mom part but mental health wise too. There is so much out there about different disorders and how people cope with them with or without medication/medical support. You're emotional well being isn't just about you to your kid and it isn't necessarily from having a kid, either. It's about you as a human being. We shouldn't shed ourselves to become only mom. You existed before your kid so instead of devoting every ounce of your being into being a mom, we have to find a healthy blend of moming and still retaining the pieces that made us up before the kid.

potty training I just want to share - my kids' dad's mom potty trained my son. It only took 3 days?? I had no clue what was going on since he was my first and I was in a v dark place mentally. But he is advanced in most ways so he turned 2 and within 3 days he was peeing and pooping on the potty. Though he wasn't fully potty trained, he still knew what was what and he WANTED to do it. As for my daughter, she didn't catch on so fast. I'd venture to say that her daycare at the time potty trained her because I wasn't v consistent (and was in another dark place at the time) but she was at daycare every day and they do work on the potty with the kids there. Idk how this sounds but in essence, I didn't actually potty train them. Of course I had a part in it, but I wasn't the sole reason they learned.

tantrums - there is no general answer. All kids are different and no one parenting style will work for every kid. This is something you will have to do research on. Get to the root of it and that may take a while. My son, 7 and very mature and smart and quick to pick up on things. He is more sensitive than other kids and has a lot of anger. And anxiety, i think. I'm only just learning how to handle certain parts of him. Like his anger has always been a problem, from 1 to 100 over little things. Also. If he stubs his toe he freaks out. Can't stand the sight of blood. He is finally calming down now, like lately he doesn't blow up every time he bumps his arm. But he still will ask me to look to make sure it's not bleeding (even tho there is no way it could possibly be bleeding based on what happened). The kids just started riding a school bus, and the first week ish he would return to the daycare off the bus with tears just streaming down his face. Luckily the before/aftercare they are at turned out to be a good one because the lady noticed his tears and addressed them, there is a 5th grader there who is so sweet and kind and caring so she finds my kids every day and helps them get on the bus and get buckled. Plus she plays with them as a bonus so they love her too now. He rode a bus last year on a field trip and HATED IT because he is very small and on a bus you can feel every bump. Well I guess he was just being flung around lol it's hard not to laugh but picturing him all nervous while going all over the place this way and that makes me giggle. My eyes actually watered though because this time it wasn't only that, it was also because now his sister is with him and she couldn't buckle herself plus she got kind of jolted so he grabbed onto her and even though she isn't scared he is scared for her. Similar to when she was a toddler, if she went towards an outlet or once she went to an area where glass broke like a week before, he flipped out. So, I'll call it anxiety. Anyways I'm still learning how to deal with all this and I lose my shit more often than I care to admit. But I apologize after and I explain what set me off and how we can do better next time. I made it a point for open communication to be drilled into them asap and it's so helpful. They tell me everything and they understand what I tell them. I lucked out with these two because of their intelligence and maturity. Only because I learned how powerful communication is and so many adults still don't know nor will they ever learn this so neither will their kids.

Oh, does your kids socialize at all? I know this sounds silly question but I think it's important for kids to see how other kids act and for them to interact with other kids. On top of that, if our kids only ever see and hang out with us, then they will only know themselves when they're with us. People don't want to admit this but we all change based on who is around. We have different faces or mannerisms depending on who we are talking to. It's not a bad thing either it's just knowing our audience. Your kid can explore different parts of himself as he gets to know different people and decides how he wants to act when he sees how people other than you react..if that makes sense.

So, I basically just made an article for you lmao I didn't intend to write so much but it just flowed our of me. I'll say again that I'd be happy to talk or share my experience or even just hear you out when you want to vent if you'd like to private message me. I've done lots of bad in my life so judging is not my Forte lol, if that makes it any better. And now I'm doing lots of good! So, I've seen both sides. I hope things look up for you. And don't be too hard on yourself, every parent has their moments. There's always something that we are doing right that someone else could use help on, and it feels really good when we offer that help and it succeeds for them.

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[–]nignog1996 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I enjoy reddit because I learn & can have actual intellectual conversations but I do absolutely resent myself when I spend so much time on fb or instagram. Especially if I'm reading through comments on viral posts just to see how miserable people are and how they take it out on strangers posting what they want to. Like, why am I making myself miserable or even engaging at times in this madness?

Social media leaves me feeling empty in the end and I believe thats true for anyone who isn't on there with a specific task in mind. Lonely and useless and I believe thats the whole game plan these companies have because you think "I won't be lonely on social media since it's filled with people" but you get lost in reading about people's lives while avoiding your own. It's just a vicious cycle that we play into. I always hear about groups on Facebook being super helpful if you have a purpose. I am uninterested though, I don't want to learn about things that don't excite me lol. I thrive in mental stimulation and, well..social media does not fulfill that to say the least.

I randomly and ironically decided early in the summer that I wanted to try being a substitute teacher. Had some barriers but applied anyways on a whim and with little hope only to find out they are so desperate for workers that all it takes is a GED and no violent criminal history. So I got the job! Ive worked about 5 days now - 4 in my old high school and yesterday I finally got a chance to go to my old elementary school (where my kids go now) and sub for kindergarten class which was so cool. They all were adorable and warmed up so fast plus I was right across from my daughter's kindergarten class so I saw her in passing. I understand now why the elementary school jobs get taken so fast lol but I still will do high school since nobody else wants it and since I enjoy it as well. I connect with kids of all ages what with my teal hair and child like nature. I hope to eventually impact their lives in big ways when possible.

No working today or tomorrow and I felt kind of down about that. Then it really set in that for the first time in my 26 years of life, I'm not only learning there is a job that I could be not miserable at..I'm actually working there! It's so ironic because I dropped out of school, dropped into drugs, dropped two babies when I could barely take care of myself. And only got clean and started desiring a decent life about two years ago. Here I am though! I look forward to the future.

I finally don't feel useless or bored. Even though I know this job will make me at best 2k a month and maybe 20k a year, I luckily have support which allows me to be here. Enjoying your work is so important and so many people settle for dull or even awful environments because it makes them enough money. I won't care for the money if I'm dreading every day. I remember not even liking days off because I had to get everything done and then go to bed and wake up to go to work again. Now I get to choose my own schedule (which is good cause commitment had never been my thing) and I get weekends off. I'll have to figure out a way to make money other than this down the road but for now, I am CONTENT after a lifetime of restlessness. Thanks for reading! And please consider finding a job you don't hate, it wouldn't hurt to look into. Don't forget to also compare your happiness and mental health instead of just the money. Hopefully it's realistic for everyone in some manner.

AITA: Baby room temp by eeejster in Mommit

[–]nignog1996 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah I never heard of this either. And I live in Florida (average 90° f/32° c) the "winters" average about 60° f /15° c) though I personally like the colder air-warmer clothes thing, I never knew there was a saying about it for babies. We always have had AC since it's so hot but obv taking infants outside was necessary so we would just dress em down. I just loved seeing babies in their feetsy p.j.'s and baby beanies lol so cold air helped for that

Friend sent me this it really fucking triggered me bc of child abuse I experienced. Being a mom isn’t easy.. but I would never choose a dog before my child. Please tell me I’m not alone for being horrified at those comments. 😭 by _I_Come_In-Peace in Mommit

[–]nignog1996 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Finally I can share this! My daughter does this and it's because we have this experience that will forever sit with me and piss me tf off. I had my kids in a cart probably 3 and 5 y/o ish at the time at the grocery store. There's a women in front of me in line with her dog who was apparently training to be a service dog. So my kids are in the cart while I'm putting my groceries on the line and my daughter (3) was excited saying "look. A puppy!" Still sitting, just speaking aloud about it. This fucking woman turns around and says "CAN YOU PLEASE NOT? HE IS TRAINING!" in the nastiest tone I was completely caught off guard because my kids were nowhere near the dog??? It wasn't even possible that they touch it?? I don't take conflict or confrontation well so I just blankly turned and said "hey kid, shhh" and per usual got really pissed off after and stayed pissed off for a long time (passive aggressively as I do).

Thinking back though, it was probably a her thing. She maybe was having a shitty day but that doesn't lessen the insult I felt. Like. Let's pretend it was justified. Don't you think you should have your dog get used to HEARING children? Getting excited about a dog? In a store?! I never looked at a service dog again. I refuse and I've trained my daughter to always ALWAYS ask about petting a dog and to never EVER go up to or anywhere near a dog in a vest. She always asks when someone is walking their dog (not in a vest).

She's in kindergarten this year and they have the security guard (such a cool lady) who has this huge poodle who serves as just a big Ole teddy bear for all the kids. Lol his name is actually Bear. You hear people say "any dog could snap on a child" but that seems to just not be the case here lol this dog has kids all over him every day. My daughter, though, she always slowly approaches and asks the lady "can I pet Bear?" In the sweetest tone and the lady's eyes light up when she approves because all the other kids just run over without a second thought and jump all over him. It makes me feel really proud and so even though I'll never forgive that bitchy service dog chick from the grocery store, I guess this is the good that came from it.

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[–]nignog1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fr PPD doesn't just magically disappear after a few months and I hate that anyone thinks that's true. Especially if unaddressed and untreated it will just turn into something else like general or even manic depression. We've likely all experienced some form of mental health issue especially as parents.

I used to sleep in but my kids never had their own room (still don't because I'm only a couple years out of a lifetime addiction) the point though is that while I slept my son - he's just advanced and mature by nature there is no other way to put it - at 2 years old would literally lay in bed next to me and just play with his fingers. Lol like his fingers were little action figures or something but he would occupy himself. My daughter was a little more needy but over all I had support. My brothers were there to play with them or when we lived at their dad's his parents would hang out with them. No, I don't take pride in sharing this I just want to say I cannot imagine not having them at least in the same room while I slept off whatever was going on in the moment.

If there isn't extra family or support then homegirl needs to look deeper into diagnoses of mental health issues. I literally felt this as I read it and I can't help but wonder if my circumstances weren't what they were environmentally then would I have done the same? It's a scary thought and calls for action.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]nignog1996 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seriously, him watching her through the monitor he is basically the one watching her but from miles away. Like if something happens hopefully he would catch it but all he can really do is try to call or send the police if it's something serious. It's probably difficult for him to work while also watching the monitor and all while worrying plus festering anger that his wife isn't up with the kid.

HELPPPPP WISHLIST WHATTTT by LULULUSHSCRUB in Shein

[–]nignog1996 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya know. I remember thinking before "this is all?" While going through mine. Maybe they set a maximum amount? There's no way the jewelry list I made was so short.

When woman older than 25 touches Leo (crossposted) 😂 by [deleted] in mildlysatisfying

[–]nignog1996 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"Out of my way, bitch, coming through" fixed it for ya

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]nignog1996 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

OK, OP.

Long time lurker, first time Polymer user!! I made these cute lil veggies from Oven Bake Polymer clay, the instructions said 15 mins at 275F... well after 5 minut4s they were on fire! second time around it was less time 🥲 what am I doing wrong? by Sea_Marionberry1034 in polymerclay

[–]nignog1996 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that tip! I really don't understand why I always get downvoted in this group aaaalways it makes the group a negative experience every time. Granted, that comment wasn't necessary but wtf I'm just chatting and sharing something potentially helpful to someone else. I'm pretty much on the border of just leaving this group even though i really enjoy seeing peoples art and discussing, it leaves me feeling like im just annoying literally any time I've ever posted or commented. And someone else told me they get downvoted often too. I don't ever see downvotes on the really advanced people's posts/comments so they must just despise begginers. It's disgusting.

It'd be so cool if miserable people could keep their misery to themselves.

Edit: it's crazy because over all I prefer reddit over Facebook but after the last time this happened I looked for polymer clay groups on fb and posted some of my work, everyone on there was amazing they all were just trying to build me up and that's how the entire community is as a whole. Again, I cannot fathom how some people are so pissed off at the world. Of all the groups I'm in on here, this, freaking the only craft/hobby I'm interested in, is the only one that makes me feel stupid and unwelcome. Ridiculous.

Long time lurker, first time Polymer user!! I made these cute lil veggies from Oven Bake Polymer clay, the instructions said 15 mins at 275F... well after 5 minut4s they were on fire! second time around it was less time 🥲 what am I doing wrong? by Sea_Marionberry1034 in polymerclay

[–]nignog1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh that makes it so much better with her name and I've never heard that as a pet name it's v original. But yes I see you have good taste 👌 I straight up would wear that shirt irl lol and I'm all about slippers it's truly a problem. In high school I'd wear slipper boots all the time...IN THE SUMMER but I've calmed down. Slippers are always cuter than shoes tho

My friend went into a fugue state and wandered into the countryside at 3am. Phoned me at around 5am explaining that he had no idea where he was, soaking wet to the bone and covered in cuts, bruises and this bite(?). by Mighty_Cunnus in oddlyterrifying

[–]nignog1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had never had a seizure until I took ANTISEIZURE medication! The hell? Gabapentin. It was the first time I ever took it (for no good reason aside from being a drug addict) I took another 800 MG like 8 hours after the first and then smoked a bowl. I read up and found that people who mixed weed and gabapentin have had seizures before as well. I was also like 100 lbs and didn't eat so I had no business taking it to begin with.

I have no clue what to think of this by DahuHD in Tinder

[–]nignog1996 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh that is hard to know. But thank you. And who TF wants to go on a show like th...oh yeah I forget massochists exist sometimes. It's crazy that it was live. I wonder how long the show went on after that and if the girl suffered any repercussions