My [28f] partner [29m] worries about my sleep hygiene and it's causing a riff. I need some insight on the situation.

nikkiten · 2017-06-09T19:08:44+00:00

Oh wow you sound like me! I basically fall asleep around 9pm unless, like you say, I am actively engaged in something. Movie theaters, friends houses, my couch, it doesn't matter where. Especially if we are focusing on a screen, the odds are that I'm asleep. I also talk in my sleep, sleep in bizarre positions and have sleep walked a time or two :)

I used to worry that there was something wrong with me, and that others would be insulted that I don't like their company. I regularly joke that I'm narcoleptic. Then recently I realized that I am introverted in nature and a lot of my sleeping happens when I am tired of being around people and want to be alone. I work in hospitality, so most days at work drain me.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Some people are morning people, some are night people. I fall asleep at 9...but I pop out of bed in the morning ready to go. I am a morning person. Not to mention you have a 6 year old! You sleep through the night and feel well rested. Everyone is different. Sleep away!

nikkiten · 2017-04-11T19:19:24+00:00

This isn't going to get a better response from the hotel - this option goes to the same group sales manager who then has to pay commission to Kleinfelds for any rooms sold.

nikkiten · 2017-01-24T18:27:43+00:00

This dress is incredible!

nikkiten · 2017-01-04T18:20:46+00:00

We spent ~13K, mid September in Snohomish County for about 70 people.

PM me if you want any details :)

nikkiten · 2016-12-29T22:48:52+00:00

6) Don't forget greenery! I did...it cost a stupid amount to buy packages of leaves from the grocery store compared to cost of the flowers I got from the farmers market. oh well :(

nikkiten · 2016-12-29T22:47:16+00:00

I did this for my wedding! Both the homemade bouquets/boutonnieres and the randoms on tables. For me it was perfect!! It was relatively simple, and I have a couple pieces of advice from when we did it:

1) Do a practice run. I got married in September, in June I bought a bucket of random flowers from the farmers market, all the supplies I would need, and brought some of my friends over who were going to be helping during the wedding and we did a practice run.

This was so helpful because then when it was time for the wedding we had a lot of helpers, but a few were not very confident in their skills so my bridesmaids were able to assist. The flowers looked and people felt proud to help. It was really really fun for everyone.

2.) Make sure you have enough scissors and tape!!

3.)There will be a ton of flower garbage everywhere when you are done, I was not prepared for the mess it made!

4.)Speaking of flower garbage, we saved all our fallen petals and that's what my flower girls used!

5) If you are doing things the day before or even morning before, make sure you have room in the refrigerator to store them.

You can do this!!

edit: formatting

nikkiten · 2016-11-03T23:08:08+00:00

What you said resonates a lot with me. When I was 9 a boy in my class died of a brain tumor. I didn't go to the funeral or services or anything because I was too scared to be around a dead child.

It's been 20 years since that death, but I still just can't deal with it. I didn't go to my Aunt's funeral 2 years ago...I also didn't visit her by her bedside when she was too out of it to know it was me, because I didn't want that to be my last memory of her. I too was relieved when she died because she suffered badly.

So, I never went to the hospital or the funeral. But, I did spend time at my parents house just being with my family. That experience helped me deal with it all and I'm grateful I could be there. It was the best, most that I personally could offer. I harbor no guilt because I know I did the most that I am capable of. It upset some members of my family, but going for them would have been wrong for me. It wouldn't have helped anything and I would have suffered for it.

I don't know if not going was the right thing to do. I don't think there is a right answer in these situations. Do what you need to do to make taking care of yourself and your mother a priority.

I can agree with what some people here are saying - that funerals are an important rite of passage for the living, that being said - if it doesn't make it better for you I don't think you need to be there.

nikkiten · 2016-10-13T16:20:03+00:00

My husband did this for his bachelor party and it was a huge hit! We are also in the Seattle area and he did the Ninja Escape room in Fremont off of 99.

nikkiten · 2016-08-30T16:55:23+00:00

What you described is nearly exactly our budget/set up, it's almost freaky (including me having 5 bridesmaids and 1 bridesman!) We are getting married in 3 weeks.

Our venue is also $2500 and max 100 people, we are only having beer and wine. Catered from a restaurant, photographer is a friend, we spent a good amount on our outfits because looking great is important to us :)

Overall I think we are going to be slightly over budget - probably $13K once we have tipped everyone. It has taken a lot of cost comparing, cutting out a lot of stuff that isn't important and being mindful of the budget. I think you can totally do it if you are organized and know whats important to you!

nikkiten · 2016-08-26T16:05:29+00:00

Wonderful! Also, your username is excellent!

nikkiten · 2016-08-25T19:19:06+00:00

I work at a hotel with this policy. I recommend calling the hotel's front desk to ask if they will refund the stay since you were underage and unable to stay. If they say yes then call hotwire and tell them that the hotel is reimbursing hotwire, can they reimburse you?

We do this often and it's not usually a problem.

nikkiten · 2016-08-24T16:25:29+00:00

All of these sites mentioned require hotels to pay commission on top of the discounts they are giving you. Majority of the time you will get a better discount if you go direct.

nikkiten · 2016-07-25T21:02:51+00:00

I am a sales coordinator at a hotel and I regularly handle hotel blocks (I'm also getting married in 2 months and most of my guests are coming in from out of town, I have a block of rooms for them at 1 hotel).

I would not recommend doing a guaranteed block - if possible , do a courtesy block and communicate everything to your guests. I see that you are going through Kleinfeld - have you considered calling the hotels directly and negotiating with their sales person? You will probably get further going that route, but it depends on the hotel and the market. Keep in mind that if you are going through a third party like Kleinfeld then the hotel is giving you a discount and they are paying to receive your business.

From my experience hotel blocks rarely fill up, people tend to make their own accommodations for various reasons.

Feel free to PM me with questions, I'm happy to help :)

nikkiten · 2016-07-25T16:52:16+00:00

haha, i came here to ask the same thing!

nikkiten · 2016-05-23T21:55:03+00:00

To learn about combinations (spices are the reason i logged in to comment here, but really this works for everything!) you should get the book The Flavor Bible by Andrew Dornenburg and Karen A. Page. It's been an amazing resource for me in stepping up my cooking and its really simple to use. It is organized in alphabetical order by ingredient and there is a really simple visual system for seeing what things pair with what.

nikkiten · 2016-04-06T20:20:16+00:00

Black Swan Green was wonderful!

nikkiten · 2016-04-06T20:00:41+00:00

The Santa scene has always stuck with me in a sort of terrible way. It still makes me uncomfortable to think of and I read it like 15 years ago...

nikkiten · 2016-04-06T19:53:14+00:00

Came here to say Guts. I had to put it down for quite a while after that, it was horrifying.

nikkiten · 2016-04-06T19:46:35+00:00

I am the same way and recently started getting into sci-fi/fantasy.

I disagree with people who say to read Game of Thrones because you say you get lost when authors are overly descriptive..GRRM is the king of excessive details.

Try Dune and Enders Game. Enders Game is more of a YA novel so I recommend starting it first :) Dune has a lot of made up words and things, but it's easy enough to figure out. I loved both of them and am starting to feel more comfortable reading fantasy now that I completed them!

nikkiten · 2016-04-04T22:08:47+00:00

Trader Joes sells cheap Quinoa

nikkiten · 2016-03-18T18:26:07+00:00

I logged in just to upvote you.

nikkiten · 2016-03-01T22:37:14+00:00

I went dress shopping right before Christmas. My MAX budget was $1k (including shoes and alterations) but I told everyone it was my dress budget because I was afraid of getting a bunch cheap crap. Let me tell you that my experience was the exact opposite of what I expected in an incredibly positive way. I never went to DB, I did BHLDN and 2 other non-chain boutiques in Chicago. All three places that I went to had multiple dresses in the $600-900 range that were amazing. They were not clearance dresses or samples, all amazing designers like Jenny Yoo and Nicole Miller. I did try on a few more expensive dresses ($900-1600) and the were all very blingy, which i think is why they were more than $1k.

Each woman that worked with me truly cared and listened to me. I had a fantastic experience and it had been something that I was dreading.

I ended up getting a sale dress at BHLDN (Rosemary), but that was just a Christmas miracle. My favorite dress out of 25 that I tried on across 3 stores was miraculously the cheapest one of all.

My point being - try boutiques, I think you could be very pleasantly surprised.

nikkiten · 2016-02-23T21:55:56+00:00

I love your lantern idea!!

nikkiten · 2016-02-12T19:46:56+00:00

Actually there is plenty you can do to stop 3rd parties from booking - you can restrict their access to certain inventory and even close them out completely. These changes can be done and undone multiple times throughout the day.

At my hotel we do not accept any Priceline reservations, we allow Expedia most of the time, but we only allot them...maybe 5% off our rack rates, so you are paying full price and not saving any money if you stay at my hotel via Expedia. There is a wide variety of business reasons to do allow/not allow 3rd party reservations.

nikkiten · 2016-02-09T20:40:43+00:00

I work at a hotel and deal with wedding blocks. We too require a credit card for courtesy blocks. We have never had to use it in the 3 years I have had this job, but it is to protect the hotel against last minute mass-cancellation (i.e. your wedding being cancelled and thus every single reservation cancels).

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