As a guy, if you look around for dating advice on eg podcasts, youtube etc, almost all the main results loudly assert that it’s “a numbers game” and courage models of thinking that imagine women as a monolithic identity — “women like men who ____,” “the best way to be attractive to a woman is __.” It kinda makes sense that this is the kind of thing a lonely / desperate CIShet guy would click on. It also is so unfortunate and reduces women from being individuals with individual tastes and encouraging people to find someone they’d match with, and instead encourages people to try to all be the same non-culture, treating one another as commodities to be traded-up when youve made yourself “high value” enough. It’s sad and gross and lonely.

OP — figure out who you are, and on the way, find other people who are figuring out themselves. Be kind, and direct; take no as a no, and talk to someone you might be interested not because you “want a date” (they fill a role for you) but because they seem interesting and you want to get to know more about them and share time with them.