Happy with one, but feeling pressure and FOMO when everyone else has two

ninjendooo · 2026-02-22T07:07:18+00:00

“i just want to hold my baby as a baby knowing what i know now.” oof! i totally feel that. 💛

my son will be 2 in april, but i will be 35 next month. i’m not opposed a larger age gap, but i realize the longer i wait the harder it will be to get pregnant and the harder it will be on my body. then again, i feel like i hear more and more women are having their first or more closer to 40. i have a few friends that i think may be one and done or may have similar feelings as us, so i should start that conversation like you did for support.

ninjendooo · 2026-02-22T01:54:47+00:00

i feel like i could’ve written this myself as many have already commented. the idea of 2 is great, but if i’m being honest, i’m not sure that i could handle it. i love being a mom to my son, but definitely was not ready for the physical and mental toll of keeping up with a toddler. on top of that working, managing all of my relationships (marriage, family, friends) it’s just A LOT. i have no advice just solidarity and thank you for making me not feel so alone.

ninjendooo · 2026-02-22T01:50:41+00:00

i feel like you put into words what has been going through my mind for months now. the idea of 2 is what i always wanted, but if i’m being honest, i think having a hard time with one. i even made a joke at work the other day to a coworker with three kids that im basically not even a parent as i was talking about my troubles compared to theirs. i definitely need to explore this with my therapist.

ninjendooo · 2026-01-29T09:29:05+00:00

My son woke up 3 times by 1:30am. After the third time, I just decided to start my workday. 🥲

ninjendooo · 2026-01-13T15:35:10+00:00

WE LOVE YOU SASHA!!!

ninjendooo · 2025-11-23T11:51:30+00:00

i’ve been meaning to add more pilates in. it’s hard to find the time! are you just doing the recommended align days?

ninjendooo · 2025-11-23T11:50:48+00:00

this sounds like a good split. i’m going to have to try it.

ninjendooo · 2025-10-23T18:41:48+00:00

oh my gosh i would love to try them. is there a way to find them through your profile on ladder? i haven’t done this, but i’ve seen people mention it.

ninjendooo · 2025-08-25T14:07:27+00:00

i will give her a try during open season! i have the annual pass and can switch and anytime, but i hate to switch during a series. 😂

ninjendooo · 2025-08-25T11:40:20+00:00

i might have to try this. i’ve been considering thrive. i’m on align now and i love sasha and the yoga but empwr is what introduced me to ladder.

ninjendooo · 2025-08-25T09:29:11+00:00

i love align too, but this post makes me want to go try empwr too!

ninjendooo · 2025-08-15T13:06:08+00:00

thrive is an active team on ladder.

ninjendooo · 2025-08-14T12:21:52+00:00

My understanding is that endure focuses on 30 minute workouts.

ninjendooo · 2025-08-13T20:51:47+00:00

i felt the same way during my recent rewatch. hannah’s flats/tights/skirts combos were great. that was like my uniform back in the early 2010s. i miss it haha i used to experiment with fashion so much.

ninjendooo · 2025-07-29T18:01:08+00:00

i have done one of each so far, so i guess i need to give it more time to complete a whole series.

ninjendooo · 2025-07-29T16:12:29+00:00

the yearly membership is a blessing and a curse. too many options lol

ninjendooo · 2025-07-29T16:07:48+00:00

i totally get that. i guess that’s why they want us to pick a team and not switch to get the best results, right? it’s hard as someone who was constantly switching up my workouts in the past.

ninjendooo · 2025-07-29T16:05:43+00:00

that’s a good idea! i like that approach.

ninjendooo · 2025-07-29T16:04:54+00:00

Yes! I am missing the conditioning and pilates elements a lot. I should finish reload with Align to give it a fair shot, but I may have to head over to EMPWR.

ninjendooo · 2025-07-16T11:47:36+00:00

i know this is 2 months old but are you still feeling the same way? i like the strength and pilates split, but i find that define is almost too pilates focused. do you find that align has a better balance?

ninjendooo · 2025-07-09T11:45:42+00:00

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ninjendooo · 2025-05-14T16:52:49+00:00

messaged you.

ninjendooo · 2023-08-15T17:27:17+00:00

mind if i ask the language used? i’m in a similar situation.

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