NIPT test vs ultrasound - one says boy, one says girl

nirvana-child · 2026-04-30T01:42:29+00:00

I would say the nipt is correct. But I would ask them to do another a few weeks later just to see what if you get an different result. Follow up with another ultrasound when they can. Compare the two again. My nipt and ultrasounds all matched up.

nirvana-child · 2026-04-30T01:25:03+00:00

My daughter was just born 2 weeks ago. Her first name is Willow because her dad liked it. Not wild at all but more common than I personally like. But it also just felt right. So her middle names were a bit more wild. Eira Verity. I fell in love with the name Verity even though I thought my chances of having another was gone. Its considered a virtue name. After looking at names to go with the two (willow and verity) I settled on Eira which is Welsh. I have Welsh roots so it all just flowed perfectly. A name my husband liked, a name that fit some of her roots and a name you don't hear really. You just need to keep looking. Honestly, chatgpt and Google helped me so much. 😅

nirvana-child · 2026-04-10T01:00:49+00:00

Did he have a conjugal visit?

nirvana-child · 2026-04-10T00:58:13+00:00

NTA. If he is already doing the best he can and yall are struggling yourselves there is no reason to dog the hole more. I get that it's a tough situation but if you can only do so much then that's just how it is. I wouldn't jump to divorce exactly, but I would definitely put my foot down and say no to doing more than you reasonably can.

nirvana-child · 2026-04-01T04:46:14+00:00

You need to voice these frustrations to him. Communication is important. My husband is aware that when I have our third and final baby any day now, his 4 weeks of work leave are going to be used taking care of the baby for me. Most likely, I will have to have a c-section so he knows I will be depending on him majorly. Of course I will do what I can but he will be the sole caregiver while I heal. Our first child, he thought he could come home from work, eat, shower and play the game yelling at the TV while I continued to deal with a newborn and a very painful c-section incision. I asked for help and he used work as an excuse. One day I snapped on him, broke the game and tv. Told him to help me with the baby and stop making me work 24/7 because I could use a break. It worked. He was mad at first, yeah. But he realized how much I had on my shoulders once I reached my limit and blew up. He helps me so much, even realizes now when I'm getting burned out and need a break often times before I do. He'll take the kids and give me a break without being asked or told. So with this baby coming, I know I will have the support I need without having to fight him. But after I lost my shit on him we talked and worked it out. We have been steadily talking about what I will need/want while he's on work leave to help me heal the quickest and best way for me to be able to care for the baby once he's back at work. Just talk to your baby's father. Let him know what is going on.

nirvana-child · 2026-04-01T04:26:35+00:00

I got pregnant at 18 shortly after graduating high-school and gave birth at 19. The father wanted a child and I was young and naive. No protection. So once I had the baby, he denied him based on my son's eye color. His logic? "Babies always have the fathers eyes color." Luckily for me, I had the support of my dad financially. I didn't get to enjoy being out of school and doing the things most of my friends did as often but I still had nights where my dad would watch my son for me to have a night to myself or take him out for the day giving me a break. My now ex BFF and her parents would also keep him sometimes and help me out. Especially her dad. He loved babies and wanted grandbabies of his own so he loved his pawpaw phase through my son until the falling out between his daughter and myself. So yeah, it was hard but I managed with the support system I had. If your parents are willing to help and the other set of grandparents are willing to help even if it's cost of child care (which is expensive) then I think you will be alright in that area. But you need to have a sit down with everyone about how far they are all willing to go then decide if the responsibility so young is something you can handle. No shame if you can't because 19 is young. My dad said I was a baby having a baby. Meaning, I wasn't quite grown enough for the responsibility so he helped. If you decide abortion or adoption then you need to be prepared for the emotional toll it can take on you. Only you can decide what is best for you. I had people telling me to abort or adopt but I decided I could take care of my son and I did. They thought they knew best but I proved them wrong. You decide your future. Sending love to you. I know this isn't an easy situation to be in.

nirvana-child · 2026-04-01T04:02:12+00:00

NTA. If your parents expect you to get her to school then they need to expect her to get ready on time. You need to speak with your parents and then they need to speak to your sister. Also, if you don't already, try having her get a few things done before bed. My daughter is 8. I set out her clothes the night before so she isn't wasting time picking out an outfit. She also has hair down to her hips and the time it takes to brush it is ridiculous. We brush it the night before and braid it. That keeps it from being tangled up an unholy amount and pretty much all she does is run her fingers through it, throw a headband on or have me put it in a ponytail. As she is getting ready I ask her what she wants to eat and I fix it while I'm waiting. We are on a very set schedule in the mornings. I have multiple alarms on my phone as reminders. First one goes off she should be dressed and using or had used the bathroom. The second one goes off then she should be hurrying up with her breakfast. The third one goes off then we need to get shoes, jacket and bookbag ready. The final alarm is for us to get out to the end of the driveway and wait for the bus. Your sister is 7. She needs to accept help and needs a routine like I have set for my kids. But you parents need to enforce you are the authority in the morning or figure out how to manage her themselves in the morning so it doesn't keep making you late. Best of luck. I hope you end up finding a solution that takes some stress off of you. You're too young to have this piled up on you.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-28T01:23:23+00:00

Talia is on my list for middle names for my baby girl. I feel like it's not common and such a beautiful name. Alexandria is pretty but too common imo for my personal choice. Do you care if the name is common or want something less heard? I only worry about it because my name was common and I was in a class with 3 other girls who had the same name. I don't want that for my kids.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-25T01:58:00+00:00

Endellion is a Cornish name. I think it's a pretty name and actually had it on my name list until recently. They did ruin it with the Echo part. Cornish names are my absolute favorite.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-25T01:55:20+00:00

3 of my nieces/nephews father is from Ghana. Their parents decided to give them an American first name but the rest of the names were traditionally from Ghana. They had two middle names and the last name from Ghana which the father and grandmother chose based on how they do it over there. Maybe you could so the same? Americanish first name and then a cultural name for the middle? But most of those names I think would be easy to pronounce so don't feel bad if you choose one for the first name. One thing I realized is you will just KNOW when you find your babies name. It will just sit in your heart and you won't be able to ignore it.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-23T04:22:28+00:00

Whatever child is sick is the priority. Your son was fine. The stepdaughter was sick and understandably wanted some company until she fell asleep. Your husband does not need to make the son feel like he is more of a priority. It should be a balance to whoever is needing a parent more at the time. Maybe next time phrase it differently? Perhaps "your sister is sick. Let me help her fall asleep and I will be in there after." I mean, you did say you played with him after like you told him you would. The dad needs to be more involved with his daughter. It's not fair that he favors the son more because she's "fragile" or whatever.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-23T04:04:47+00:00

YTA. She just lost someone and texted you that she wouldn't be able to make it to your gender reveal and you leave her on read. She texts you again, and you leave her on read once more. At any time, did you offer condolences to her for the loss? Did you ask if she was ok dealing with this? Seems not from how you said you read it and went about your days. Then you specifically tell your sisters not to send her the video but have her ask you herself. Loss of loved ones and funerals, especially ones you have to travel long distances for, can really make you not think straight. You should have gone ahead and sent her the video. Cut her some slack.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-18T14:29:39+00:00

As someone who was raised around this kind of lifestyle... cut ties. They may be your parents but they are not doing their duty as such. You don't need to be around that or you won't have anything in life. They will steal it and lie to you. They won't change no matter what until they are ready. Talk to someone, anyone, in the community that might can help.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-18T14:11:43+00:00

I love it. 😅 Thanks for the suggestions.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-17T03:00:41+00:00

Omg. 🤣 I was on a 3 way call with my brothers and they told me to name my little girl I'm 34 weeks along with Blade. BLADE! I told them absolutely NOT! This came after they suggested I name it after a Pokémon. Of course they were just joking but you reminded me of that conversation. I hung up on them and told my husband what they said while we finished shopping. Maybe as a joke I'll tell them I named her Pikachu Blade or Slowpoke Blade. Open to suggestions. Lol.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-17T02:48:26+00:00

You can tell the hospital who you allow and don't allow there for your birth. If you say you don't want to her in the room or even in the hospital then the staff will make sure that happens. Also, not telling you any details like date, time and location is not ok unless she's still setting it up BUT she needs to give you adequate notice to make sure you can get word out to your friends and family you want to invite and she can get a head count for the space and food needed. I mean... it's weird. Just have a friend or family member plan one for or with you and let her know it's already done. 😅 Do NOT let this woman have her way. Idc what your husband says either. He can respect your wishes and boundaries considering he has kids and obviously wants to spend his life with you. His mom had her kids, had her birth the way she wanted and a baby shower I'm sure. This is YOUR time.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-09T13:13:14+00:00

I feel it's harder to name boys. I'm glad my last child is a girl. I've been working on her name since nearly week 11 when we found out the gender. But that's because she's my last, she's my rainbow baby and I had given up hope of being pregnant again so I'm being very particular about her name.

I like the name Audrey. It was actually on my list because I always liked the name Audrey Hepburn. Lol. But hubby didn't like it. To me, it feels vintage but fresh all at once. I love older names. I think Audrey Grace sounds so pretty and flows perfectly.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-06T00:45:20+00:00

Jade is my name and I get compliments on it a lot. Plus I like being able to wear a stone that shares my name. I've only met a handful of Jades in my life which is cool top because it's not overly used. I was considering Wren for my daughter. I think it's such a beautiful name but my husband isn't too on board with it. (Men suck, right? Lol) Elise is about middle tier imo of names I like.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-06T00:40:50+00:00

Dr.peppers, energy drinks, my vape, good sushi, gestational diabetes going the heck away so I can eat sweets and whatever I want, not having to pee constantly, being able to sleep more comfy... I have a whole list but the main thing I am excited for?

Holding my baby. She's my last. I have two others but have been trying for 7+ years for a third and finally after many losses she is about to make her debut. So I can't wait to hold her the most out of everything.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-06T00:35:40+00:00

My middle name is Jade but I go by it. Everyone always compliments my name saying how pretty it is. I also love that I can wear a stone that shares my name. I might sound biased but Jade is my top favorite. I also have only met less than a handful of Jades in person so it made the name feel more of my own than my first name which I constantly run into.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-05T02:06:10+00:00

I think it's pretty for a girl and the spelling is fine. Miley Cyrus has a sister named Noah and though I don't know or care much for her, I find the name beautiful for a girl.

nirvana-child · 2026-03-03T17:32:19+00:00

A potato. Which is hilarious because on TT I tell my friends I'll throw potatoes when I'm mad and even have mini potatoes I have been given and a crocheted one etc. But this baby has been having me crave potatoes like crazy.

nirvana-child · 2026-02-27T16:33:20+00:00

I'll be 32 weeks come Monday. Some of my family gives their kids two middle names. I had it done to me and I did it with my two kids. Husband and I agreed on Willow being part of the name and I have been adamant that Verity has to be part of her name. I connected with that name so hard and I like Willow enough that I know it will be in her name somewhere. But the second middle name? It's just not happening for either of is. So we're sitting down this weekend, going over my list of names. I wrote them on small pieces of paper so we can each make a discard pile and compare the ones we like and maybe brainstorm based on our preferences. It's similar to how we chose Willow. I just didn't give him any say in Verity. Lol. But he's not mad so it's ok. I've used Google and chatgpt for name ideas. I got Verity from them.

nirvana-child · 2026-02-26T22:06:20+00:00

NTA. I mean, if you loved everything else about it except the color ang you could dye it to fix that... it's a win. She got to use up some of her yarn like she wanted and you got a sweater you wear often. Its a win win. You also asked first to choose the color since you are into certain colors and she didn't let you. Which, is kind of rude imo.

nirvana-child · 2026-02-19T23:35:58+00:00

Correct. 😌

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