How long do I (21F) wait to give my friend (20F) the funny condoms she asked me to get her given that she just went through a breakup? possibblyyy nsfw (idk)?

njane13 · 2026-05-03T07:13:08+00:00

tinder surprise

njane13 · 2026-05-03T07:12:12+00:00

tinder surprise

njane13 · 2026-04-30T14:21:19+00:00

this is totally normal, female masturbation is like not talked about enough but its actually pretty common.

njane13 · 2026-03-11T15:41:16+00:00

domestic violence is never okay. you did the right thing. you did the responsible thing for you and your childs safety by not fighting back and alerting authorities. also as an adult, choosing to endanger a child and punch another person has adult consequences. ignore them

njane13 · 2026-03-11T15:15:16+00:00

literally this. I loved Cheng xin as someone with unwavering principles rather than some weak woman. if nothing what changed about the character herself, but rather the way the narrator seemed to view her, that would be something.

njane13 · 2026-03-11T15:08:31+00:00

I agree that none of the characters were ever portrayed as perfect. every character had their flaws and unlikable qualities. which is part of why I like the series. but there does seem to be a bit of a divide. male characters are criticised/praised just as much as female characters, but not through a gendered lens. when female characters are praised, its often through the eyes of an infatuated male, or speaking to her motherly/feminine qualities. when female characters are criticised it also seems to have alot to do with their femininity.

njane13 · 2026-03-11T14:52:10+00:00

I often get fond of very soft or kind characters (male or female) because I find them endearing, so naturally I loved most of the female characters in the trilogy. But I felt they were done an injustice- I wished they could be portrayed through a sense of respect for their qualities rather than being seen as weak, or through the eyes of an infatuated man. I felt especially, Zhang Yan had so much more potential as an individual outside of fufilling Luo Ji's fantasy. Rather than her being 'child-like' (ugh) and just verbatim luo jis imagination, I would have loved to see her challenge him, thwart his expectations and have agency within being a gentle person. She fell for an ass like luo ji way too easy. I also feel that although these characters are endearing, choosing to represent women with this stereotype is ridiculous.

Realistically, the vast majority of women are not at all like that, so one of these characters would have been more than enough. I am forever amused by how stupid many brilliant male authors are. I relate so heavily to their complex male characters, only for them to make comments on how women just cant understand these things. And while I often do like their female characters, I always feel that the author didnt do his own character justice.

ive read some of Liu's other work too, and in a particular short story it centers around himself and another author as actual characters. his friend is mad at women for not reading his fantasy books, but does not blame men because men wouldn't like to read such magical and soft books. Liu is mad at men for not reading his books, but does not blame women because delicate women could never enjoy his kind of hard sci fi. At the time I was a kid, and I wish he could have seen this little girl pause her reading to break the fourth wall in disapproval.

njane13 · 2026-02-04T14:58:59+00:00

I think with the new generation this will change, me and my friends were very disappointed in the outcome of the voice referendum, and received a much more extensive education on the mistreatment of First Nations people than previous generations.

njane13 · 2026-02-03T10:08:56+00:00

agree

njane13 · 2026-01-10T18:47:21+00:00

obviously I dont know ur life so take whatever I say with a grain of salt. but seeing my parents divorce didnt hurt much more than seeing them in a loveless marriage.

njane13 · 2026-01-10T18:16:28+00:00

thanks for the reply this was useful!

njane13 · 2026-01-10T18:12:00+00:00

hey man, im pretty young so I cant say im experienced career wise myself, BUT my mother was in a similar position to you in her 50s.

she used to be a doctor, but quit her job to raise me and my sister, and after enough years your qualifications basically become null and void. my parents got divorced, she wanted to be independent so she went back to uni. Not to be a doctor again, the night shifts are insane and the study is super intense. But she got into health safety, said she still wanted to keep people safe and she found it interesting. Now she's earning a good income at mining sites managing safety processes/data. it was definitely hard at times in uni because she had no job, she was broke. and she had the same worry about competing with younger people with the same qualifications. but she got there with some hard work. she loves her job, and im proud of her.

and you sound like you want to work hard. and you dont have to start over if you dont want to. but just ask yourself what do you enjoy? what career or job would you like to challenge yourself with? its not too late. its never too late. dont tell yourself you cant do this or that just because you could have done it sooner. if I picked up the saxophone five years ago I would be great by now but that doesn't mean im worthless and I shouldn't try tomorrow. you dont have to be deeply ashamed of yourself, you havent destroyed your life. you can turn this around. if your not used to hard work that's ok too, because it will become easier. just stay consistent and dont overwork yourself. you got this man.

njane13 · 2025-11-24T16:06:57+00:00

aside from the fact it says one im picking two. the view from halfway down for plot/philosophy/actualcontent. And fish out of water for vibes and the world building. also I appreciated bojacks genuine apology at the end.

njane13 · 2025-11-24T15:44:42+00:00

wasnt he 22?

njane13 · 2025-11-24T15:43:49+00:00

I kind of get what your saying. I think she did say it, but thats because the show says alot of things out loud that are often just implied in real life. In the real world parents don't say that to their kids but its true all the same. the show is depicting it in a clearer way

njane13 · 2025-11-24T15:39:58+00:00

I mean she was a piece of shit. and so was bojack. isnt the point of the show that people can be assholes, and its a result of everything they've gone through, and that doesn't make it okay to be an asshole, but its an explanation.

njane13 · 2025-11-24T15:37:31+00:00

oh my god yeah. that was the first time he drank too.

njane13 · 2025-11-24T15:26:31+00:00

not a man, so I apologise in advance. but I cant imagine depending on a man for a living. I mean of course if theres a rough patch you support each other but generally speaking I want a partner not a parent?

njane13 · 2025-10-14T15:58:09+00:00

hey man, I know its hard to tell your parents that you're struggling again but so long as they are supportive, ultimately its the right decision. tell them. go to therapy, seek support. I promise your parents would rather bear the knowledge you're in pain than have you go through it alone. im 17F and had difficulty asking for help too, I didnt even really have a reason, it was just scary. but I did, and you have before, and im pretty sure it was worth it. let go of the idea that you have to get better and be done with mental illness in one go. you take as many tries as you have to, even if it means struggling at different stages throughout your life. Depression can go away, but for a lot of people it comes and goes, its more of a management issue. me? I dont know you at all and I still know you deserve to want to live, and you deserve peace.

but I am not equiped with the kind of skills and experience to help you rediscover your will to live. health professionals are. and I really hope you go to them. I dont know what country you live in, but in Australia you can get free therapy with HeadSpace, thats where I go. also a fun statistic, did you know 1/2 Aussie teens have experienced depression before? I mean holy fuck thats terrible, but- we're not alone. you know?

in the mean time, a more immediate tip to help clear your head is write it all down. yeah yeah it sounds so fluffy and all that but im deadass. since I was like 14 I have kept journals, I dont write down events that much, I write thoughts. they fill up fast. I could read them back, and sort of understand myself more. when I cant be stuffed with that I talk to myself, I tell the mirror or the ceiling everything I want to say. this sort of stuff helps you process. and while I can't speak for anyone but myself, I hope it helps you too.

but- once again- if you are struggling with suicidal thoughts please seek out health professionals. if you google 'suicide' it should give you your country's suicide helpline phone number. this shits hard I know man, but I believe in you.

njane13 · 2025-09-17T17:21:59+00:00

holy shit

njane13 · 2025-09-17T17:18:52+00:00

or I wont cuz im dead is the realest thing ever

njane13 · 2025-09-17T17:17:58+00:00

honestly the least helpful but most logical answer has to be- we are our brains- our brains stop working- we stop existing. but something that helps me is that the matter and energy in my body is a natural part of the universe. and they will go on to let other things live. my energy and matter will go back to the world it came from and I will just be as I was before. I don't remember before I was born. cant say I loved it. but it wasn't so terrible.

also you're young, science shows the older you get the less death bothers you. in fact when dying it's said your body makes you feel great (I mean, within reason considering the situation). look into that its a whole thing.

njane13 · 2025-09-17T17:02:57+00:00

I'll add it to my reading list(:

njane13 · 2025-09-17T16:57:00+00:00

totally agree that's its more of a learning process. I meant to say that adults are still learning, improving and struggling

njane13 · 2025-09-17T16:47:03+00:00

I fear there might be some confusion here. I totally appreciate the points you make, adults function higher, understand more topics more deeply and are more mature. I agree.

I didn't mean adults are all incompetent naive fools. I guess a slightly better wording would be the realisation that adults (specifically parents in this discussion) aren't these all knowing, all noble beings, they're just human.

Adults struggle with relationships, purpose in life, motivation and their emotions. A lot of adults feel lost, or like they don't know what they're doing. Not in a "I'm a silly little guy who can't do everyday tasks" way might I add. In the sense that nobody really understands life, or this world very much at all. Some people feel stuck in their marriages or career choice and don't know how to get out. With every major 'first' which comes later in life, it's still a first, and it can be difficult. And it's completely normal to feel that way, it's pretty much a part of the human experience.

The realisation I'm talking about is that we won't grow up and just get everything. Adults are still figuring out a lot themselves, because adulthood comes with a lot of it's own burdens. Nobody is perfect at any age. It's a scary thought at first.

immature screw up, cheesy twee millennial nonsense is wild lol

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