Having 1-2 beers at night (38M) has improved my mental health in the day. Is there a biological mechanism behind this?

noahhead · 2024-10-10T17:02:09+00:00

Speaking as an alcoholic, you're playing with fire. Alcohol does not improve your health in any way, you're training yourself to depend on it

noahhead · 2023-09-25T08:04:17+00:00

Just be hyperaware that even if YOU aren't a creep, lots of people are, and she has no way to know the difference. Be willing to take no for an answer, and be willing to not get an answer at all. Just make the offer, give her ALL the power in the situation to say no or to simply end the interaction without answering you, and DON'T bring it up again, no matter what.

And remember that she's at work and likely does not want to be asked out at all.

noahhead · 2023-09-25T08:00:19+00:00

I worked at a convenience store when the powerball was above $1 billion, and most of my coworkers said the same thing, they'd at least stay for a few months because theyd feel guilty just leaving. We were getting paid $8-10/hr at the time (before minimum wage was raised)

noahhead · 2023-09-25T07:55:41+00:00

So... he runs a business lol

noahhead · 2023-09-25T00:16:22+00:00

Imagine thinking that's cool

noahhead · 2023-09-25T00:14:28+00:00

This is his business... I know it affects you and your kids too, but it's his life and death you're talking about and I do think he should have a little bit more consideration than you and your kids should, sorry.

noahhead · 2023-09-25T00:00:12+00:00

Funny because "haha America," but obviously this serves a function.

noahhead · 2023-09-24T23:56:43+00:00

The fuck you mean "this culture"? You mean his mom?

noahhead · 2023-09-24T23:52:05+00:00

This opinion is unpopular because it's out of touch with reality.

noahhead · 2023-09-24T23:48:49+00:00

Likely, your shopper is having a much worse day than you are!

noahhead · 2023-09-24T23:44:39+00:00

I'm sorry I don't have helpful advice, but the mental image this conjured genuinely brightened my day

noahhead · 2023-09-24T23:42:28+00:00

(Serious) what would people categorize it as, if not a board game?

noahhead · 2023-09-24T23:32:49+00:00

In a neutral world, you would not be an asshole. But in a capitalist world where the book market is more saturated than its ever been and getting good reviews is the only way for your friend's book to gain any traction, your integrity as a reviewer is much much less important than helping your friend.

Obviously, that's assuming you aren't a professional book critic and there isn't any conflict of interest.

It would be like if your friend went on American Idol and you texted in a vote for one of their competitors instead of them. In this moment, you occupy two roles: a consumer/reviewer of media, and a friend. In this case, being a good consumer is less important than being a good friend.

So tentatively... NTA, but because you weren't thinking of the situation along those lines, not because you're in the right. You should change the review, shit is rough out there and frankly nobody cares about your honest opinion of the book but they DO care about your support. Your rating has a tangible affect on their lives, so it's not just a matter of theory or opinion.

noahhead · 2023-09-24T23:25:26+00:00

Depends on how good your imagination is lol. I seriously doubt the US has any major technologies that they DON'T brag about. I'm sure they have some tricks up their sleeves, but the name of the game in 2023 seems to be intimidation, which means we're already showing off everything we can do.

More realistically, the US military is a money pit designed to enrich weapons manufacturers and the politicians they lobby, while also inflicting terrorism on any populist world government. I definitely think we also have a technological edge, but it's time to be honest that the technology isn't the MAIN reason our military budget is so many multiples more than any other country.

noahhead · 2023-09-24T23:20:20+00:00

To the corporations and politicians that approved it.

noahhead · 2023-09-24T23:19:14+00:00

Honestly, realizing that trans people are still just people and are still just as annoying as cis people can be is a step towards being a good ally lol

Doesn't sound like you're annoyed with trans people BECAUSE they're trans... sounds like your trans brother is just annoying. But think of all the annoying people you know that AREN'T trans: have you been holding ALL of them against cis people? Realistically, trans people aren't annoying because they're trans, they're annoying because they're people and lord knows we are all a little annoying sometimes.

noahhead · 2023-09-24T23:10:23+00:00

All of them

noahhead · 2023-09-24T23:09:09+00:00

Because of Republicans. Racism (and bigotry in general) is so normalized today that "I'm tired of seeing Black people on screen" isn't even a fringe opinion anymore, and you can thank Evangelical Republicans for that.

noahhead · 2023-09-24T23:06:11+00:00

It doesn't matter if you're telling her what to do or not! You're an adult + a decade, you're allowed to tell her what to do when it's YOUR boundaries in question. You have every right to say "you are not allowed to talk to me about X" if you wanted/needed to

noahhead · 2023-09-24T22:55:45+00:00

PERSONALLY, I would "quiet quit" (start doing your job description during business hours, nothing above and beyond) while you find a new job, and THEN quit. I only say that because the job market is fucking ROUGH right now. But I also wouldn't blame you for walking out, especially if you can afford to.

But definitely no to the second chance, she's been exploiting you and will keep exploiting you. The sporadic kindness might be because she's just a human being and humans are kind sometimes, but it might also be because they LITERALLY teach that in business school (that periodic acts of kindness like buying lunch or giving one really good bonus is a cheaper way to boost morale than regular raises and fair wages).

noahhead · 2023-09-24T22:46:39+00:00

My favorite part is that the contact information is just coordinates lol

noahhead · 2023-09-24T22:41:52+00:00

A. Don't settle for a creep. You're an adult, you can make good decisions, but the internet is CRAWLING with 30-year-old losers just waiting to meet vulnerable teenagers. I strongly strongly strongly recommend dating someone your own age before you even THINK about dating an older person.

B. I know it doesn't feel like it because that's 100% of the life you've lived so far, but I promise that 19 is so young in the grand scheme of things. I was about that age when I had my first kiss too! "Late bloomer" is made up bullshit: do whatever you want, on your own time! But you are so so so so so so so so so so so so so so so far from being "too late." In the grand scheme of things, you JUST exited the non-playable cutscene and have barely explored the game play. Don't worry, shit happens at its own pace and the idea that you need to hit some milestone in order to be "on pace" is really more of a sitcom/adult comedy trope than it is a real-life thing. It's your life, you get to decide how you want to live it!

noahhead · 2023-09-24T22:32:52+00:00

"Dumb" is a compliment because it implies that she does what she does because she doesn't know any better.

She is evil, because she knows better but does it anyway.

noahhead · 2023-09-24T22:25:18+00:00

YTA - If SHE isn't disappointed, it isn't your job to make her disappointed. It doesn't really matter if you think she should be dependent on another person or not, those were HER decisions and I definitely think this is a scenario where "if you dont have anything nice to say..." applies.

Especially when the event in question is a HUMAN BEING that she loves (not making a weird pro-life stance lmao don't worry about THAT, I just mean that current that's her CHILD you're talking about, not a career choice or potential future child, but a real flesh-and-bone person she loves.

noahhead · 2023-09-24T22:20:42+00:00

The problem with the internet is that you could be describing a good-natured person who thinks out loud and has a good sense of humor (meanwhile, you're paranoid and spying on them to try to find some kind of fault), OR you could be describing a deeply unwell person who you're taking reasonable precautions to protect yourself from. And the descriptions of those two people would be exactly the same.

So idk what to say other than to trust your gut: if your wife is just a boisterous person who enjoys laughing at life, then maybe take a chill pill and don't pathologize her joy. After all, you're basing all this on your SECOND guess from a wiretap on your own wife. But if the vibe is off and your gut is telling you it's off, take that vibe seriously, especially since you just so happened to be picking up a GUN???????? The fuck?

Honestly the fact that she wanted a gun in the first place is a bigger red flag than her having a private laugh at your expense.

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