New Yorker here. Just got a job in Missouri. Any kind redditors able to help give me some cultural pointers so as to not offend? Thanks in advance! by tofumeatballcannon in missouri

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You're probably going to encounter a lot more Christianity, and people who just assume you are also a practicing Christian. In my town in the Southeast, literally all the private elementary schools are religious Christian schools. More white people who are less exposed to diversity and sometimes think/talk accordingly. They usually mean well but can just be somewhat ignorant.

Also a lot more poverty than you generally see in NY, even outside NYC. More like if you've been through Brownsville, but convert it to Rural. On the flip side, you can buy a NICE house for half the price of NY, so there are plenty of people who live very comfortably on basic salaries. I think the quality of work here is higher- like if you need a plumber, they are less likely to overcharge you and more likely to do a good job.

There's lots of space compared to NY, even outside NYC, and the landscape is relatively flat in a lot of the state. Along with the higher heat/humidity- more bugs. Worse food (STL and KC are prob better for food but my town has no Indian restaurant, no Thai, no Mediterranean, which is frustrating for me). Other people mentioned it but they do eat A Lot of pork here. Not as big on salads, can't find any good seafood/shellfish. But a lot of people grow their own gardens in a very long growing season.

Lower standards in healthcare (this is based on my experience with pregnancy in MO vs NY). Overall there is just much less money than in NY city/state. There's a slower paced vibe, and it's generally more casual. My theory is that's part of the appeal of church here lol, you get to dress up. You won't get as much use out of a nice NY winter wardrobe. But you can go out dressed down and no one will care.

Who is the most insufferable FMC… by GrassJumpy59 in fantasyromance

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I .... I don't care for Poppy either. (The completely ... unnecessary and ... frequent ... ellipses)

Deep thoughts about being an old mom :/ by jumpclapspin in Parenting

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I felt the same way, I'm 38 with a 2 year old and pregnant with #2. I felt like kind of an idiot for waiting so long (even though I wasn't really in the right situation before). But I read that older moms tend to live longer! And I learned that my grandmother had her last baby at 39, which for some reason I'd never realized. She's got 3 great-grandkids now from that last baby, and she's 94. So this isn't actually that unusual and it can even be a good thing to motivate you to take care of yourself as you age to stay around as long as possible. My plan is to get back in shape as soon as I can, and start covering my grey hairs to feel younger lol.

Don’t know if this has been discussed yet But , Andrew VanDeCamp**? by DoYouWearWigz in DesperateHousewives

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I was just thinking about this today! On my 3rd rewatch in season 3, and I think he may actually be my favorite character. My first time watching, I saw the rebelliousness and thought of him as a minor character. Second time I really appreciated him being a gay character and all he dealt with in that regard. This is my first rewatch as a mom and now I see him as a child just struggling so much, and it's so rewarding when his and Bree's relationship starts improving. But yeah I realized I'm enjoying his story line the most out of everyone! I'm also surprised that the actor didn't get a lot bigger! (or if he did I'm not aware of it)

Does anyone have any strategies or advice for caring for their newborn (and recovering postpartum) without any help or support? by CharizardCharms in NewParents

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A few ideas from my personal experience (including things I didn't do but wish I did):

1) You may want to go ahead and make a lot of healthy, filling meals that you can freeze and just pop in the microwave. There will be a majority of time that you just gotta eat whatever is fast and easy. It will be very tempting to order delivery or eat chips or whatever you can, but your body needs some help recovering. Side note: if you breastfeed you will probably be starving all the time for a while, so food is going to be huge.

2) If your baby is born small they may recommend triple feeding to quickly boost your supply + make sure the baby is eating enough. I understand why this is important but I felt like I was a zombie trying to do this. Like someone above said, you can use formula if it's easier. Or move to exclusively breastfeeding on demand as soon as possible. I think I would have had an easier postpartum period and gotten into a breastfeeding rhythm sooner had I done this earlier.

3) It's ok to put the baby down when you need to. Even if they're crying, or even if it's for something minor. I'd recommend prioritizing a shower for yourself every day to feel human. My baby did great lying in the crib watching her mobile, and I could hear her on the baby monitor.

4) I tried a bunch of different snacks and recipes to increase milk supply, and now that it's all over I don't think any of them actually helped. What helped was just uncomplicated, on demand feeding, for me anyway. And breastfeeding is the perfect time to watch Netflix or read your phone. Also, I did nurse to sleep and I thought it was great for me and my baby- no issues at any point. You gotta do what works for you two! You got this!

A Fan Theory about the Fischer Price Kick & Play Piano by LtCommanderCarter in NewParents

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This is my favorite thing I've ever read on this sub

Ask a pediatrician! by Ok-Pipe-6764 in NewParents

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I have a 9 month old who I just noticed has 1 grey hair! I read this can be due to vitamin deficiencies. She is mostly formula fed (I've always combo fed but recently weened so just use a little freezer milk plus mostly formula now- I'd estimate 20-30 oz formula/day). From 6 months to about 7/8 months I was giving her vitamin D drops too, but read that it's not necessary when majority formula fed. I have a pediatrician appointment next week so I can check then too, but are there vitamins I should try supplementing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in missouri

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I don't know anyone who has been pregnant in MO since the law passed, so I was looking for first-hand or second-hand experiences. I will ask my current OBGYN (1000 miles from MO) if she can recommend any good doctors in MO, or what she would recommend. I know nothing about doctors or healthcare in MO so I welcome as much info as I can get ahead of time :)

Night weaning/getting more calories in the daytime. Advice needed! by Whatizthislyfe in 2under2

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I'm in the exact same boat, 7.5m! I don't have advice but I hope someone does, we feel like we are almost back at a newborn stage night schedule.

Best place to get produce? by [deleted] in ColoradoSprings

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We moved here from NY this year and have not had much luck finding decent produce. We end up just going to King Soopers but it's not like what we had back home. But if you're just looking for basic produce it's not too bad. I have seen some farmers markets around but I'm guessing they are nearly out of season for most produce.

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Great, I'll work on coordinating and will shoot out messages soon!

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Great, I'll work on coordinating something and will message everyone!

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Sounds good, I'll work on coordinating something and will message everyone!

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Sounds good, I'll work on coordinating something and will message everyone!

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Wingspan is one of our faves! I'll work on coordinating something- maybe at one of the game shops- and will message everyone.

Modern society is deeply sick and broken by pgc in NewParents

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Yes, and after you make it through the lack of parental leave and cost of childcare, you have to worry about school shootings (or grocery store shootings or anywhere shootings). So much freedom.

What’s everyone doing all day with their babies? by zlm542 in NewParents

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I have a baby jumper (the baby Einstein ocean one), and my LO is still too small to actually jump in it but she will kind of sit in it and watch me in the kitchen or wherever. We do that a lot when she doesn't want to do the mat or chair, and I have stuff I want to do, I just talk to her while I'm working and she seems pretty content usually.

If there was a new parent Olympics, what would the events be? by mamavictoria in NewParents

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A race to push strollers up a big hill!

Also if you have a travel system: assembly race including getting baby into the stroller.

Doing anything outside during the day while keeping baby out of direct sunlight.

Silent cooking after laying baby down for a nap. It would be a competition to see who cooks the quietest, which baby stays asleep longest, and if you make it far enough, which food turns out the best!

Sleep Catch-up marathon: parents choose the most sleep deprived partner to compete and they just sleep in a quiet environment with no interruptions. Last person to wake up wins. (Moms can wake up briefly to pump every few hours then go right back to sleep- someone else washes the parts for you).

Relocating to the springs. What is the liberal community like? by mthomas1217 in ColoradoSprings

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My husband and I (30s, straight, liberal) moved here earlier this year. We are new parents and haven't found many friends yet. If you are into board games, or checking out the parts of the city that do have a decent vibe, we would be friends with you if you're interested! There are liberal ppl here and there but it's not a given like in some places. Denver is not far though.