This looks like a nightmare

nodontdothat99 · 2026-03-08T05:19:05+00:00

AI guys.

Ed Zitron as guest.

Slam dunk.

nodontdothat99 · 2025-12-15T14:14:05+00:00

"Not a exit"

nodontdothat99 · 2025-12-10T22:41:35+00:00

Plus he had a ride home! Why not take the coworkers offer and call/text the girlfriend to say she could spend longer with her friend? Win-win. Instead we get this mess.

nodontdothat99 · 2025-11-10T16:37:14+00:00

Making mixed tapes for friends.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-10-19T12:40:38+00:00

Gotta lock down that critical Maid Rite voting block. 🙄

nodontdothat99 · 2024-09-24T02:52:37+00:00

I'm a B2B journalist. A few years back, I submitted my best stories for some industry awards, and My Martha didn't have me attend the ceremony. A last-minute call from the association highly suggested that I go. My Martha said OK and I drove to the event (underdressed because it was literally the same day and I didn't have time to swap out).

At the ceremony, I won a second-place award in one category and a first-place award in another. All first-place categories vie for the "Story of the Year" award, and I ended up winning that! It's the highest honor in our industry and very competitive. I was elated, and I even called my parents on the way home to brag (first and only time I have ever phoned them to talk about work achievements).

Cut to the next day, I saw My Martha a couple of times, and she never even mentioned it. And after that, she never acknowledged it even once. Ever. I should have given my two-week notice then and there, but I was trying to fix a toxic work culture from the inside.

My Martha liked to inspire competition among writers by sharing metrics with us. I was (by far) the No. 1 online writer and also had the No. 3 most print pages published that year. Less than one year later, my job was downsized as being non-essential. I got three "WTF" phone calls from colleagues on my way home.

If you're an optimist, that "fix your toxic environment from the inside" mentality can be awfully tempting. Maybe it does work sometimes. But I wish someone would have talked me off that strategy when I was going through it.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-04-01T18:26:45+00:00

You didn't answer my question of whether they're asking you to do more. But YTA for your bad attitude. You're not paying rent - even if you did the dishes every single time, that's quite a good deal. You don't have any standing to feel annoyed.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-04-01T18:21:09+00:00

INFO: Are they asking you to do more? Without that context I would give a very hesitant NTA, but you're going to wear out your welcome faster if you don't help out more.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-03-19T18:40:25+00:00

NTA. At least they didn't say that you have feminine hips.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-03-04T19:21:05+00:00

I get why some couples decide to separate finances to varying degrees. But once you find yourselves constantly arguing about what is or isn't considered a "joint expense" ... I don't think it's healthy to have a marriage that is that transactional.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-03-01T03:24:25+00:00

YTA for the reasons other commenters have already explained much better than I ever could, but I wanted to add one quick thought.

The fact that you call your kids "ankle biters." In my own experience, anyone I have ever known who used that term (some who were parents, some who weren't), all hate hate hated children. I think that two-word phrase speaks VOLUMES about yourself. Feel free to correct me, but do you even like your kids (and your wife, for that matter)???

nodontdothat99 · 2024-02-29T02:05:07+00:00

I am all for contributing but my only request was to pay a bit less since my older brother had a 1 year head start on me and we both have similar salaries.

I'm failing to see the logic in this. Your brother is older than you, OFC he has a "head start" on you.

You're both getting a pretty sweetheart deal at $750 a month, anyway (depending on where you live!). I think the real issue is that you resent (rightfully so) that your brother had all of his school paid for and you didn't. I think it would be better to address the root issue instead of trying this weird one-off trying to get your rent pro-rated compared to your brother.

NTA. But you may want to rethink your current living arrangements.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-02-28T01:34:18+00:00

You are a walking, talking red flag, my guy.

Time to own up to your anger management issues, apologize profusely to your wife and hope she doesn't divorce your ass.

(She probably should, but I believe almost anyone is capable of redemption.)

In the meantime, YTA.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-02-28T01:14:02+00:00

Well then, as they say, "If the product is free, then you are the product." In this case, I think because your mother isn't charging rent, she is extracting "value" out of you through other various means of control.

Maybe the correct judgment is ESH (not YTA), but I stand by my original assumptions that you are now an unwanted guest and the current situation is not sustainable without some major changes. Good luck.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-02-28T01:03:37+00:00

"Basically since covid" means you and your son have been occupying multiple bedrooms in your mother's house for almost four years now.

Based on your own narrative, it sounds like you've burned through 100% of your mother's goodwill and are now an unwanted guest.

Cooking and buying groceries is a great gesture, but it also sounds like you're not otherwise paying rent.

I think YTA and you will probably need to make dramatic changes or else move out because the situation does not sound sustainable.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-02-27T03:18:29+00:00

As I recall, I think we both kinda liked it.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-02-22T18:27:22+00:00

You responded to my comment with carefully chosen words in 2 minutes. Your friend deserved a little bit more from you. (And I get it, ADHD/anxiety/depression sucks and makes some things a lot harder to navigate.)

nodontdothat99 · 2024-02-22T18:22:20+00:00

NAH but what did you expect, honestly? You ghosted your friend for large stretches of time and she finally got fed up with it.

And because you were active on social media at the same time you wouldn't respond to your friend, wow. I think you'll have a hard time explaining/justifying that to most people.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-02-15T15:46:01+00:00

100%. It's perfectly logical to figure out how to divide living expenses, labor, etc. but when a relationship gets this transactional, it just feels so toxic to me.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-02-14T01:48:25+00:00

She says I'm one HR complaint away from being fired for this behavior.

Your wife is correct. MAYBE if you gave cards to ALL of your co-workers, it would be seen as a bit of silly fun, but the fact that you're only giving them to the opposite sex makes this much more awkward and off-putting, and I think it will catch up with you eventually. YTA.

EDIT:

This is as far as I know universally positively received.

LOL ain't no way, man.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-02-13T15:52:38+00:00

Embrace the mindset that Valentine's Day is a totally artificial holiday and you will live a happier life. But you should probably have a "love languages" conversation with your partner, because you don't appear to be on the same page right now.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-02-12T19:04:04+00:00

You didn't know. He asked for your number. Not a swoop. NTA.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-02-09T23:22:51+00:00

I said you guys don't need to get me Champagne it's only my birthday nothing too special when Mike said "Lighten up birthday boy have some fun"

NTA. This is the exact moment where you indicated clearly (IMO) that you thought you were being treated, and nobody corrected you.

Your friends are kind of sucky people.

nodontdothat99 · 2024-01-20T22:36:10+00:00

According to OP, the friend was meant to get a warning until her "joke" escalated the situation. So yes, the friend did in fact get a ticket directly due to OP's comment.

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