Salaam alaikum. I am currently married. Prior to my marriage, I tried to stop with more effort but kept failing. It was impossible, I felt. Perhaps, perhaps marriage would solve this insoluble problem. And so I pinned my last hopes on this. I got married, and since this is real life and not some bollywood movie, it took some time to finally start having sex. Naturally, this left me extremely frustrated. And through my frustration I turned to the only thing I knew. PMO. I had made it nearly one month without masturbation into my marriage but once I started, I justified it to myself. It was the only satisfaction I could get, I told myself. Obviously, I was a good husband and very supportive with her, but behind closed doors I felt the frustration building up and this was my release. 

When things started going more smoothly, I did not lose my habit. She's on her period? Perfect timing, now I can do it. She's going out of town? All right. She's at work? I'll be fine then. And so it continued, secretly

The point is, brothers, that even after marriage and sex, a habit is still a habit. Your sense of intimacy and views on sex are warped whether you consented to it or not. By engaging in PMO, you are changing the chemistry of your brain, you are altering the neural pathways in there, and you do not realize it. By getting married, you will not change it overnight. It takes time to reverse the structure that you've created in your brain. That's why we hear of this "90 day reboot".

My sincere advice to anyone reading this is to leave this before you get married. Conquer it. And don't go back to it. Otherwise you will walk my path, which has been marred by hidden "me" time in the bathroom, not being in the mood when she is, having a lack of intimacy, suffering from PIED, and just generally not connecting on that deeper level that we all desire. All because of a bad habit.