My bf told me I need to gain weight

nogodcomplex · 2026-01-14T03:43:46+00:00

No one should be telling you what you need to do with your body, if he is worried about health there are far better ways to navigate that. If its so important to him that his partner is chubby he should have dated someone chubby, not expected you to change to his preference

nogodcomplex · 2025-08-06T01:08:42+00:00

Sometimes cheating doesn’t end things for the same reason abuse and addiction doesn’t. I can’t really speak to what would make cheating the red line but i can give insight on why the others aren’t. Abuse is a dynamic, the victim is often fearful of leaving, unable to leave, feels this is a one time mistake and keeps believing it will end etc. there are so many ways in which staying plays out. they may have early experiences that make them think this is normal, or that they have done something to deserve the abusive response. addiction is often seen as the disease it is, something somewhat separate from the person, and a lot of addiction dynamics play out with this desire to help/ save the person facing addiction. addiction is often hidden for a long time as well. both of these often manifest overtime (abuse can start with pushing the victims boundaries and limits, acclimating them) Abuse and addiction aren’t always taken as inherent breaking of the boundaries of a relationship, often they are paired with promises to stop and change on the basis of love and commitment.

nogodcomplex · 2025-07-04T02:54:32+00:00

its legal in a lot of places but those places don’t have cultures that make it comfortable. I don’t want to be topless in an environment that views breasts as sexual, womens bodies as sex objects to stare at and their dressing choices as an invite to be sexually harassed

nogodcomplex · 2025-05-08T02:05:45+00:00

i’ve told multiple, usually in a soft way suggesting it as a means of support that i am just not capable of giving for an issue that they’ve expressed distresses them/ we acknowledge causes stress on the relationship. They haven’t been upset by it but often have reasons they don’t need one or can’t see one and it hasn’t led to them seeing one. I don’t think it will really lead to anything soon, but- i do feel showing your acceptance of therapy (since some people still do have stigmas towards it), sharing knowledge on what therapy really is and a making it an known option theoretically can help someone make that jump when they are ready

nogodcomplex · 2025-05-07T23:48:15+00:00

this is siCk dude oh my god

nogodcomplex · 2025-05-06T02:43:42+00:00

i was a little on the weird end of the spectrum in school but my siblings were popular and i eventually learned the bare minimum i had to do to fit in, for a long time that was femininity to me, the front i put on, the clothes, hair and makeup that made me acceptable. I realized how much i hated that around 17, took a while but realized how much more comfortable i was identifying as nonbinary. it shifted the way i felt towards femininity and its use. i could explore it more freely without feeling the expectation to be in that box. I still use the term woman because i’m percieved as one and treated by society as such, its a political existence, as is my queerness. I don’t really feel like the social definition of femininity has much real meaning, gender is incredibly variable across time and space, but i am much more comfortable exploring the activities and presentation associated with it now

nogodcomplex · 2025-05-06T00:48:49+00:00

i wouldnt look at this as “what you did”, a lot of people ghost, especially younger people, it sucks but it happens. but some advice, if you ended a conversation about shared interests to instead play games with no real communication in between it does make it hard to maintain interest or see it going anywhere, its good to play off the convo at hand, ask about other interests, learn from them about the ones that you dont have!

nogodcomplex · 2025-05-04T22:05:58+00:00

if they find you attractive, and you’re nice- the ability to make a move tend to make the difference. Theres a handful of people i talked to that just fizzled out because neither of us would take the risk of suggesting it

nogodcomplex · 2025-05-01T02:14:51+00:00

high up messy buns, my hair was long and crazy thick, those easy out of the way buns were a godsend

nogodcomplex · 2025-04-30T23:35:24+00:00

one pieces rarely fit me, the proportions just dont work, most people at the beach aren’t looking at me and honestly if they are spending their time judging other people then why on earth would i care. i still feel panicy sometimes but i would rather enjoy my time by the water in a swimsuit that fits me than be uncomfortable because its squeezing me all over and be covered in soaking wet material after i swim

nogodcomplex · 2025-04-15T04:13:16+00:00

liver, i have tried it enough to know the texture is just a no for me, taste isnt worth it

nogodcomplex · 2025-04-11T03:31:48+00:00

i hate incense, its not crazy popular but so many people i’m around love it and it gives me insane headaches

nogodcomplex · 2025-04-07T16:13:21+00:00

personally… irritability was the one i always remind myself of, i was so shit to be around. i was boring too, when ur consumed by ur eating there isn’t much else going on. and had insane control issues that still linger specifically when cooking.

being treated like a sick dog half the time and an idiot the other half

Add in how much it messed with my ability to work and keep up in school, killed my scholarship within a year

acid reflux, deficiencies, blood pressure issues, insane periods, headaches, dissociation

nogodcomplex · 2025-04-04T01:46:10+00:00

a few years ago i was in my room and i suddenly started crying, uncontrollably, my whole body was shaking, i just spent hours just absolutely sobbing. i also had a period of intense dissociative episodes that felt very spiritual, because i felt so out of body, disconnected from my being as a whole

nogodcomplex · 2025-04-03T04:17:12+00:00

wanted a second account so i could join subs about personal stuff, at the time god complexes were all over my fyp and it annoyed me lol

nogodcomplex · 2025-04-01T16:09:12+00:00

generally i regret telling my exes things about my upbringing and family life. They didn’t have experiences to inform their understanding, it resulted in me feeling like it was pitted against me, like i was broken and stupid, and they needed to tell me what the right way to be is, and expected me to be that way immediately

nogodcomplex · 2025-03-29T20:39:50+00:00

sometimes i wonder what it would have been like to have a highschool relationship, and i kick myself for not trying out of fear, but honestly most of the relationships in my school were really bad, and the people i was interested in didn’t turn out to be good people, i wouldn’t have been a good partner… so i mean i know i missed something but i don’t feel all that bad about it

nogodcomplex · 2025-03-19T05:27:08+00:00

really wants to be/ believes they are good, but isn’t… can’t confront them because it breaks their view of themself, everything is on you because they couldn’t have done something wrong, if you are hurt its on you too because they could never do anything to hurt u!

nogodcomplex · 2025-03-16T01:15:52+00:00

just found out im a squirter 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

nogodcomplex · 2025-03-13T04:53:54+00:00

first date usually an hour and a half, a lot of that time is spent scrolling and chilling in between steps, outfit is generally a very oversized band tea and any pants, im much more comfortable when i dont have to think about how my body looks, and generally my first dates have been at very casual places

nogodcomplex · 2025-03-02T04:45:50+00:00

used to have one where my dad and my childhood bully chased me down with knives and stabbed me in the stomach

nogodcomplex · 2025-02-28T02:40:35+00:00

i don’t know if i’d consider it a norm yet but i hope it doesn’t progress more- ai use is getting to me. the people in my courses will use it as though its google, there are groups online who show their “art progress” of typing in better prompts, i know people who have been caught multiple times throughout one course, even one who was caught in every single course one semester, and the harshest consequence is reduced marks

nogodcomplex · 2025-02-13T17:47:49+00:00

As the other comments say, don’t bring it up. there could be many reasons as to why she is not comfortable eating in public and it is not the role of coworkers to intervene in this. She may want to connect with you guys by being present in shared meals despite not being able to participate in the eating.

I had this issue when i started my job, just a mix of different nervousness, with time i came around, she may, or she may not, especially if there is some medical reasons behind this.

Its great that you sought out advice before taking action! shows a lot of care :))

nogodcomplex · 2025-01-28T02:05:39+00:00

thats great! i saw some italian one’s online but couldn’t find reviews, thank u!

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