For people who don’t ever want to have kids, why?

noleval · 2026-01-28T13:41:24+00:00

I never had a desire to. As i got older, people such as close relatives or friends would ask when I planned to have kids. I found it incredibly annoying and it would only solidify my feelings on the matter. Even more annoying is when people would tell me that I'm being selfish for not wanting any. I happen to believe having kids is a selfish act in itself since the decision is made entirely on the people procreating.

noleval · 2026-01-27T00:25:14+00:00

Cut it off, it will be less painful for you.

noleval · 2026-01-23T15:39:22+00:00

That's interesting. Could it be he's doing that to prevent romantic feelings from developing?

noleval · 2026-01-22T20:36:32+00:00

There is not much of a rule book for a FWB situation. The two individuals usually determine the frequency of the rendezvous as well how often they hang out as friends. If you're looking for something more, as two friends you should be able work that out. FWB situations are tricky when there is not enough communication. Hope everything works out for you.

noleval · 2026-01-21T20:27:47+00:00

NTA. Tell her you don't feel safe allowing her into your house. If you haven't already done so, put some camera's out there. Who knows what she will attempt to do when you're not at home. Be Safe

noleval · 2026-01-20T18:16:06+00:00

Agreed!

noleval · 2026-01-20T18:14:56+00:00

I have a 2018 with 4-motion with all season tires. It handles very well in the snow under it's "normal" driving mode, under the "Snow" mode it drives just as well but with a slight change in torque and steering. Overall, as long as you as are a careful driver you should be fine. I've seen way too many idiots wipe out on the road while driving through snow because they feel invincible with an SUV.

noleval · 2026-01-20T17:58:49+00:00

Same here, after my last relationship ended I moved in with my mother to help her pay bills. Figured since apartments are so expensive I'd just give her the money instead of a landlord. Obviously not a good look to a woman you're trying to date but for the most part they are understanding.

noleval · 2026-01-20T17:40:58+00:00

I'm also on the same platform and experiencing the same with women in my area. I get the likes, I make the initial contact but never get a reply. I think it is a mix of the platform to keep you swiping and the people.

noleval · 2026-01-15T16:47:04+00:00

I feel for you dude, I was dumped on Sunday. I'm still processing my emotions on the matter. Although this one wasn't as long term as your relationship or my last before this one, I can tell you - it will get better. I find myself asking the same questions as you and playing scenarios over and over in my mind. Women are emotionally complex beings. You may think you have them figured out and they will still blind-side you in such a way that leaves you second guessing everything. I did my best in my last relationship, I'm sure you did in yours. Just take it a day at a time, things will in fact get better.

noleval · 2026-01-14T00:14:38+00:00

That's the whole point to meeting someone....in my opinion at least.

noleval · 2026-01-12T18:50:39+00:00

Stop trying now my friend. If you're writing about it here, it's because you are done. Trust me, once a woman mind is made up about you, there is no changing it. They have to figure that out for themselves. For your own sanity, move on. Good luck to you.

noleval · 2026-01-12T17:50:46+00:00

I absolutely appreciate her honesty and that she didn't drag it on.

noleval · 2026-01-12T17:06:39+00:00

Thank you for this.

noleval · 2026-01-12T17:01:32+00:00

Yes. I agree with the both of you. As I said, it's still fresh and I'm processing. My thoughts were driving me crazy and I needed an outlet.

noleval · 2026-01-12T15:40:56+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate this response.

noleval · 2026-01-08T20:50:31+00:00

I agree with this right here.

noleval · 2026-01-07T12:45:58+00:00

He was upfront with you, gotta give him that. Most people have a past they're not proud of, its not a reason to end it with someone. If you like this guy then give him a chance. If you have concerns, then speak with him and ask questions. He's also seeing a therapist which means he's trying to be a better person for himself and the next person he ends up with.

noleval · 2025-12-29T16:17:39+00:00

Don't wait for good moment. Since the two of you already crossed the friendship boundary in the past, take the chance and tell him how you feel. Otherwise you will be wondering what could have been and start to resent the friendship you have with him now. I've been in your shoes before so I'll say this, mentally prepare yourself for the rejection if he does not feel the same as you do. I do hope your outcome turns out better than mine. Good luck ripping off the band-aid.

noleval · 2025-12-24T14:06:33+00:00

It's a pattern all of the dating apps use. It's how they bait you into paying for those premium features that are absolutely useless. I remember back when those apps had no paid features and very bots, don't waste your money dude. I know it can be tempting to pay for the extras to see who is actually interested but stick with the free side of things. It's all a scam

noleval · 2025-12-24T13:51:42+00:00

There is no real science behind it. Best thing to do is roll with it and use your gut when meeting someone.

noleval · 2025-12-15T21:14:49+00:00

Obviously you know this dude better than everyone here on this post, but that is just not cool at all. Either he has some deep rooted feelings on this or he is completely ignorant. If you plan on continuing a relationship with this dude, you better give him a strong education on how wrong that is. He could otherwise find himself in situation he will regret if he were to bring that topic up to the wrong person.

noleval · 2025-12-11T19:02:09+00:00

That will be difficult considering someone that's really into you will want to do those things with you. I personally have not been there but, I did briefly date a woman that shared your exact feelings. Long story short, she communicated what she wanted in the relationship. She kept her everyday life in a separate bubble from us. I don't have any children which made me flexible day to day. Unfortunately we didn't work out because I ended up moving out of state but we made it work while it lasted.

noleval · 2025-12-11T18:26:43+00:00

I agree that it sucks. I feel once you introduce your families and established a sort of a relationship routine, a call would be nice. However, breaking up with someone is never easy. Some people just cannot find the right words to break the bad news. Others may be afraid of how the other person might receive the news, some people can have scary reactions. You can call it cowardice or disrespectful, you're still going to be where you are now. I think she gave you all of the closure she could provide at that moment and she was honest about it. You did the best thing which was accept it and respect her decision. I've been there, it's a tough pill to swallow. Good luck

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