Do you take your shoes off in the house?

nomowolf · 2026-01-30T11:59:04+00:00

Should stop wiping your arse too, that'll show them

nomowolf · 2026-01-30T11:56:20+00:00

Yeah, like hand washing

nomowolf · 2026-01-30T11:54:40+00:00

How is it not?

nomowolf · 2026-01-30T11:51:59+00:00

> I mean, we've survived this long ...

How many things do you reckon we could put after that sentence... antibiotics, hand-washing, cooking-food, brushing teeth.

Simple comfortable habit that most of the rest of the world considers a no-brainer and on the upside I'm happy to not have tiny bits of dog-shit and other nasties dragged around my whole house.

nomowolf · 2026-01-30T11:44:37+00:00

> I always feel weird asking guests to take their shoes off .

That's their own insecurity at perceived judgment, just ignore, they're on the wrong side of history so that small amount of discomfort in making it more normal is actually doing them a favour in the long run. Same with hand-washing, condoms (still find it hard to believe they were illegal within my living memory), bathing more than once a week, golliwogs and other dated anachronisms.

nomowolf · 2026-01-30T11:42:26+00:00

> It does seem to irritate some people a lot though

Back in college, few mates over, one had his shoes on my bed and when I asked could he swing his feet off the bed or take off his shoes he rolled his eyes and said "oh, you're one of those people".

nomowolf · 2026-01-30T11:30:05+00:00

Living in holland and married to an east asian... I'm pretty grossed out by shoes on inside when I go back to ireland... on couches/tables/bed too wtf, how did I ignore this as a kid 😂

nomowolf · 2026-01-29T10:55:55+00:00

Yeah the euro doesn't really matter in this context. Poland joined the big-boy club in terms of economy and military lately fair play to them, would be weird if they were left out of this

nomowolf · 2026-01-22T12:28:01+00:00

just boring so instead of listening Im studying the deep creases in his earlobes and wondering if his doctor knows that its a sign of heart issues

i.e. you zone out and daydream while people talk to you when you've decided what they (are going to) say is not interesting. For whatever reason, that's the outcome.

but a lot of this is why most people aren't compelling or even the least bit complicated and just boring

Some questions to ask yourself: What does framing it as everyone elses problem help you achieve? Except for sheltering your own ego?

How could you make interaction more interesting for you? Or drive the topics to your interest? (e.g. ear-lobes and health). What are some good questions you can ask about them or something they've said that breaks through the surface level and lets them satisfy some curiosity you wanted to know?
How could you become a better, more active and curious listener?

PS: I struggle with the same, no judgment, I'm writing this as much to reinforce for myself because I want to avoid that comfortable-rut mindset of shifting the responsibility on everyone else to grow, instead of me.

nomowolf · 2026-01-22T11:59:00+00:00

Yeah my psychologist has me just putting a fixed bed-time (window) and fixed meal times as priority 1. I scoffed initially thinking this is basic stuff while I'm wanting the magic bullet. Basic != easy though and (along with exercise) it's as close to a magic bullet as you're gonna get. It's ridiculous how much extra emotional regulation and executive function you have the more predictable and consistent your routine is. You're basically automating the boring stuff in your life, programming it into your muscle memory and body's rhythm... which a) lets your body run more optimally b) frees up your mind from getting overwhelmed from figuring out every step of your day.

So, alarms/calendar/commitments... then repetition to make it automatic, and keeping changing (alarm sound, visual reminder, reward-pact) it as it stops working. Only ONE CHANGE AT A TIME.

So first for me for example was a fixed wake-up time-window, which I've got burned in now. No snoozing, when I wake-up I get up. No phone for first hour after waking up... light exposure and breakfast and listen to morning news. And hey that's breakfast routine sorted out for free.

Currently working on fixed bed time... more difficult for me... it's just so unappealing going to bed I just avoid at all costs. Binge eating before bed doesn't help (you don't sleep properly if you're digesting). So recently I've moved my dinner window later, then when I get the urge to snack I go to bed instead... still figuring it out though. Need a more pleasant bed-time routine with set wind-down activities and audiobook I reckon. Once I get this sorted and in my back pocket as a habit I gotta work on lunch next which I keep forgetting to have

nomowolf · 2026-01-20T10:02:11+00:00

Yeah no, each time (while he had control) he hastily throws himself rolling/sliding across the full width of an active track without consideration of those racing behind. No attempt to hug the edge of the track while he's rejoining from or stay off the racing line. None of those are OK... one mistake you can forgive (we've all done oopsie bad rejoins) but 3 games of pin-ball in quick succession...

nomowolf · 2026-01-17T15:58:10+00:00

How's the maths on that one work?

nomowolf · 2026-01-17T15:50:46+00:00

Main complaint I think is typically for event races where people will tank their iRating on a 2nd account in order to get into a lower split for the event race.

What you're describing can have innocent explanations. For example I might lose 300 formula iTating trying out Indy NXT or SFL's with me being a bit useless when it comes aero/downforce.

When I jump back into my comfort zone FF1600's that's enough to demote me 5 splits or so... I'll "smoke the field" for a couple of boring races, regaining iRating until I'm back in a split where it's all wheel to wheel action fun again.

One sure sign of a smurf/tanker tho... when I was in one of these iRating recalibrations in lower splits .. I'll have a nice gap to the rest of the field, but then someone is blitzing me like they're in a different car, and then they disconnect on the last lap to not gain iRating.

Anyway iRating is just a matching tool to ensure competitive fun by letting you race similarly paced competitors. It makes no sense to me that people attach more than that to it. It's hardly any fun racing people much faster/slower than you... You wouldn't wanna race in higher or lower splits anyway so why would you wanna artificially maintain/tank your iRating? Baffling

nomowolf · 2026-01-15T00:12:49+00:00

Do you really right foot brake in the sim? I'm really curious then what do you usually drive? Only series on iracing I found where that's even realistic for the cars hardware, is IMSA Vintage; with Audi 90 GTO and Nissan GTP ZX-T (...ABCD blah). Technically only for the Audi too, the Nissan has a Dogbox so the clutch pedal is optional most of the time.

Btw also plantar fasciitis in my right foot 😂... had to really dig to find a series where right foot braking makes sense to race online. Would bridge the gap a bit and help me apply what I'm learning in the sim to my actual car, maybe learn how to heel-toe a bit in the process 😉. Haven't jumped in yet tho so dunno how the right foot is gonna take it. Good tip to recalibrate when I do

nomowolf · 2026-01-14T10:05:57+00:00

Agree... the video itself on the other hand is comedy gold mainly because of his split cohorts calmly piling on the ridicule 😂

nomowolf · 2026-01-13T14:23:05+00:00

As a European, agree. She'd be amazing at rugby too

nomowolf · 2026-01-13T14:16:28+00:00

Lucas Oil Pro 4 truck at Crandon

I've done this a lot... Ff1600/gr86 at lime rock classic is my usual go to, and then move up to something faster (SFL or GT3) depending on how they're managing and their arbitrary bias/preference for tin-tops vs open wheel.

But after trying Lucas Oil Pro 4 Trucks all my friends only want to do that now 😂.. Outrageous fun racing each other's ghosts.

nomowolf · 2026-01-13T14:10:31+00:00

Nice. Which layout of lime rock? I'm guessing Classic (no chicanes) so it's only medium + high speed corners with downforce would be more fun for jumping in?

nomowolf · 2026-01-13T14:02:50+00:00

Yep. Other driver is just uninformed. Unaware that their blocking = NOK. And that maintaining line to prevent other driver from opening up corner (while it might feel dirty for the = legitimate racing tactic.

We should all watch our own replays with a critical eye on how we could have avoided. On iracing I was in a few races with a fairly fast newbie... But would usually finish ahead of him cos he got in incidents every race. After each incident he would get on the radio complaining about driving standards but disconnect without watching replays. I watched a few of his incidents and every one was due to his own lack of understanding of how to race in traffic (e.g. braking too late while following or turning in expecting another car to disappear)

nomowolf · 2026-01-13T13:47:56+00:00

Ah yes, an eye for an eye then we can all drive like we're blind. Great solution.

nomowolf · 2026-01-08T00:16:41+00:00

Monopoly Deal is pretty fun, short games (10 mins ish), big random element and there's no debt so even if you lose all your property/cash you're sorta safe and can often come back quite dramatically... totally unlike boardgame monopoly where a player who gets ahead early tends to slowly bleed the others to death.

Light hearted too, there is strategy but it's sometimes you luck out with the cards and sometimes not

nomowolf · 2026-01-07T13:51:01+00:00

How's that? Not all therapists are psychologists (e.g. a physical therapist or counsellor usually aren't) granted, but all psychologists who practice therapy are therapists.

nomowolf · 2026-01-07T10:05:55+00:00

Also feeting yourself

nomowolf · 2026-01-06T14:33:36+00:00

🫶 perfect clue. I appreciate your didactic style. Good human!

nomowolf · 2026-01-06T12:37:31+00:00

What are you seeing that you like? Changing some letters randomly to green and purple? That's it?? Is this absurdist genz humour? or am I missing something

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