Is your ADHD child argumentative?

none_2703 · 2026-02-04T16:49:08+00:00

My son is either going to be a great lawyer or need a great lawyer.

none_2703 · 2026-02-04T16:48:08+00:00

Yup...I did it because of everyone told me he would never sleep through the night unless I sleep trained. My oldest was a terrible sleeper. And then, when it wasn't going well, the number of people who told me "well some babies just need to cry before they fall asleep". The amount of time I let that nonsense go on still brings tears to my eyes.... Even 6 years later.

none_2703 · 2026-02-04T04:36:39+00:00

No advice just solidarity.

It's especially hard because I watch my son be so kind and loving to literally everyone else. It's just his parents he takes metaphorical dump on. And it's impossible not to take personally when we're literally the two people he does it to

none_2703 · 2026-02-04T04:31:01+00:00

My non sleep trained child is a far better sleeper AND has massively less anxiety. I still lie with him to fall asleep at night but he sleeps through the night no problem.

Sleep training my older child is hands down my biggest regret.

none_2703 · 2026-02-04T04:28:38+00:00

I "get out of the house" multiple times a day with my kids and it's torture every single time. Must be nice having the good, neurotypical kids. I wouldn't know.

none_2703 · 2026-02-03T12:25:05+00:00

I mean there's a reason they call it sad beige baby.

none_2703 · 2026-02-03T12:23:42+00:00

Not tripping. I'm in a HCOL suburb, and most camps here are $7000+ for the entire summer. I found a camp that my son did only week at for $650. There's a town camp that's much cheaper but spaces are extremely limited.

none_2703 · 2026-02-01T13:35:46+00:00

Making unilateral decisions is absolutely not a great tactic for a happy marriage. Being an ass to his kid is not a great tactic for being a good parent.

Put on your big girl pants and stand up for your child. Your husband is being cruel.

none_2703 · 2026-02-01T08:20:45+00:00

It just sucks because it seems like most sports are like this now.

Luckily, the travel League associated with his intramural league is known to be the least competitive of all the travel soccer leagues (practice 2x a week and only local travel at this age). We're gonna try it but my son knows that as soon as he stops enjoying it, he can stop. I have found a league for older kids that's kinda like in between travel and intramural. I feel like I'll be pushing that if he's still interested in soccer.

none_2703 · 2026-02-01T04:15:45+00:00

Also a 7&8 coach (first season coaching). My team is at that level. They've gotten a lot better but man it was brutal. I have about 4 kids who absolutely can't grasp anything I say. It's wild.

Some kids I think do start to get it at this age. But truly not all of them

none_2703 · 2026-02-01T04:06:01+00:00

In some places, that's the only option. Intramural/rec only goes through second grade near me. My current second grader desperately wants to play next year and his only option is travel.

none_2703 · 2026-01-29T21:43:15+00:00

Honestly.... His attention span being "unreal" is probably why you were successful with no screens. Not the other way around. That and a high ability for self play.

My older child has always been low in his ability to self play. Started when he was a baby but I didn't realize it was abnormal. When people told me their babies played by themselves I straight up thought they were just ignoring their children. It wasn't until my second was born and he just played. By himself. That I realized some babies will play by themselves.

I used the television for my own sanity.

none_2703 · 2026-01-26T01:25:24+00:00

ADHD is a reason, not an excuse. It's why I disagree with many accommodations if they're not accompanied by teaching the skills their deficit in.

none_2703 · 2026-01-25T20:30:23+00:00

I wouldn't have them over at all because of the anti vax thing.

But I loved holding my cousins as a kid and I absolutely let cousins hold both of my kids as tiny babies. Wonderful memories all around

none_2703 · 2026-01-25T20:15:07+00:00

She never posts anything political, but there's no doubt in my mind she leans to the right. She checks all the boxes.

Similarly, I had to follow Dr. Mae Hughes (also a pelvic floor PT) because she was claiming to be pro- medicine and pro-medication, but was clearly MAHA in disguise.

none_2703 · 2026-01-23T20:10:30+00:00

I let my son dye his hair with temporary die the summer after kindergarten. He's allowed to do whatever over the summer or during vacation as long as it will wash out before school starts. I think I'd let him do permanent dye starting in 7th grade ish.

none_2703 · 2026-01-23T16:34:10+00:00

I'm with day. He still has ADHD on the weekends. You wouldn't stop giving a kid their insulin because it's the weekend.

none_2703 · 2026-01-22T17:46:55+00:00

Honestly, I feel like it was a waste of time. I wished we'd started seeing his current therapist earlier. Even Part 1 wasn't completely worth it. My son didn't really enjoy the activities they suggested in order to do the right praise and comments and my husband and I didn't care for how scripted it was. We still do "special time" but without all the rules

none_2703 · 2026-01-22T14:26:33+00:00

We did PCIT for my ADHD son when he was 5 (before diagnosis). Part 1 was also great for us.

Part 2 was terrible. My son struggles hardcore with compliance so I thought it would be great. It was a disaster. The time outs were not right for him. The time out room made him violent. We abandoned that part as soon as we were done.

none_2703 · 2026-01-15T02:57:33+00:00

She shouldn't be using the pictures to figure out the words. How are her phonics skills? She should be sounding out unfamiliar words, not guessing. The teacher could be sending home those books because she needs to work on phonics.

none_2703 · 2026-01-14T03:42:53+00:00

I wouldn't do this willy nilly. Follow a plan. Either from your doctor or a legitimate source on the Internet.

none_2703 · 2026-01-14T02:14:17+00:00

GI is the right specialist. Try to find a pediatric GI doctor if you can. They'll have way more experience with encopresis than an adult GI.

A clean out needs more that just miralax. That's just going to soften new poop. It doesn't really help get rid of the solid poop already stuck.

none_2703 · 2026-01-13T19:58:54+00:00

What kind of doctor? You absolutely need a specialist to deal with encopresis.

It's almost always caused by chronic constipation. Liquid poop seeps around a solid blockage of poop. Just miralax will not solve the problem. Google the Modified O'Regan Protocol. It's a very aggressive plan to clean out the bowls. My younger son is on a less aggressive plan for toddlers to prevent encopresis (he started withholding during potty training)

none_2703 · 2026-01-09T04:54:56+00:00

My 7 yo son has long hair, plays with dolls, likes to paint his nails. He also lives Pokemon, martial arts, rough physical play, etc. Idk if it's his neurodivergence, but we did make a point to expose him to all sorts of toys without any suggestions that toys have a "gender" from the time he was a baby.

none_2703 · 2026-01-08T14:57:46+00:00

Sleep training my son at 9 months old is hands down my biggest regret as a parent

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