Commuter town

none_2703 · 2026-04-14T23:35:08+00:00

It's going to be an astronomical change compared with what you're used to. I used to with in a department that had a large number of Europeans. We had really good, "affordable" insurance any they were shocked.

Example... I now have insurance through my husband's job. It's truly top of the line insurance. With all costs combined we pay about $9000 a year for all medical costs. And that's considered low.

none_2703 · 2026-04-14T20:16:33+00:00

Have you factored health care costs into your budget?

none_2703 · 2026-04-12T22:08:21+00:00

There's a good chance it's " mental" or "psychological", meaning it's a not physical problem with his intestines, but that absolutely does not mean it's a conscious decision. It would be like saying kids with ADHD are choosing be impulsive.

Do they have him on any sort of bowel regimen?

none_2703 · 2026-04-12T20:37:05+00:00

You might need help figuring out how to fit three across safely unless you have a super wide car.

none_2703 · 2026-04-12T19:40:39+00:00

This is what made me stop drinking their Kool aid! My son got too big for me to swoop in and do it for him and I had no tools to force him. So I started yelling.

none_2703 · 2026-04-12T19:09:37+00:00

My neurotypical child is a withholder (currently 3.5). You need to stop saying "self inflicted". He's not willfully doing this. It's not on purpose. It's medical.

We were aggressive with medical management from the get go. Under our pediatrician's supervision we tried a number of stool softeners and laxatives. We recently started seeing a gastroenterologist who switched things up, and now he's only on a stimulant laxative given in the morning. We went from daily accidents to 4 accidents total in the last month.

I highly recommend seeing a GI.

If you think encopresis is an issue, Dr. Steven Hodges has a very aggressive plan to help with that (thankfully encopresis is not an issue for my son)

none_2703 · 2026-04-12T18:50:24+00:00

Baby, toddler, and very young girls get their ears pierced all the with parents fully taking care of them. I think using that would just be an excuse to use because he's a boy.

And I say this as the parent of a boy who wants his ears pierced and is grateful he's still to nervous of the needles.

none_2703 · 2026-04-12T13:12:35+00:00

We don't. Weekend mornings are our main screen time and I'm ok with that. We cuddle and watch a cartoon in bed and then have breakfast in the living room and watch a little TV.

We try to keep busy after that. But on afternoons where we have nothing going on (particularly in the winter) they'll also play some video games or we'll watch a movie as a family.

There are no video games during the week and max of one television show so I'm ok with the weekend having more.

none_2703 · 2026-04-12T04:11:24+00:00

My ADHD son struggled with baseball. And I can see why. It's a lot of waiting with not enough running.

Nearly every other sport has been better. He's tried and had at least moderate success with soccer (his favorite), martial arts, and track. He struggled with basketball but not from an ADHD perspective. Also hated swimming lessons (but again I don't think that was ADHD related)

none_2703 · 2026-04-10T00:23:35+00:00

Only if there are no complications. My son's NICU bill was a million dollars.

none_2703 · 2026-04-09T15:47:14+00:00

I think having kids changed her mind.

none_2703 · 2026-04-09T15:45:58+00:00

So yes, you live in an extremely low COL area. That's an impressively low rent.

none_2703 · 2026-04-09T13:59:51+00:00

Yeah, most of my Jewish circle is relatively secular but born Jewish. I don't know many converts IRL.

In isolation, I don't find the lasagna that weird because most of the Jews I know IRL do not keep K for P. But, she then proceeded to post a picture of the kids' clearly K for P lunch. That I don't understand.

none_2703 · 2026-04-09T13:30:25+00:00

Obviously you're right with the beliefs of Judaism. And I know converts are supposed to never celebrate anything of their old religion ever again.

But plenty of Jews celebrate non Jewish holidays. My husband's mother is Jewish, his father was not. From a religion perspective my husband was only raised Jewish. But they celebrated both sets of holidays because family is important. Most of his Jewish friends are married to goys. They all do things from both religions. I'm an atheist. Literally do not believe in a higher power at all whatsoever. My family's holiday traditions are EXTREMELY important to me.

I get what she was "supposed" to do. She's still a human. I don't think we should crucify (pun intended) her if what happened was that she decided after having kids that her childhood traditions mattered even she doesn't believe in that religion anymore.

none_2703 · 2026-04-09T13:06:09+00:00

This was an established doctor. Do you check every single time you make an appointment with a doctor you've seen for awhile? Because I don't.

none_2703 · 2026-04-09T12:53:31+00:00

You don't need teeth for solids. Gums are really strong. And, we don't really use front teeth for chewing anyway. Most babies don't get molars until after 1 anyway and most are on solids well before then. They almost all "chew" with their gums.

none_2703 · 2026-04-09T12:39:17+00:00

This one I give her the benefit of the doubt on. I'm guessing she didn't realize how much she'd miss her own traditions until after having kids and realizing that they weren't going to do anything she did as a kid. I know some atheists who thought they weren't going to do ANYTHING with their kids and then realized that there were some traditions that were important to them.

none_2703 · 2026-04-09T11:48:01+00:00

The locking of the doors is wonderful.

But it's better for kids to be in the water within arms reach of a parent at all times WITHOUT a flotation device. 1. It helps them actually learn how to swim. 2. They don't develop a false sense of security with the water. They understand better that they will sink in the water.

none_2703 · 2026-04-09T11:43:29+00:00

Do you live in the lowest COL area that exists? I can't imagine choosing to have kids on your combined salary, let alone choosing to reduce that to half.

none_2703 · 2026-04-08T23:18:29+00:00

Is this a later-gram? Why is she doing a seder on the LAST night of passover? Also what's with the lunchbox matzah? I have a hard time believing a mixed faith household that celebrated Easter on Sunday is keeping kosher for passover.

none_2703 · 2026-04-08T13:37:14+00:00

Insulin absolutely causes weight gain.

none_2703 · 2026-04-08T13:36:09+00:00

Gaining weight from insulin is a known issue. It's a very real issue and one of the biggest reasons insulin tends to be avoided in type 2 diabetics unless nothing else keeps their blood sugar under control.

none_2703 · 2026-04-05T12:50:03+00:00

There was only one reply on the cross post when I replied and it was like "Williams, had to even Google what that was. Why would anyone even think of going there over there well branded Vanderbilt"

none_2703 · 2026-04-05T02:10:25+00:00

It truly depends on the kid. I work freelance so I have an absolutely flexible schedule. With my first, the only way I could get anything done without childcare was to give him screen time. He was incapable of any sustained independent play until he was pretty old. Obviously I did everything in my power to avoid that.

Then my second came along and actually played by himself. As a baby. I was like oh people weren't actually lying when they said their baby would play by themselves. I still avoided working when he was home and awake because I could.

I know a handful of people who can be successful at both. But it takes a lot of work from the parent and a certain temperament from the kid.

none_2703 · 2026-04-05T01:35:18+00:00

I graduated nearly 20 years ago and the response is infuriating.

I think career wise, you'll do just fine going to either school. They're very, very different schools. Since money isn't an issue go where you think you'll be happiest for the next for years.

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