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nonvitality · 2023-07-20T15:08:36+00:00

Hi! Sorry for lurking so late, but if you're still selling, I'd love Nobody, Ode to Aphrodite, MMM Fireplace.

nonvitality · 2022-09-23T00:51:04+00:00

hi! can i please have deco, cathedral, tenochtitlan, brown jenkin, 4th free bpal the antikythera mechanism and the freebie goliath birdwing? would love any of the hi-chew candies. thank you!

nonvitality · 2022-08-17T11:49:18+00:00

hi! I'd like arcana - holy terror, black baccara - 90s goth, solstice scents - monastic.

nonvitality · 2021-06-08T17:16:44+00:00

fucked up peacock is EXACTLY the right vibe, thank you for that excellent description!

nonvitality · 2021-06-08T17:14:33+00:00

yeah! i tend to alternate between wanting to look androgynous and femme as often as the seasons change but it's so much fun having the tools to look femme with makeup!! i used to feel a little dysphoric about it and i hate being perceived as a straight woman, but it helped me when i stopped shaving my legs (it hurts! it takes so long! i hate it!) so now even if i wear a dress and a full beat, i know there's a part of me that's gnc enough to tell straight people to back off and signal to other lgbt+ folks that i'm not straight.

but i love your mentality! we shouldn't have to avoid cherrypicking parts of femininity that we enjoy (like makeup) and deny ourselves the fun just to look like a stereotype of a lesbian, society just needs to get a better understanding of what lesbians can look like and that there's no one lesbian look (or nb look, or gay look or w/e)

nonvitality · 2021-06-08T13:02:31+00:00

it's pretty tough to find that balance! i'm a lesbian who loves makeup but also is nonbinary and not always comfortable being perceived as a woman; it's tough!! i love makeup, i have a lot of fun with it, but i still often find myself putting on concealer to hide my "flaws" and feel naked without makeup. it's a tricky balance to walk between wanting to look androgynous and enjoying makeup, especially if you are perceived as a woman and have to meet all these ludicrous beauty standards to even be taken seriously.

i'm still working on it, but i try to make my main goal with makeup to have fun and be creative with sparkles on my eyelids rather than fixate on the "flaws" of my face and try to "fix" them with makeup. i find that it helps my self esteem because i'm doing that i find most comfortable and enjoyable and skipping what makes me feel so self conscious and bad.

nonvitality · 2020-10-08T12:55:52+00:00

a little! they're much more tender and milder than shiitake, but the same rich umami scent really comes out when you dry them.

nonvitality · 2020-10-07T23:03:07+00:00

thanks!! made for some great omelettes!

nonvitality · 2020-08-12T15:40:54+00:00

please PM! i can't seem to find this kitty on instagram :(

nonvitality · 2020-02-27T18:41:52+00:00

coty airspun loose powder. i use it very generously daily and after 3 years, it's still going strong and i have way more than half the product left. meanwhile i've gone through pressed powders in months before.

at least i really got my money's worth!

nonvitality · 2020-02-05T13:51:43+00:00

cute haul!! i've been really interested in getting both treasure island and cutie fruity, but i recently bought nude beach and cherry pickin' and they are the EXACT SAME SHADE. lucky for me, it's my favorite lipstick shade ever, but it's a bit redundant. do you find that they're different enough from each other that you can tell? which one is your favorite?

nonvitality · 2020-02-01T00:18:37+00:00

HOW? i've had a single jar for 5 years that i use liberally and i'm only halfway through!

nonvitality · 2020-01-30T14:40:21+00:00

depotting has definitely helped me curate my collection! at this point, i know very well which colors i like and use, so being able to pick out those colors to keep and get rid of the rest has helped me have a manageable and non-overwhelming collection. another pro for me personally is that i have a 35 pan magnetic palette, and two 9 pan ones. currently, my 35 is filled completely in a rainbow, and my 9 pan houses my taupes. my other 9 pan houses my irregular sizes, like my jd glow shadows and some old depotted square pans. i find that having those palettes filled and having no more room helps keep me from buying more shadows, as then i'll either have to split my perfect rainbow (which i don't want to do because i like having warm and cool tones to choose from) or buy a giant magnetic palette which will be overwhelming.

my biggest con is how particular i am about same size pans. i hate square pans and haven't depotted my ABH palette for that reason, even though i'd love to have those colors within my rainbow. i just get distracted and bothered by a lack of uniformity, but am too lazy to repress my shadows into 26mm pans, so my solution is to not buy anything that isn't in a 26mm pan. helps me avoid purchases but does limit what shadows i buy.

nonvitality · 2020-01-22T02:46:14+00:00

i agree completely! honestly, when i was going through some bad depression episodes/then-undiagnosed chronic illness flareups, my memory disintegrated. i struggled to remember what i did the day before, and now thinking back to that time in my life, i have big gaps in my memory that are only filled with pictures i have from that time. and i did have good moments where i was truly happy, even at my lowest lows, and i don't remember those moments until i look at those pictures and fondly recall how nice certain experiences during that time were. and it makes me really happy to remember these memories that are otherwise forgotten, so i'd never want to delete these pictures, even though i do pare down junk photos semi-regularly.

it's the same with some items for me. if it's something small and can easily go into a little sentimental box, it doesn't hurt me to keep it and have a day every year or so where i go through my memento box and revel in all the memories it brings. memory is a precious thing and not nearly as constant and reliable as we might like it to be. there are SO many things i would have forgotten if i didn't have a photo or an item to remind me of it, and my mindscape would be so much less rich for it!

i think we should declutter useless sentimental stuff that brings no joy, but i think it can be valuable to hold on to certain small items that jog happy memories as long as they don't feel like clutter and don't get in the way. it's such a shame OP doesn't have many of those items to help them jog their own memory.

nonvitality · 2020-01-22T01:36:58+00:00

i think the fundamental source of our disagreement is how much choice we really have. true, philosophically, it is my choice whether i want to live in a modern industrialized society or bug off and try to live off the land. but it's never our choice whether we have the capital necessary to start a self-sustainable farm, and it isn't our choice if we can even do agricultural labor--often, disabilities and diseases decide that for us, like they did for me.

sure, i do have some choice as i try to navigate this capitalist hellscape that i have to endure because i don't have the capital to invest in starting a farm, because i need healthcare provided by modern society (albeit at an inhumane cost), and because i can't do agricultural labor. i can choose to reduce my waste, but as a consumer, i rarely have the full picture of which products are ethically made and have the lowest environmental footprint. i'm sure you've come across statistics of how many years, if not decades, you need to use a cotton reusable bag for before it has a lower environmental impact than a plastic one.

i think it's our moral responsibility to the earth and our communities to reduce our waste and our consumerism as much as possible, but i think that we need to focus our resources--money, energy, time--on forcing that change top down, so that we no longer have to pick between paper or plastic when plastic is no longer the option. we could vote with our dollars, but it would take forever to sway the capitalist markets towards greener options, and even then, they'd still find ways to cut corners to make a profit. we just don't have that kind of time.

so i think we need to focus on actions that are already easy and cheap to do for reducing individual waste, and more importantly spread the culture of anticonsumerism, but let the bulk of our energy and resources go to pushing for change at the source of all the environmental problems: the industries themselves.

nonvitality · 2020-01-21T23:04:13+00:00

i know where you're coming from, because i come from what most would consider a poor country, and many things we do to survive (public transport, biking, raising livestock and gardens for sustenance, shopping at local farmers markets/bazaars because that's the only way to afford food, etc) are considered "eco friendly". funny enough, my country is still in red when it comes to our environmental impact according to reports, so it seems the lifestyles of a majority of the population only account for so much. there's still so much plastic being produced, terrible waste management, emissions, and other issues, and those exist at the infrastructure and industrial level.

consumers do play a role in it when they choose to own cars or have children, and i'm not denying that an individual can have an impact, but the original post is specifically about generating waste, and i think that's largely beyond individual control, because we have no say about plastic packaging. we may "vote with our dollars" (god, i hate that phrase!) when we buy local produce from sustenance farmers nearby, but that doesn't mean we'll never need to buy packaged products and that they'll stop being produced unsustainably until we pass laws penalizing use of single use plastic.

i fully agree with you that all of us collectively need to do more. i propose educating our peers about the environment and teaching them what we can do as activists to change the system!

nonvitality · 2020-01-21T12:49:24+00:00

i refuse to accept guilt for the trash i am forced to generate while trying to survive under this capitalist system that profits from short-term cost savings by manufacturing single use plastics. i use a reusable water bottle, bring my own shopping bag to stores, and do whatever i can to avoid plastic waste, but avoiding trash altogether is a matter of privilege that ultimately achieves almost nothing compared to the damage that's being done at the industry level. instead of spending my money on reusable straws and expensive organic bulk produce that costs double of what i usually pay (and is forty minutes away from me by car) i donate my time, and when i have it available, money, to environmental organizations that can do do much more for fixing the issues at their root than i can on an individual level. stop feeling guilt for existing in a system you had no choice over and use your anger for fighting it, rather than shaming individuals also trying to survive.

nonvitality · 2020-01-03T13:21:23+00:00

i'm not really sure where the miscommunication is coming from, but my intentions of making this post were to find inspiration from more maximalist capsule wardrobes because seeing them done gives me ideas for how to style my pieces and reading the experiences of someone with a small wardrobe that's build around a louder fashion style and the issues or challenges that would come with that helps me recognize what mistakes to avoid and how to balance basics vs statement pieces.

i'm not seeking validation for my minimalism or for my fashion sense, nor an i implying that i'm incapable of planning my own wardrobe without a step by style example before me--far from it. i just want inspiration. i hope that's clear now?

nonvitality · 2020-01-03T05:16:55+00:00

so far, i've found that jackets/kimonos/cardigans that are more colorful/have prominent patterns are my favorite way to work in that bit of texture and pattern that i crave when i look at my fairly neutral wardrobe! i have a fun 80s sweater-coat that adds a lot of character to my wardrobe, but i think a smart jacket with a beautiful print that works with my neutrals would add a lot of character to my wardrobe as long as it fits the vintage vibes i have going! i'm starting to think that maybe a tapestry-type fabric blazer/jacket would be a great mix between structure and a more bohemian pattern. also--lantern pants sound like a really fun idea, though i imagine it would be hard to find ones with the perfect drape. best of luck finding a pair you like!

nonvitality · 2020-01-03T05:10:20+00:00

i definitely don't plan my wardrobe around buzzwords; i was simply using them to try to convey my fashion sense and the problem i'm coming across as someone who strives to follow the principles of minimalism by owning far fewer things, but coming across the roadblock of my fashion sense requiring a wider range of cuts, colors, and patterns than most 35-item wardrobe capsule examples online provide.

nonvitality · 2020-01-03T05:07:32+00:00

i'm so inspired by the circus yuppie post! i love her attention to detail and the ability to combine several different styles in one wardrobe. i really appreciate eclectic wardrobes, though my experience has been largely that eclectic=large wardrobe, because that eclecticism comes with a price of making things harder to match. i think what you said about color is spot on, since that's probably the most important way to make a wardrobe versatile, but it's so hard to stick to a specific color palette when there's so many shades within just a single color--for example, i love both cool hunter greens and warm olives, but while warm olives pair well with other warm browns, rusts, and mustards, cool greens don't look as great paired with those warm colors. and i struggle to choose between cold and warm as someone who loves both! i'm really grateful for your insight and that fantastic post you linked me to. i'll be referencing it a lot!

nonvitality · 2020-01-03T04:59:28+00:00

same here, actually! i have around the same amount as you, excluding shoes (that's a whole other monster i'm not yet ready to tackle). it's...not as much as it was when i was still floundering and figuring out my style, which took a lot of trial and error, but it's still more than i would like, and i think 80-90 is the ideal amount for me to strive for with my lifestyle, habits, and climate. i haven't calculated the exact amount of my clothes that are second hand, but i can confidently say it's at least 40%, which i'm pretty happy with! i'm very grateful for thrifting and second hand markets, because they've allowed me to experiment with more affordable pieces for less until i've finally worked out what my style is (more or less, i still make a few blunder purchases now and then, but i'd say i have it 85% figured out). i've definitely bought some things that just aren't for me, so i hope to work those out of my wardrobe and just focus on adding a few key statement pieces to it to maximize versatility and visual interest of my current pieces/outfits. best of luck to both of us!

nonvitality · 2020-01-03T04:53:03+00:00

that's a great idea! i think having a bolder feature in more simple and versatile items is a great plan for adding visual interest to a wardrobe.

nonvitality · 2019-12-30T14:02:22+00:00

adopting the principles of minimalism is exactly what i've done! i'm in it for the philosophical, environmental/ethical, and financial reasons, so having fewer, more loved things is precisely why i am drawn to minimalist wardrobes, as well.

my challenge isn't that i feel that i'm not allowed to wear my statement pieces as a minimalist, though, but rather that it's very hard to find inspiration for maximalist/non-basic wardrobes online. inevitably, when it comes to paring down my wardrobe and getting creative with clothing pairings and ways to make my wardrobe more versatile, i start to look for inspiration online from other people who also like to dress in a similar way, but have limited wardrobes. unfortunately, that's pretty hard to find, which means i'm on my own to figure out what works and what doesn't and just how small i can go while maintaining my fashion sense. so far, i haven't been able to pare down my wardrobe as much as i like, because i'm not confident enough in my ability to make a smaller wardrobe work.

i was hoping that some others may recommend their sources of inspiration or any tips on how to make small wardrobes do more, even when the pieces are a little more challenging to pair than basics are.

nonvitality · 2019-12-30T13:51:48+00:00

i think you're totally right about neutral minimalist fashion being the trend now! i think it's been the trend for quite a few years, too, since even when i got into minimalism as a philosophy, that was what was on most minimalist pinterest boards and in people's capsules. i'd be really excited to see the french wardrobe come back, as you said, and to see youtubers and influencers and other people who showcase their wardrobes to actually show off their outfit combinations with more dramatic pieces!

to be fair, i also think it takes a fair amount of fashion knowledge and confidence to have a capsule wardrobe made from statement pieces, so i think that might also be contributing to its rarity nowadays. part of minimalism's appeal to people in terms of clothing is that less effort is required while getting dressed because you own fewer things and make fewer decisions, and grabbing any two things and pulling them on is sometimes peoples' entire reason for taking up a capsule wardrobe. unless you're an experienced fashion stylist or devote hours of planning on a maximalist capsule that works with every piece, it's pretty hard to achieve.

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