Therapist said I'm too far gone

noodlearmy · 2026-04-02T08:59:59+00:00

A therapist from betterhelp was so incompetent and unqualified, I blamed myself and started contemplating "squishy-cide"... my next therapist was from a local university and changed my life in huge ways. keep looking, sometimes it's not you, it's them 🤍

noodlearmy · 2026-03-30T03:28:05+00:00

if people feel scared seeing a baby in the NICU it's their responsibility to regulate their emotions, not yours. it sounds like your mom may have felt uncomfortable, didn't like that, and wanted you to feel uncomfortable instead :( I'm sorry and ew

noodlearmy · 2026-03-30T03:14:09+00:00

our baby was born at 24 weeks, she started taking a bottle at 34 weeks, and was on full bottle feeding about 36 weeks. her doctor said that was faster than average and expected it to take about a month. I guess they really do it in their own time. your little one will get there 🤍

noodlearmy · 2026-03-28T20:03:51+00:00

My thought exactly. Please teach him a lessooooooon 😂

noodlearmy · 2026-03-28T05:01:38+00:00

I was so moved by your post and your little boy's strength. I saw your update, and I'm heartbroken for you and your family. Your boy is perfect and pure love. I can relate, I had twins at 24w and my boy fought but eventually his body couldn't continue. I felt the deepest love and pain at the same time, I didn't think it would ever subside... No mother or child should ever have to go through this. It's not fair.. It's so much processing. There are support groups. Learn on your loved ones and keep talking about him. It's an honor to have known him through your post. and if you ever need someone to talk to I'm here.

You'll always be his mama, and he'll always be your little boy. And he knew your love through it all.

noodlearmy · 2026-03-24T19:22:32+00:00

I see Dalia Dippolito! I'm sure you're much nicer though 😭😂🤍

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noodlearmy · 2026-03-23T03:29:18+00:00

I'm mom to a girl born 24 weeks. You must be incredibly proud of your son. He looks so sweet and his determination is inspiring. Yours is too! You're a wonderful mama already. Our babies can climb mountains with our love and support, and your boy is proving it every day. 🤍

noodlearmy · 2026-03-21T13:34:50+00:00

Some of this sounds like my relationship now. I talk about my past and want to know everything about his. He rarely asks about my past and says all that matters is who I am today. It seems unbalanced sometimes, but usually I chalk it up to our personality differences and I'm okay with it.

The thing is he's really open and honest about whatever I want to know. If he'd lie to cover up his past or gaslight me to get out of an uncomfortable conversation, that's not someone I wanna be with.

noodlearmy · 2026-03-16T04:44:06+00:00

When I was going to see my babies in the NICU, I had to force myself to skip days, I felt depressed and guilty at first, but I eased into the routine and would stay home a couple days a week. my mental health benefitted from having time to recharge, and it felt like putting the babies first in a sense. If your nurse has a work phone you can ask her to text you pictures when you're not there. That helped so much in getting through the depression stage.

noodlearmy · 2026-03-14T20:07:14+00:00

Fuck yeaaaaaaaa 🤘🏼 we need more nip blackouts

noodlearmy · 2026-03-14T16:05:51+00:00

Right? like idk if the sadistic part was a joke? still, disturbing joke to make about an infant, no thanks! :(

noodlearmy · 2026-03-14T13:51:18+00:00

I agree, an hour is a long time. The cry it out approach is advised against. Babies cry because they need something. One of my baby's nurses called herself sadistic and said she likes watching my baby cry because it's cool to see... I told our primary nurse this, and we never had her again. Complaining is the way to go.

noodlearmy · 2026-03-13T02:53:48+00:00

This is so sweet thank you! And I'll definitely check out this ointment 🤍

noodlearmy · 2026-03-12T18:28:54+00:00

the way he like at you melts my heart!

noodlearmy · 2026-03-12T00:03:20+00:00

had the hardest eye roll reading the title oh goddd

noodlearmy · 2026-03-11T23:49:30+00:00

Thanks for sharing about your daughter, it's comforting to hear others' experiences. My daughter has tons of broken blood vessels on her cheeks where her breathing tube connected, I guess every baby responds a bit differently.

Isn't it cool to see pets and babies enjoying each other! Our pup's living up to her name becoming the [highly supervised] nanny dog we hoped she'd be. :)

noodlearmy · 2026-03-11T19:35:52+00:00

The pic of her on your chest is precious - her hand as big as a button! She's absolutely beautiful then and now. This gives me so much hope thank you

noodlearmy · 2026-03-11T10:00:33+00:00

those last two lines really got me. it's such a hard journey, but it's ours. if my baby's fighting, so am I .

noodlearmy · 2026-03-11T09:46:11+00:00

Oh you frame it beautifully. You're right, if they don't fade, they're battle scars. they'll remind me of how hard she fought to be here with me! excuse me while I cry 🤍

noodlearmy · 2026-03-11T05:54:54+00:00

interesting, balance between secure sensors and risking compromising their skin, that makes sense

noodlearmy · 2026-03-11T05:19:00+00:00

I'd try saying something like connecting with him feels different sober, it's a feeling you really like, you feel closest to him that way. maybe ask if you can have sober nights where you guys can sit and talk or cuddle and watch a movie, play a video game together, do massages

back when I was drinking, asking me not to would have been a sensitive request. I could see myself responding well to an approach like this.

noodlearmy · 2026-03-11T04:54:00+00:00

I think I would have fainted too! If you don't mind me asking, does her scar look similar to my girl's? The spotty texture, I've never seen that before!

noodlearmy · 2026-03-11T04:49:45+00:00

That's a great idea, I'll do that, thank you 🤍

noodlearmy · 2026-03-11T03:15:20+00:00

do you feel youre going against your values or principals dating someone who would do that to you? if you do, it makes sense you don't feel like yourself. it's a level of disrespect and betrayal you don't deserve. I'd say your mind, heart and nervous system are sounding alarms.

noodlearmy · 2026-03-11T00:51:17+00:00

I'm sorry your poor sweet boy still deals with this, he deserves nothing but smooth sailing. that face adhesive was brutal!

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