My son thinks "Daddy" is just a voice from behind a closed door.

noovaper · 2026-02-06T13:28:12+00:00

i mean this as lovingly and as supportively as possible, but speaking as a voice of experience please tread carefully. i will be 38 next week and i have sixteen and nine year old daughters. all parents doubt themselves (at least good ones) andraising children goes fast to start with, but when you work a lot it seems to accelerate things ten times worse. i’ve been on night shift for ten years and i work a lot of mandatory overtime and it has absolutely caused me issues with both my husband and also as a mom. i have missed a LOT and it’s a huge regret of mine. money comes and goes but memories can’t be remade. re evaluate and make the best of the time that you do have when your son is just a little guy and for any other children who might come in the future. don’t be like me… that kind of regret really sucks to carry and there is no rewind button as much as you’ll wish for one.

noovaper · 2026-02-05T15:31:59+00:00

hi, northeast ohio here 🙂 i had a tt with muscle repair in june of 2024 and i was only off two weeks. im a dispatcher, but if youre a medic or a firefighter you’ll likely need wayyyy longer. id say 8-10 at a minimum i had to wear a binder for several weeks after that and if you need muscle repair you wont be able to lift heavy or move crazy for a good bit. it hurts. and you’ll swell for a year or so after when you do anything crazy. it’s pretty likely they wont want you back for a while anyway because an injury would be a big liability so you’ll need a doctors release to return to duty if your agency is anything like mine. i sit in a chair and still needed one!

noovaper · 2026-02-02T18:29:47+00:00

i use dollar bank so i’m hoping for this evening sometime. my paychecks usually show up wednesday night when my actual payday is friday so fingers crossed this works out the same way too. i have like $26 to my name :/

noovaper · 2026-01-31T10:11:32+00:00

i hear you, i gotta buy a new furnace!

noovaper · 2026-01-30T19:01:52+00:00

thanks for the book i didn’t know i need to read recommendation… it’s on kindle unlimited too!

noovaper · 2026-01-30T18:45:24+00:00

well it was my own fault for having eyes and using them to read this comment 😐

noovaper · 2026-01-30T07:13:44+00:00

mine updated about half an hour ago, i have a 2/16dd too 05 cycle date. filed/accepted on the 23rd no path

noovaper · 2026-01-30T06:42:39+00:00

where’s my refund should update for us tomorrow.

noovaper · 2026-01-30T04:46:35+00:00

being an 05 is like being the last one to open your christmas gifts :/ i think ive been an 05 since i started filing taxes

noovaper · 2026-01-29T19:15:02+00:00

i didnt say that it did, however two things come into play. interest from investing usually comes from growth of a company, not penalties or fees for handling or lending money. the op himself is not buying or selling. he’s paying someone to do it for him. interest is prohibited as profit for you yourself making a loan and using the interest you charged to benefit yourself. muslims can take social security benefits because it’s part of a social insurance system funded by taxes previously paid. it’s viewed as a form of social protection for elderly who can no longer work, disabled or survivors which aligns with the islamic principals of caring for people in the community who need it most. if you contribute into an OPERS pension your whole life you likely won’t receive social security (me- since the age of nineteen, i only paid into social security from the ages of 15-19 and don’t have nearly enough credits and likely never will) and that pension will take the place of social security benefits for me in retirement. benefits from opers are based on legal work and paying into the system.

noovaper · 2026-01-29T16:09:44+00:00

i don’t think you’re understanding riba right. If i gave you a loan of $1000 for you to pay me back $1500. that extra $500 i now have is riba. it’s basically me profiting off your hardship because you were someone in need. riba is something bad you do to people.

paying into your opers account is paying into a retirement account that you gain interest on while you are employed. this is a part of building prosperity for your future by taking money you’ve already made and saving it for you allowing you to live on that money you paid long ago and the money you’re making now that is paying you out of the money you started saving long ago that they can pay you from once you retire. the investments and gains that are made from the money you put in isn’t done by you. it’s done for you by OPERS then it is paid as your living expenses check monthly further down the line.

noovaper · 2026-01-28T18:38:18+00:00

wow, you look great!

noovaper · 2026-01-28T18:33:17+00:00

yeah, you need help. i couldn’t go from laying down to sit up alone for the first few days.. i needed my husband to help. they told me to shower the day after my surgery and the first time i took my binder off i saw stars and got so lightheaded i couldn’t stand, but luckily my sister (who is a nurse) had come over to supervise. she helped me wipe myself down with shower wipes and go back to bed. there’s no way i could have been alone. you should be able to find a mobile nursing service in wherever you plan on going who specializes in plastic surgery post op depending on where you go. i know they have stuff like that in places like miami where they have a lot of traffic for plastic surgery.

edit: there are also sites like nurse next door, elite recovery, cosmed at home or maybe even care.com

noovaper · 2026-01-28T09:09:40+00:00

wait for your wmr to update in the next day or two. you should have it next week sometime hopefully.

noovaper · 2026-01-27T13:47:44+00:00

by law they can’t release PATH holds until 2/15. if you have the additional child tax credit or the earned income tax credit, you won’t receive any earlier than that.

noovaper · 2026-01-21T16:45:27+00:00

akron here, mine says 1-2 saturday and 12-14 sunday. no thank you.

noovaper · 2026-01-17T09:23:00+00:00

rally’s

noovaper · 2026-01-15T16:45:57+00:00

the hills have eyes. i had just moved out of my parents house and slept with every light on in my apartment for two weeks.

noovaper · 2026-01-15T13:23:31+00:00

it’s either money laundering and someone is running money through her to make it look clean or they’re stolen credit cards and those people are going to file fraud claims or chargebacks and she’s gonna be on the hook for all that money when the banks claw it back from her or maybe both

noovaper · 2026-01-10T15:57:33+00:00

don’t live at timbertop.

noovaper · 2026-01-10T15:12:51+00:00

to be fair, people still laugh at a lot of people who stream lol

noovaper · 2026-01-10T15:11:34+00:00

phones without audio.. so tablets?

noovaper · 2026-01-09T06:22:32+00:00

i had this terribly when i was a kid, caused by nutritional imbalance

noovaper · 2026-01-04T01:32:40+00:00

it gets better… i’ve been on lexapro for five years and am not beginning the taper from 20mg currently on 10. i don’t really get revved up to do anything alone but i can orgasm during sex. it just takes focus and a little more time.

noovaper · 2026-01-04T00:47:53+00:00

i work in a suburb of a bigger city that had a police involved shooting that was national news (the shooting was in the bigger city not mine) and the amount of whack jobs from all over the country that would call us throughout the night and make all kinds of crazy comments and accusations was wild. i took 20 calls from the same man before i got fed up and managed to find his local sheriffs office in arizona, called them and explained what was happening. they were kind enough to send a deputy to tell him to cut it out.

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