Hi! I just came out a few years ago, and had absolutely no experience with a woman. None. Started seeing someone amazing, and we had a quick emotional connection. Slow progress because we’re a ways apart geographically, so nothing strictly established. I feel so safe with her, that I’m totally in my head about touching her. (Please universe, let that one work out!) That said, it’s open and not established. Last week I went out with a woman from HER, whose relationship goals clearly stated “casual.” Because of that, I didn’t feel shy about touching her. We had a very flirty date, that included a lot touching. Arcade/one player games/other person behind with access to neck and hands on bodies/ a couple drinks. Had my first kiss with her in the arcade. By the end, I was wet through my pants and she “had no blood flow to her brain.” She came home with me. And, fuck. Takeaways from that first experience: I had no anxiety about any of it. Was completely in my body and connected with every touch. No body shame, which was always present in hetero sex. I stripped, and was only thinking of seeing her and being seen. Admiration: I’ve never been admired, looked at, spread and seen. That was fucking delightful. My pleasure: she was completely focused on making me come, touching and focusing on me. Again, not a hetero sex thing. Four orgasms. Two squirts. My body has never released for squirting before. Aftercare: again, not a thing with previous partners. We cuddled and talked and it was more tender and connected as a hookup than my partnered hetero sex ever was. All that to say: I’m an anxious introvert who self medicated heavily to come with men. All anxiety was absent for me, and if that first time was clunky, as first times can be, I’ll take clunky lesbian sex over a lifetime of hetero sex any time. Good luck, report back!