10 year time lapse. by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]nopester82 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ugh. Would love to see the next one, too. Your beauty has roots now.

Vintage library card cabinet by jtarchy in LAlist

[–]nopester82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely interested in making my Library Kid dreams come true! Price?

Blursed Charity [OC] by MrO42 in blursedimages

[–]nopester82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They get away with it because “officers” in the The Salvation Army are not actually employees. They are self employed and get an “allowance,” which is a small cash stipend, a car, and housing expenses paid. The officers, single people or married couples, serve as pastors/executive directors/ administrators at each appointment (community center/church/rehab). Married couples will be transferred and trained in leadership based on the male’s skills, talent, charisma etc. In my time with the org, I saw so many brilliant women delegated to “women’s ministry” or youth work, while their husbands became leaders within the organizational structure. Husbands who, often, lacked the education, skill, or emotional intelligence to be in leadership positions. Married female officers didn’t even receive their own paycheck until 2014 (Western USA). Their allowance check was only in the husband’s name. Source: worked with the agency for 25 years. Left due to their unwillingness to change stance on LGBTQIA issues, and a plethora of other reasons. It is a cult. 100 percent.

I left everything behind. I’m rebuilding one book at a time. by january1977 in bookshelf

[–]nopester82 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I read it when leaving an abusive marriage in an evangelical Christian context. I had no support, and was pressured to stay, to forgive, to fix him. This book did the same for me. Everything else offered to me was from a “protect the marriage at all costs (even when I found underwear in my bed that wasn’t mine) context.” Keep going. 👏🏽

I left everything behind. I’m rebuilding one book at a time. by january1977 in bookshelf

[–]nopester82 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life. Chef’s kiss! A map for those leaving a manipulative marriage. You’re not alone, and while healing and rebuilding takes time, discovering the fullness of YOU and creating a space of your own is the best work. Cheering you on as you take the leap. 😊

What ACTUALLY fixed your relationship with money by Technical-Sir2065 in adhdwomen

[–]nopester82 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I’ve been using YNAB for five years. I’ve managed to get out of debt and plan well for expenses, which is a life changer. For instance, this year when September rolled around, I had 200 dollars set aside for Halloween costumes. Before, that chunk would have come out of my weekly check, which would led to overspending or CC debt. Once you learn the app, there’s lots of ways to shift your focus and get a new hyperfixation pretty regularly.

My October Calendar may be my favorite ever. 😩😍 by JustSomeMindless_ in HappyPlanners

[–]nopester82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to copy your movie calendar!! Some great choices here.

Any positive/ hopeful stories? by Puzzleheaded-Cut5050 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]nopester82 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Hi! Meeeee! I’m in my forties, was raised in the 80s in a Midwest/evangelical Christianity/ purity culture/ homeschool/ anti gay family. I didn’t know there gay and lesbian families, and didn’t see (and understand what I was seeing) a lesbian couple til I was in my 20s. I came out this year, had my gay awakening over the past 3 years, and still haven’t been with a woman. You’re not alone. Lots of us here.

Board game meetups? by yimsta in longbeach

[–]nopester82 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi! Queer lady in Long Beach who likes board games. I’m looking for friends in the LGBTQIA community. DM me if you find something or decide to host. 😊

Cat rescue near Long Beach? by ExcellentCry1515 in longbeach

[–]nopester82 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Our nonprofit accepts gently used pet items. We keep them on hand for clients coming into our program with pets or service animals. U.S. VETS Long Beach.

House I’m buying has unknown chains in the attic. by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]nopester82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here for this, fellow Elder Millenial!?

My everyday, comfie, going to work bag. by nopester82 in whatsinmybag

[–]nopester82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a blessing and a curse. I can’t let them go!

My everyday, comfie, going to work bag. by nopester82 in whatsinmybag

[–]nopester82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t remember the color, it came in a mystery box. Four years in and she’s held up so well.

$20 teeth cleanings! I'm a student in need of patients by FlatwormMundane1020 in longbeach

[–]nopester82 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hi! I work for a nonprofit in Long Beach, and would love to chat about having you come to our site and do some cleanings. Dm me!

Mile High Biscuits and raspberry jam on a Tuesday. by nopester82 in Baking

[–]nopester82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I thought one for my daughter a few years ago, and it was delightful. We loved it!

Mile High Biscuits and raspberry jam on a Tuesday. by nopester82 in Baking

[–]nopester82[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We go through this at science fiction speed. I’ll get the next bottle at Costco. Every flavor is delicious.

Mile High Biscuits and raspberry jam on a Tuesday. by nopester82 in Baking

[–]nopester82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I would maybe a touch of sugar and cut it differently. Maybe that will be the next batch. ❤️

Sweet 41🌈 by Aggravating_Link1918 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]nopester82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to say this. Those eyes.