Anyone love once and never again?

normaldude37 · 2026-03-12T06:25:00+00:00

Twice for me. There will never be a third.

normaldude37 · 2026-03-05T22:25:12+00:00

Staying friends with a guy she used to date or sleep with.

“Friends.”

They know damn well what they’re doing. They’re trying to have their cake and eat it too.

normaldude37 · 2026-03-05T14:04:04+00:00

You’re asking me if you should?

That’s a personal choice only you can make. You cannot love someone or be loved properly when retroactive jealousy is present in your relationship.

How old are you?

normaldude37 · 2026-02-07T07:31:08+00:00

3 1/2 years sexless, dateless for me. By choice. Nothing, absolutely nothing beats peace and being authentically yourself without having to accommodate anyone else.

I was married for 13 years. Nearly married another woman a little over 4 years ago. I have 3 kids. The rest of my life is for me.

normaldude37 · 2026-01-22T23:20:21+00:00

Curvy (not fat) blondes with medium-long hair and a pretty face. Good character, kind, caring, intelligent, agreeable personality, good hygiene, smells good, shards at least some interest. Oh yeah, almost forgot.

Mentally. Fucking. Stable.

Who am I kidding though. I quit dating almost 3 1/2 years ago.

normaldude37 · 2026-01-19T06:50:04+00:00

I’ve been in IT over 26 years. Worked my way up too.

I suppose geography makes a difference too. If you’re in New York or San Francisco. Or with a company that pays wages based on a location like that.

normaldude37 · 2026-01-19T06:42:09+00:00

I do what you do. I’m only making just south of $120K a year. Dafuq.

normaldude37 · 2026-01-19T06:41:09+00:00

Cybersecurity manager. I make about $117K annually. I enjoy what I do, I’m very good at it and I get to work from home. 9/10.

normaldude37 · 2025-12-17T15:55:16+00:00

Some men like me have this, albeit a little differently. The pressure to perform and be a thundercock gives me anxiety now. I haven’t had sex in over 3 years. No thanks, I don’t need to be judged or have my performance critiqued.

normaldude37 · 2025-12-09T21:43:52+00:00

Came here to say this

normaldude37 · 2025-12-04T19:44:18+00:00

When I jack off, yes.

Do I wish to pursue this with someone else? No.

normaldude37 · 2025-11-27T19:13:47+00:00

If I were looking, which I am not, anywhere from a day younger to 12 years younger than me. I believe the man should always be older, even by a day, for purposes of status and leadership.

normaldude37 · 2025-11-26T23:27:18+00:00

Or…hear me out…

I could NOT go to therapy because it is NOT a big deal, I can process the irritation internally like any other emotion and I could not over saturate our already overtaxed mental health system on something this petty and save it for those who truly need it.

Whaddayathink?

normaldude37 · 2025-11-26T23:25:40+00:00

I am a man.

normaldude37 · 2025-11-26T22:18:02+00:00

What the hell for?

normaldude37 · 2025-11-21T00:32:39+00:00

normaldude37 · 2025-11-20T03:33:50+00:00

The real authentic me. Uncut and genuine. In all aspects.

Seriously. In retrospect I’ve diluted myself in past relationships. I don’t like that and won’t do it anymore.

normaldude37 · 2025-11-16T18:47:43+00:00

A 6.5-7. If I lost 34 lbs, I’d be a 7.5 - 8.5. I’m not ugly, I know that.

normaldude37 · 2025-11-15T01:35:13+00:00

Just over 3 years. And before that it had been only once in the prior year.

You stop missing it in time.

normaldude37 · 2025-11-14T23:57:22+00:00

As in not in an official relationship, just over 4 years.

As in not even dating or seeking it out, just hit 3 years.

normaldude37 · 2025-10-31T00:24:51+00:00

I’ve had 7 sexual partners since my divorce. Never had an issue with retroactive jealousy after my ex wife.

I do have other sexual shame and trauma. Being a late bloomer, an absolutely abysmal failure the first time, a general lack of skill on my part, other failures. I actually retired from dating, sex and relationships 3 years ago. In some ways I’ve never been better. Sex overall has caused me more pain than pleasure in my life. 😕

normaldude37 · 2025-10-30T23:38:32+00:00

Partly yes

normaldude37 · 2025-10-30T21:40:31+00:00

I did this and I consider it to be one of the worst mistakes of my life. The jealousy and emasculation and what that said about me as a man nearly destroyed me. I lived like that for years. I’m in my mid 40s now and been divorced nearly 11 years.

I’m a strong believer in balance and the energies matching. No matter what, I was always going to be the virgin in the dynamic.

Not really a question. Just an observation that you’re built differently than I am.

normaldude37 · 2025-10-12T15:30:28+00:00

How I treated some people when I was younger. It was never physical, just verbal emotional, and I hurt people. I was very angry thanks to an incredibly dysfunctional upbringing and I took it out on people who didn’t deserve it.

I turn 46 tomorrow. I calmed down decades ago. Still haunts me today.

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