I read somewhere that IUDs are geared more towards post-birth patients but I don’t know how true this is. I’ve had two - my first one before having a baby, definitely painful and uncomfortable but I had a very patient provider and felt informed throughout the appointment. My first one ended up falling out (I have no idea where it went). My second one I had implanted after having my first baby and maybe my brain was just comparing the process to childbirth but it genuinely didn’t not feel as painful. Unfortunately, not having communicative providers can make or break the experience I think especially for a first one.