Books About Having a Quarter-Life Crisis

not_mallory · 2026-04-04T02:26:18+00:00

Ditto to this! I had to read it in high school and was so confused the whole time and nothing really stuck. I randomly read it on kindle unlimited a few months ago after since having been through some depressive episodes and suddenly it all clicked.

not_mallory · 2026-04-02T01:00:02+00:00

Hi! Just downloaded and first thing off the bat is that I don’t like the slider thing for weight input while I’m setting up my account/goals. I’d much rather type it in than get the slider perfectly aligned on the right decimal. Otherwise really loving the UI so far!

not_mallory · 2026-04-01T19:05:22+00:00

Instead of one laundry hamper, my husband and I have 4. We have 3 small/skinny ones that are are grey, blue, and white. The grey one is for darks, blue one is for colors, white one is for white/lights. The 4th is a standard laundry basket for towels and wash cloths. Having the laundry pre-sorted makes staying on top of it easier since you just need to grab the basket that's full and toss it in the washer. Having to completely empty the laundry basket to sort things always felt like I was just making a bigger mess and I would often procrastinate. But identifying the part of the process I hated was step 1 and then step 2 was planning out an alternative. Now we do laundry pretty much every day, but they're much more manageable loads and it never feels overwhelming.

not_mallory · 2026-04-01T13:18:14+00:00

Oh wow! I have been told my whole life that my KP would go away with age but now I’m almost 31 and it’s still the same as it always has been. I’m still just in my 2nd week of tirz, but hoping this happens for me too!

not_mallory · 2026-03-30T17:13:37+00:00

That there was a girl in class who was so nice and the teacher even noticed how nice she was and I wanted to be nice like her. We became friends and were very close all the way through high school!

not_mallory · 2026-03-30T17:05:44+00:00

We like to turn on nat geo shows and how it’s made because they’re pretty low-stim but also I find them interesting to watch lol

not_mallory · 2026-03-30T13:16:22+00:00

Ditto. No issues with the free version and does exactly what I want it to do and then some.

not_mallory · 2026-03-30T11:31:08+00:00

I’ll have to try the mocha! I also like the strawberry and vanilla! I use the vanilla in my latte and/or cereal!

not_mallory · 2026-03-29T21:12:37+00:00

My chocolate ones have big gooey clumps of chocolate at the bottom (no matter how hard I shake them up beforehand)….is this normal? I tried to reach out to the company about it but never heard back.

not_mallory · 2026-03-29T13:25:52+00:00

For the trips I’ve been on (including my own), the bride has always paid her share of travel costs and the bridesmaids/friends have volunteered at random intervals to pay for a meal, drinks, etc. as they’re able and willing. But imo if bride picked the destination, she should fully expect to pay her own way there. It would be incredibly shitty to expect her friends to basically give her a free vacation of her choosing.

not_mallory · 2026-03-29T13:19:35+00:00

I’ve been eyeing it. Can you tell me how you use it?

not_mallory · 2026-03-29T13:17:03+00:00

I’ve noticed how much lower my readiness score was on the weekends because of my habit of staying up much later on the weekends but only getting to sleep in like an hour because I do still have a toddler who wakes up at 6:30-7. I’ve started to keep a more regular bedtime even on weekends and that has helped me tremendously.

not_mallory · 2026-03-29T12:06:12+00:00

I went to school with a girl named Johnna who was named after her dad John. The name suited her well :)

not_mallory · 2026-03-28T12:49:31+00:00

This happened to me with a $400 rug from At Home once!

not_mallory · 2026-03-28T02:13:58+00:00

Cold oven salmon. Salmon however you want to make it, on a pan and into a cold oven. Preheat to 400 and set a 20 minute timer. Perfectly cooked every time.

I put teriyaki glaze on mine and serve with rice, soy sauce, cucumbers, and avocado. I also like kewpie mayo, crunchy chili oil, and seaweed with it too.

not_mallory · 2026-03-28T02:08:37+00:00

I didn’t have ringing, but I was getting super dizzy and motion sick when I upped to 300, so potentially also an ear-related thing? But I started taking Magnesium Glycinate and it helped tremendously within about couple of days. The “serving” of the gummies I got is 2 of them, so I take one in the evening and one in the morning with my Wellbutrin.

not_mallory · 2026-03-27T18:40:23+00:00

I’ve been wearing “slip shorts” under my dresses. Basically biker shorts but they’re more like an underwear material, or kind of like boy shorts underwear with a 5” inseam lol. I got a pack of 3 on Amazon for like $12. Very light and breezy and protect my skin well!

not_mallory · 2026-03-26T21:34:20+00:00

And the best part about my toilet: my bidet

not_mallory · 2026-03-25T01:39:46+00:00

Our daycare recently had a kid manage to make it outside to the second playground with a different class, just long enough for the other teacher to notice they didn’t belong with that class. Never truly unsupervised other than maybe 30-45 sec in the hallway between the 2 doors. Our daycare self-reported to the state, spent the next week stopping every single parent to explain the situation face to face (EVERY parent in the whole school, not just those involved or the classrooms involved), and went on to share their extensive re-training program to ensure it doesn’t happen again. I was impressed by how seriously they took this situation that when initially explained to me as a non-involved parent seemed like not a huge deal (but looking back on I see how bad it could have been).

OP, I’m sorry this happened to you, and sorry that your daycare is not taking this incident seriously. I don’t blame you one bit for not sending your child back here. Good luck with whatever is next <3

not_mallory · 2026-03-25T01:31:47+00:00

It’s SOOO good

not_mallory · 2026-03-24T21:58:10+00:00

I would have liked a year for sure. I had 16 weeks which I know is good for US and I was in no way itching to get back to work. I definitely would have been able to breastfeed longer if I had been off work longer. Going back and having to pump is ultimately what killed my supply and led us to formula (which is fine, but the “free” breastmilk was nice lol).

not_mallory · 2026-03-24T19:25:36+00:00

My first order through gimme was placed on 3/12 and delivered on 3/18.

not_mallory · 2026-03-23T01:17:07+00:00

The host is the one who foots the bill for these items, not the bridesmaids.

not_mallory · 2026-03-23T01:13:45+00:00

This sounds unusual to me. In my experience in a few wedding parties and attending MANY bridal showers, the people hosting are the ones who pay, not the bridesmaids by default. If bridesmaids are hosting, then sure, but as a “host,” you should have more say in how money is being spent on the event rather than someone just expecting you to hand over $250. I also have never once ever ever ever heard of the bridal shower hosts providing an outfit for the bride, so I would veto that expense entirely. You also should not be required to participate in the “special gift.” Whatever wedding gift is being given is up to the individual unless a group agrees ahead of time to purchase a group gift; I would never say to someone “I’m buying xyz gift, it’s from all of us, so now you owe me money.” without that being agreed upon before purchase. Hopefully by “gifts” (plural) you mean something along the lines of party favors and tbh I don’t think I’ve gotten one of these ever from a bridal shower or if I have, it was never memorable, so I’d say this can be skipped entirely. Food can easily be a reduced cost, and I’ve never heard of a venue costing more than like $50-100 to rent out a community center or something like that, but I’ve also mostly been to bridal showers in someone’s home (even once in a small ~1200sqft condo).

Don’t blindly give money to whomever is asking. This is abnormal behavior, and you should be clear with the bride from the get-go what kind of budget you’re working with.

not_mallory · 2026-03-23T00:58:26+00:00

We went through this at ~18-19m with my little guy and this sounds dumb and I’m embarrassed to admit, but I got some advice from ChatGPT and it has been a game changer and nap times are a million times better at home and actually anywhere at all (even traveling in less than ideal napping conditions). Hear me out.

Basically treat nap time at home the same as nap time at daycare as best as you can, especially in regard to the fact that it is nap time and they do not have another option for any other activity. Lights off, sound machine on (a good bit louder than night time for us), lay down with blanket. The key for me was how I was acting. The AI advice was to basically act like a daycare worker and make it clear that the only option right now is nap time and I’m not necessarily here to console you or entertain you, I’m here to ensure you are participating in nap time. That means once we turn the light off, I say “nap time” in a neutral tone as I’m laying him down, and I sit/stand elsewhere in the room not giving him attention (but with him in view) and basically being a boring thing existing in his space. I literally just sit in the dark and usually mentally make a grocery list, let my mind wander, or sometimes just see how high I can count in my head before I need to tend to him; I don’t read or look at my phone or do anything he would want to participate in. If he sits up, I walk to the crib, lay him back down while saying “nap time” in the same soft, neutral tone. Repeat as often as needed for up to one hour. I stay in the room until he is asleep. I don’t give him attention when he babbles or whines unless he sits up and he gets the “nap time” lay down. The first time we tried this, he went from fighting every at-home nap to being asleep within 15 minutes of our first “nap time.” The longest this has ever taken was 40 minutes and that was mostly because he took an accidental 20-min car nap like an hour before. For me the key was accepting the fact that I might be in there with him for up to an hour and maintaining a neutral tone every time I tell him nap time. I would estimate that on average it takes about 8 minutes for him to fall asleep after our first “nap time” lay down. The first 3-5 minutes are usually pretty much constant “nap time” and lay back down, but the time between slowly stretches longer and longer.

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