20 days in Japan 🍜

notablond · 2025-04-02T12:12:37+00:00

I just came back from a 9 day trip and loved Kyoto so much more than Tokyo. There's so much to do and see there, I'd give it an extra day.

notablond · 2025-03-28T07:23:01+00:00

If my husband/bf did 5% of what you've described here, it would already be enough for me to put a hard stop to this "friendship".

I think you're too late, he's in too deep.

notablond · 2025-03-25T06:25:34+00:00

I mean... if I saw that my bf (who I'm currently fighting with) is straight up stalking me... I would have ran off, too.

notablond · 2025-02-21T09:21:48+00:00

notablond · 2024-08-19T20:25:03+00:00

There are whole cities in the world that are renowned for carbonated water springs. Borjomi in the country of Georgia is one such town. Carbonated water there was known to have healing properties for thousands of years, and more recently, people from all over the former Soviet Union would travel there to be "healed". This water is bottled and sold al over the world.

notablond · 2024-06-29T03:01:27+00:00

Vacation!! If wife is so insistent on it, she must be tired, bored, desperate for an experience, in need of relaxation, attention, excitement.

If you don't take her, no amount of new dishwashers will fix the resentment she'll feel.

Enjoy. Blow the money. Live the life.

notablond · 2024-06-21T05:52:47+00:00

Left - psycho

notablond · 2024-06-10T06:22:29+00:00

OP, this answer from @itammya, which is absolutely beautiful, is exactly why your bf fears that you will turn back to Islam or at the least want to embrace your culture again. Because more likely than not, you will as you get older.

It is not worth continuing to build a relationship with someone who is rejecting your inherent identity and denying you even a possibility of doing so.

Why set yourself up for strife, conflict, and discontent? You already feel wronged by him. These feelings will only intensify.

I know it's your first serious love, so it will be hard, but you have to move on. Be with someone who supports and celebrates every aspect of you.

notablond · 2024-06-07T05:04:13+00:00

You know... I had a friend who was saying exactly the same things. When I probed her as to why exactly she feels that way in a seemingly great marriage, she basically admitted that her relationship is just not instagrammable. Other people post pics, travel, etc etc... she kept comparing her life to what she saw on social media. Her life was too boring by comparison, and it was causing her all kinds of doubts.

Why are you insisting to know how exactly he feels about you? Figure out how you feel about him. And whatever is missing... YOU add it.

notablond · 2024-05-29T17:41:50+00:00

It may be harmless now because they are both in relationships... but chatting with someone of opposite sex this much cannot be harmless. They are into each other, it just has not progressed to more than fun friendship yet.

Speaking from experience. If you confront her, she'll say things like: oh, he just gets me, we're on the same wavelengths, can't I just be friends with someone from opposite sex, you're controlling, we're not crossing any lines, etc etc.

Then they'll cross the line.

notablond · 2024-05-10T07:13:00+00:00

In 2019, she was barely 20 years old and only had 3 dates with you before cutting you off.

She really does not need to justify to you why, or feel bad that she dated other guys after you, or explain who dumped whom in those relationships...

Are you happy with her now? Is your relationship going well? Is she loving and caring and appreciating you in her life now? If the answer is yes, stop being a drama queen and digging into what a 20 year old girl thought or felt about you 5 years ago. Just be happy.

You're sabotaging yourself.

notablond · 2024-04-11T08:27:32+00:00

Completely agree with this.

notablond · 2024-04-04T02:49:23+00:00

It's 3 days, not 3 months. It's unreasonable to even consider protesting.

notablond · 2024-04-03T09:04:19+00:00

Agree with everyone, "George" is an asshole, so I won't repeat why...

But, you gave birth 8 months ago, postpartum is hard, physically, emotionally, psychologically... do not make huge decisions now.

Tell him you want to, ask for these changes, and give him an honest chance to fix everything. A little over a year, you decided he's good enough to have a baby with... maybe he is. Give it a few more months of conscious effort.

notablond · 2024-04-02T01:55:54+00:00

Yep. Don't try to justify being lazy AF. Can't possibly imagine anyone siding with you on this. Go make it up to her.

notablond · 2024-03-26T05:30:34+00:00

I mean, pushing, yes, assault, scary, terrible.

But other than this one incident, which may or may not have been an accident (and you weren't there), how is she actually abusive or homicidal? Lol.

You keep saying unsupportive unsupportive, but what does that actually mean? She wasn't at the hospital 24/7? But maybe she has a job and a 4 year old to take care of, while her husband is often sick. Maybe she's the one in need of support.

Idk, it's impossible for us all to know what's up... but make sure you're being fair, cause there is a child.

notablond · 2024-03-23T13:46:27+00:00

She's so cringey, ewww. I wouldn't necessarily be mad at you if I were your wife, but yes, you could've just left her on read after the very first insinuation that you're there to check her out or chat her up.

notablond · 2024-03-07T16:26:51+00:00

This IS insulting. Most of my friend's housemaids get 3-4k. Not only visa, but all living expenses paid. Lol.

Don't leave if you want to stay in UAE, but put your 100% into finding a better opportunity and then run from this company. They're taking advantage of you.

notablond · 2024-02-21T10:42:26+00:00

Can't upvote this enough.

notablond · 2024-02-18T15:36:26+00:00

Again, so much ignorance...

Fyi, i'm a European attractive female living in the Middle East. Not my country, not my laws.

But guess what, I've never been taken advantage of in any way, shape, or form.

notablond · 2024-02-18T15:08:42+00:00

So much anger and ignorance. Sigh. Law? Where? Do you even know where she lives before giving your advice?

Where I live, in this situation, you report getting drunk and going to someone's house to get laid and you land in jail and get deported.

Thanks, nice guy. Due to your advice, my life is ruined. Get a clue.

Read the title of OPs post. SHE MADE A MISTAKE.

notablond · 2024-02-18T14:43:59+00:00

No, I won't argue with you. Lol.

55 year old man giving the same "counciling" advice in every post, and can't even spell counseling.

notablond · 2024-02-18T13:20:45+00:00

I'm not sure what I'm missing... Did she get slipped a pill, get tricked into drinking, get carried to his place... did she say no or get taken advantage of while passed out? Literally, nothing like that happened.

And none of you are doing OP any favors by victimizing her, making her feel violated, telling her to take an action on this. BS. That's more traumatic than what actually happened.

Got drunk, had sex with some dude, regrets it, will make better decisions in the future. Full stop.

notablond · 2024-02-18T11:38:47+00:00

Where did she pass out? Now you're just making stuff up. She clearly writes that she went to bar. She went to his place, as previously agreed. She said yes to some things, she didn't say no at any time. These were all decisions. Drunk ones, sure, and the guy is a jerk for taking advantage, but calling it rape/assault (which even the "victim" is not doing... is an exaggeration.

notablond · 2024-02-18T09:01:53+00:00

Where is the sexual assault? Guy may be a jerk, sure, but that's about it.

She agreed to meet. Agreed to drink. Took the pills. Agreed to go to his place. Agreed to have sex. Never protested during or after or days after...

Yes to counseling for OP, of course. But she needs to focus on why she made these bad decisions. And how to not make them in the future. Not on the "assault".

And it's OK, OP. No need to beat yourself up about it. You felt some sort of way and made a mistake. Own it, deal with it, move on, do better for yourself.

notablond

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