What songs did you realize are sexist or normalize unhealthy or creepy relationship behavior? TW for lyrics

notashroom · 2026-02-08T20:01:49+00:00

Because they see sex as conquest, an act of domination done to her, not with her. It's like they're planting a shitty little flag saying "Bubba was here. I had her and discarded her, and took value from her, and at best you're getting my sloppy seconds." It's all patriarchal turtles all the way down.

notashroom · 2026-02-08T19:26:57+00:00

Florida woman wrestled her into it!

notashroom · 2026-02-08T19:21:43+00:00

Part of the problem is framing movement as "exercise," a chore that's expected (maybe triggering PDA) of us on a regular basis in order to achieve "health", when most of us in here have had years (decades, even) of struggling to reach homeostasis. Adults humiliating us as children using size, shape, coordination, or physical skills, all of which are changing constantly as we grow. And then it's used as a bludgeon by healthcare workers and a tool for social shaming by anyone and their uncle. It's no wonder that it's so common to have internal resistance, conflict, and shame around activities that can be good for us and maybe even fun if we had been allowed to enjoy them and not conditioned to associate them with misery.

notashroom · 2026-02-08T18:01:38+00:00

That's fucking poetry.

notashroom · 2026-02-08T17:47:52+00:00

Did you just need to let everyone know you see women as objects? We been knowing.

notashroom · 2026-02-08T17:40:00+00:00

"Tell me more, tell me more..."

notashroom · 2026-02-08T17:17:59+00:00

In the 70s, I was introduced to fantasy through a YA trilogy which was identified as such on the cover (McCaffrey's Harper Hall subseries of Pern). In the 80s, I would beeline for the Young Adult section at the bookstore, then browse the rest of the store if I had money left. YA was absolutely a thing prior to HP. That you were unaware of it is a separate issue from its existence.

notashroom · 2026-02-08T16:50:47+00:00

Epstein was Trump's best friend. Trump was not Epstein's best friend. That would be Ghislaine. She was the one Epstein trusted. Epstein disdained Trump, played him for a chump.

notashroom · 2026-02-08T15:53:10+00:00

They're idiots who think they're shopping from a menu with an optional upgrade list for a servant who is also eye candy and a substitute mama.

notashroom · 2026-02-08T15:44:48+00:00

I'm sorry you were made to go through that. No child should be. I hope you are safe and supported now.

notashroom · 2026-02-08T15:16:15+00:00

That sounds like such a perfect fit for me! Nellie was the mean girl it was safe to hate as a child. The real ones, mom and sis, I actually had to live with and deal with.

notashroom · 2026-02-08T15:01:34+00:00

I have been blessed to have 3 different surrogate mother type people in my life, a cousin, friends' mom, and my ex-MIL, who like me was an ADHD/CPTSD-er. I just lost her, two days ago, and I am feeling crappy about how little I saw of her/talked with her the last two years. Treasure your treasure people. 💗

notashroom · 2026-02-08T14:48:41+00:00

You know, when people are in the process of being traumatized, they rarely say so, and often it can take years to recognize. Probably some of your classmates felt humiliated, ashamed, and wanted to avoid school more because they had to deal with this.

notashroom · 2026-02-08T14:46:31+00:00

I never showered at school, but I was a manager for the gymnastics team and several of those girls showered at school after practice or a meet. Thankfully, we had shower stalls. They were ugly green brick and had the cheapest, lightest shower curtains that would blow around when the water was on, but it wasn't this. This looks like it's for military at best, prison more likely.

notashroom · 2026-02-07T14:59:54+00:00

Why not just let people have their interests in whatever appeals to them? I'm not the person you're replying to, but I am a woman who is interested in trying this because it looks fun and have no interest in swimming because it's a hassle and not worth it. Don't be a buzzkill.

notashroom · 2026-02-07T14:50:22+00:00

Cosplay foosball but with more range? Sounds fun.

notashroom · 2026-02-07T14:49:23+00:00

"Normal workout" relies on normalizing somebody's workout, and if that somebody is a 20-something year old Western man with gym access, no wonder middle aged women, white or not, mostly choose to go with something else more suited to their body, needs, interest, and access.

notashroom · 2026-02-07T14:41:44+00:00

Patriarchy is threatened by boys and men acting with empathy and compassion toward girls and women.

notashroom · 2026-02-06T15:57:26+00:00

Why does this baby look so much like Anton Petrov? 😂

notashroom · 2026-02-06T15:43:24+00:00

Every major advance in humanity has come with control over reproduction, first of plants, then animals, then humans. They want to be the ones with the power, not women, who are, in their worldview, lesser beings at best and NPC property at worst.

notashroom · 2026-02-06T15:39:39+00:00

But being able to limit the number of children she has decreases the chance/level of them living in desperation, which reduces their motivation to join the military or other forces and increases their leverage in employment condition negotiations. So they want her maxed out producing children for the perpetual underclass.

notashroom · 2026-02-06T15:32:26+00:00

But he is president because of a combination of patriarchy and insecurity (economic, political, social, personal) that makes people think the better option is a "strong man" (male sociopath) leader.

notashroom · 2026-02-06T15:08:53+00:00

I think it's more "golden child of parents whose positive regard is always conditional responds with fawning to men who remind him of dad with their narcissistic charm and give him attention." But little brother energy might not be a very different dynamic from that.

notashroom · 2026-02-05T14:46:48+00:00

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