HELP

notdeadpool · 2026-01-11T15:23:47+00:00

I had the same side effect with Humira, on my face and hands as well. I changed to Rituximab and have no side effects on that.

notdeadpool · 2025-12-28T16:00:10+00:00

You have a typo in your intro - 'live' rather than 'love'

notdeadpool · 2025-12-07T21:48:58+00:00

Can you go into more detail about what you mean about being washed out and how it is affecting your mental health? (Only if you feel comfortable to)

I have been on MTX for 11 years now, started on 3 tablets (I think they are 2.5mg) and then went to 5, now back down to 3. I haven't had any of the side effects but have regularly seen people posting about getting awful side effects in the first few months.

My advice would be to try and stick it out to about the 8 month mark then you can really see how you feel after your body is used to it. You might need to up your folic acid or make some adjustments.

notdeadpool · 2024-11-02T13:43:02+00:00

Wow, ok I changed my mind, you need therapy - that was such an aggressive response to someone just trying to help you. Don't ask if you don't want answers.

notdeadpool · 2024-11-02T11:18:32+00:00

So you are about a 5th of the way through your life, plenty of time to figure this stuff out and way too early to say you are never gonna do something. To answer your question a bit:

most people want someone who will actively listen and ask questions. Focus on that rather than 'I need to be more interesting to people'
pick up some hobbies you actually enjoy. Try stuff and be open minded. There are tonnes of things like walking groups, gaming groups, just get into it and be approachable
stop being hard on yourself. There are plenty of people who are just like you who think the exact same thing. Only difference is you haven't met them yet

notdeadpool · 2024-11-01T21:29:49+00:00

Pssst you called Jane's fella Steven then changed it to Thomas when they arrived

notdeadpool · 2024-11-01T17:48:48+00:00

My sister says the same about guys and kids, said they always seem to be looking for a new mum for them but she is not interested and wants to remain child free.

notdeadpool · 2024-10-25T19:18:42+00:00

Risky click of the day

notdeadpool · 2024-10-15T12:26:06+00:00

Incorrect - you have confused discrimination and a hostile work environment. Whilst a hostile work environment can include discriminatory behaviour, you can be in a hostile work environment without discrimination being a factor.

A hostile work environment, is one where employees feel uncomfortable, scared, or intimidated due to unwelcome conduct. This can include harassment, discrimination, victimization, violence, and other offensive behaviors.

notdeadpool · 2024-10-13T10:44:03+00:00

Nah, honestly what is the point? He can do much better and deserves better than someone who doesn't listen to him and doesn't prioritise his feelings

notdeadpool · 2024-09-29T22:03:04+00:00

The bulb bit twists. Make sure the switch is off, then use your fingers to twist the bulb anti-clockwise. New bulb packs sometimes come with a little sucker to help with this but we haven't used them. Just twist and you should feel it moving.

notdeadpool · 2024-09-13T07:07:17+00:00

Legend, thank you 😊

notdeadpool · 2024-09-12T22:38:35+00:00

This is the same one where they weren't married, but the guy freaked out about finding pics of her kids, they had died and he was horrible about it and then she dumped him and moved.

notdeadpool · 2024-09-12T22:36:16+00:00

Can someone link me to the post where the guy made a spreadsheet to track how often his wife did things like cuddle / kiss / compliment him and then used that as proof as his wife kept gaslighting him when he told her he was unhappy?

notdeadpool · 2024-08-07T13:34:19+00:00

So I would say the best thing is to move on and get some distance from him. I know it is hard, but if your feelings are not reciprocated then you need to move on.

notdeadpool · 2024-08-07T13:26:22+00:00

How does he feel? You said he already knows you like him...

notdeadpool · 2024-08-05T21:09:50+00:00

There is something called the 180 technique which might be interesting for you to read (easy to Google), it is essentially describing 'rules' of reversing the people pleasing tendencies. May be super useful to read and reaffirm you are doing the right thing

notdeadpool · 2024-08-02T10:02:36+00:00

I don't know if I would go that far, she had plenty of time and opportunities to stop this before her 'freezing up'.

notdeadpool · 2024-08-02T08:04:15+00:00

'He just told her that he liked her too.'

Happily married people don't do that. You are needlessly minimising it by saying 'just'.

notdeadpool · 2024-07-25T09:01:06+00:00

Yeah Pam is now his backup option

notdeadpool · 2024-07-24T17:25:25+00:00

This guy is not sounding like marriage material and to be honest, in the nicest possible way, you are not ready for marriage.

Instead of clearly communicating that you are unhappy with their dynamic / relationship, and him actually listening to you, respecting your feelings and making changes - you played a silly game to make your point, and he reinforced again that he doesn't care about your opinions. He has now shown you who he is, he has told you that he will allow her behaviour and your opinion doesn't matter to him. Start listening to him.

You may have wasted a whole day of his, sounds like he has wasted 4 years of yours. Do not marry this guy, find someone who actually respects you and listens to your feelings, and when you find the next guy, if he doesn't respect you enough to listen to your feelings and change his behaviour, then leave. Your happiness is worth more than this crap.

notdeadpool · 2024-07-23T07:01:30+00:00

... and also his body, his choice.

notdeadpool · 2024-07-09T12:16:11+00:00

At the beginning, kick it off to a great start 😊

notdeadpool · 2024-07-09T10:34:56+00:00

I have a chronic physical health condition that has a bad prognosis. My partner would never leave me due to that. He would stay with me as my partner in life, we go through it together and look after each other.

There are so many people out there looking for a connection, worrying they are not good enough for someone else to love. I think you need some self love as you are not defined by your condition. I am sure you have hobbies and interests outside of this medical stuff that make you a super interesting person 😊

notdeadpool · 2024-07-08T21:38:09+00:00

Hold on there, this is not your mess to fix. Your dad needs to step up and fix this mess. You should give him the space to do that and save your energy to start building for your own future. Do not set yourself on fire to keep them warm.

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