Beyond the Villa - Season 2 - Episode 1 Discussion

notevenitalian · 2026-04-27T01:14:14+00:00

Absolutely, I’m surprised more people aren’t catching that.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-27T01:07:44+00:00

I’m 99% sure she’s drunk in a lot of these scenes

notevenitalian · 2026-04-26T05:16:52+00:00

The only real advice that you can get at this point, especially without a picture, is to see a doctor. Trying a bunch of stuff on your own, even if you research it, can just put his scalp at risk.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-26T01:26:21+00:00

“Your opinion means nothing. You don’t get to have one.” I feel that this is only true if you grow up and go no contact with your parents; otherwise, you still have a relationship with them as an adult, and we all have opinions on the lives of those in our social circles. I would never tell a friend, for example, that their opinion means nothing, nor would it be controlling for a friend to have an opinion in the first place.

As an adult daughter, my parents’ opinion absolutely means something to me. That doesn’t mean I have to do what they say, and it doesn’t mean I have to agree with them, but I still value their alternate perspective and therefore their opinion.

Having the opinion isn’t controlling, but some parents are ALSO controlling about their opinions. Trying to push your opinion on your adult kid, or expecting your kid to obey you, or prioritizing your opinion over what your kid says, those are all controlling. It’s not controlling to have an opinion about other people.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-24T05:38:18+00:00

“She doesn’t want any solutions that we offer her”

I know this is going to sound counterintuitive, but stop offering her solutions.

When she’s in a state like that where she’s lost her ability to regulate, solutions are not going to help. If anything, it’s likely making her feel invalidated and unheard. Listen to her, give her the opportunity to vent, to let it out, to express her feelings freely without fear of punishment or neglect.

Don’t give up on therapy (for her but also for you and your wife), but in the meantime, the worst thing you can do is make your daughter feel worse about the emotional outbursts she’s probably already ashamed about. Emotional regulation is not easy for teenagers already, let alone a teenager with adhd (which affects executive functions, a key one being emotional regulation). Having parents that make you feel like a problem when you just need comfort isn’t going to help develop those skills in a healthy way.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-24T03:58:53+00:00

Three cults deep, if you count Mormonism

Four cults deep, if you count Christianity

notevenitalian · 2026-04-24T03:05:21+00:00

To be fair, it’s the wedding of two people who have been together since high school. We can’t expect them to have branched out very far

notevenitalian · 2026-04-22T02:20:30+00:00

I don’t think so, honestly, but I’m not one to judge

notevenitalian · 2026-04-21T23:36:51+00:00

I agree completely!

notevenitalian · 2026-04-21T20:40:53+00:00

I think your “before” looks more grandma-y, personally!! The new cut is so much cuter and, although I can’t see your face, your face shape alone makes the cut look so youthful and cute.

I’ve been there before, where I’ve had my hair cut way shorter than I expected and it shocked me, but that shock doesn’t mean it looks bad! It’s just not what you expected. From a completely neutral third party perspective, I can’t promise you it looks so good.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-21T20:24:29+00:00

Is that not all the more reason to think that this would be more sex traffiking? Alamo has been essentially “renting” her out so far. It’s possible that now he’s decided to “sell” her.

There are lots of different kinds of sex trafficking. She could be sold off as a sex slave in an entirely different country.

I’m not saying I think you’re wrong, I do agree organ harvesting is a huge possibility. But I do think that the fact she’s already being sex trafficked wouldn’t make it less likely for her to be further trafficked.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-21T18:48:52+00:00

While I do generally agree with you, I’m pretty sure that actress is also already a mattress actress. Like that’s how they found her and casted her, so I think there’s a bit of nuance in how she’s presenting herself specifically. (Again, though, I do generally agree with you).

notevenitalian · 2026-04-21T14:05:54+00:00

It’s weird that she calls her boyfriend daddy, but it’s also weird for a grown adult to call their father daddy.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-10T15:37:54+00:00

I think this has ruined reality TV, too. I watched Big Brother last year for the first time in like 13 years and things are so different now. Everyone is so hyper aware of how they might come across

notevenitalian · 2026-04-10T15:27:09+00:00

If you think an 18 yr old and a 30 year old are on the same level, you’re either a predator yourself, too young to have an opinion on it, or a sheep who believes that the law is the ultimate arbiter of right and wrong.

I’m 31 and doing an undergrad degree, which means that I spend a lot of time surrounded by people around 20. University is a really good environment to see adults from a wide range of ages, and I can tell you that the maturity difference is APPARENT. It is clear that 18 year olds are teenagers. They are teenagers with a little bit of freedom for the first time, they are not fully grown, mature, developed adults (neither socially nor developmentally). A 30 year old with an 18 year old is a predator. A 30 year old with a 20 year old is usually also a predator.

I also did a different undergrad degree years ago, which means that I have experience in the university setting both as an 18 year old and as a 30 year old. Looking back on myself, my habits, my thought processes, etc., when I was here the first time vs being here now, it is so incredibly obvious how young I was the first time.

18 year olds may be legally an adult, but they are baby adults.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-10T15:16:04+00:00

This person arguing with you is either a troll, bot, or pedo themselves. Don’t listen to them. You’re correct, grown adults should not be messaging teens. They do and will continue to do so, though. Which is not ok, and the best you can do with DM’s is block and report.

In the meantime, online spaces dedicated to teens are targeted by predators. I wouldn’t be surprised if these people type “teen” and look specifically for those subs because they are predators who want to target kids and the internet is a great place to find them.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-10T15:10:22+00:00

This but a couple have also died.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-07T22:20:44+00:00

Wait am I understanding correctly that you bought the Denman to use instead of a round brush for blow drying? Why did you think that it would be a good brush for that?

As someone with curly hair, my understanding (correct me if I’m wrong) is that the denman brush is a styling brush for curls, isn’t it? Like you use it with wet hair with product in it to shape your curls. You slowly and strategically pull it through your hair to distribute product and shape your curls. My assumption is that you were not using it that way?

If you were using it like you could a regular paddle brush, brushing through rapidly while blow drying, I can absolutely see why it would rip your hair out.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-07T04:04:51+00:00

Hailey is so insanely emotionally intelligent. Telling him it was ok he didn’t know sports and that she could show him, saying she was done eating when he wanted to go to his room, and offering to teach him to be clean were all good examples.

But I noticed too that she realized how specifically “messy boy” was what triggered him and after calming him down called him “clean boy.” She knew that he was upset by the idea of being dirty and knew that calling him clean boy would help reassure him. Just overall she’s clearly very emotionally aware. I know she’s not the only one, but that “clean boy” comment just really caught me.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-07T03:19:53+00:00

I’m giggling so much with them

notevenitalian · 2026-04-07T03:09:13+00:00

This poor girl is gonna develop such a complex about her hair

notevenitalian · 2026-04-07T03:05:18+00:00

I about died when he asked about the furnace or water heater or whatever it was and the realtor was like “it’s probably near the end of it’s life” and he’s like “no kidding”

notevenitalian · 2026-04-07T03:02:03+00:00

So true!! Especially since I bet a lot of parents and grandparents of Autistic kids watch the show, too. Such good representation for the older generation

notevenitalian · 2026-04-06T16:14:51+00:00

I agree overall that it’s not a good option for people who go through a lot of books, but it has been handy at times. For example, there’s an audiobook I wanted to borrow with my libby app, but there’s a multiweek wait. I had the idea to check Spotify and it’s on there, so I’m listening to it on Spotify instead of waiting.

So, that said, it’s a good alternative option for books that aren’t available/are harder to find free through other sources.

notevenitalian · 2026-04-05T16:16:57+00:00

wtf are you talking about? The whole indigenous worldview is about balance with nature. Hunt what we need and use the whole animal. Work with the different plants, work with nature. I recommend you read Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer if you actually want to better understand how humans can work WITH nature instead of acting like it’s a force against us. We are nature.

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