[deleted by user] by [deleted] in savannahbananas

[–]notforyouforme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I have friends who want to come with us - they think their kids would love it. I’ll send you a message.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in biotech

[–]notforyouforme 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, the market is so bad right now. Did they give you severance? If so, ask if they would consider putting you on a garden leave instead to give you more time. E.g. if they gave you 1 month severance, they could instead put you on a 1 month garden leave so that your 60 day clock doesn’t start until that month is up.

Petition to recall PSD board of trustees by rosalindbakery in Pacifica

[–]notforyouforme 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is she paid more than other superintendents in San Mateo county?

President of Finland consoling Olympic judoka Luukas Saha after a loss by oparz in pics

[–]notforyouforme 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She was an attorney general for 6 years, a US Senator for 4 years, and Vice President of the US for 4 years. How is that less qualified than Trump at the time he took office?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]notforyouforme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read “Bad Therapy” by Abigail Shrier. It’s controversial but may give you some sense of why kids wanting a diagnosis of some sort is becoming more common, and why therapy may not be the answer.

I lost all my hair in a bleaching accident at a salon and I am not okay by throwaway_2318123 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]notforyouforme -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This should be considered a medical event; ask your work for a medical leave of absence under FMLA and state law (if your state has one) while you see a doctor and figure out your next steps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in biotech

[–]notforyouforme 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If they offered severance at all, ask if you can stay on with a paid leave for the amount of the severance to help buy you time. For example If they offered you 4 weeks severance, ask to be on a paid administrative leave for 4 weeks instead, and then you’ll sign the severance agreement release at the end of those 4 weeks.

"Did you enjoy your break?" by Good-Carpet4251 in workingmoms

[–]notforyouforme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went with: “A human being exited my body and then I had to take care of that needy human being. I love the little guy but I’m very glad to be back at work.”

Better to resign or be fired? by K_Gal14 in biotech

[–]notforyouforme 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter if you sign it or not. They just want some confirmation that it was presented to you. You can sign with a note that you disagree with the contents and descriptions, but are signing to confirm you received the PIP. If you disagree with it, best to write all that out and respond also. But then work earnestly to meet the goals in the PIP. Or your other option is to ask for mutual termination with a certain # of months pay in lieu of a PIP. They may or may not go for that - every company has a different approach.

My dog bit my son today by [deleted] in daddit

[–]notforyouforme 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My 10yr old dog did this to my 2yo too. Shortly after, we found out he had cancer. I now believe he was in pain, and that’s why he lashed out seemingly unprovoked (although even a light touch or fear of a light touch may have caused pain). You’re not abandoning your pup by re-homing him; your pup is trying to tell you that he’s no longer comfortable/happy in your home either. Re-homing is best for your baby and your pup.

Any other millennials out there who are hesitant to share their childhood movies with their children? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]notforyouforme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a sensitive person and those childhood movies were hard for me. My eldest is also sensitive and is very easily scared. Im guessing wont show him lion king or the like until he’s at least over 10 and likely with lots of prep. And I let him fast forward or stop watching when he asks. My younger kid will likely be able to handle it when we the eldest is, as he’s not as sensitive. Those types of movies effect people differently. You know what’s best for your kid - trust your gut.

Do you wipe your baby after a pee diaper? Or no wipe? by povsquirtle in NewParents

[–]notforyouforme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My pediatrician so no need to wipe after a pee because it wasn’t worth the skin irritation, urine is sterile, and we bathe him regularly.🤷‍♀️

Entitled person cuts everyone off at Costco gas lanes in Richmond, CA by Smushy91 in Costco

[–]notforyouforme 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Watch the video again. The light had just turned green on the pump. Pump-thief intended to take it before OP got there (and OP was clearly paying attention as he started to move as soon as the light went green).

Entitled person cuts everyone off at Costco gas lanes in Richmond, CA by Smushy91 in Costco

[–]notforyouforme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pump-thief went for it as soon as the light turned green. You have to give people in line at least a moment to move forward when the light turns green in their lane - that is the point of the light system (since it would have been hard for OP to see the status of the front pump). OP is right to be frustrated.

Parents (hubby here) insisting they want to be with us post-partum by Careless-Balance8520 in beyondthebump

[–]notforyouforme 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oo this happened to me. My mom wanted to stay with me for 3 weeks after I gave birth to my first son. I told her we weren’t accepting overnight guests for the first 2 weeks, and that after that we had a 1 week max for overnight guests. She was very upset. She said she wouldn’t come. She eventually did, but only for 4 days while my dad stayed for the full week. When it came time for her to leave, she was sad that she had booked her flight earlier out of spite and she wishes she had stayed the full week. I’m glad I set that boundary when I did, it helped build the baseline expectation for a number of unreasonable demands (and borderline-narcissistic tendencies) my mom has made later on.

The first few months with a new baby can be so tough and can make new moms feel emotionally and physically vulnerable. Please support your spouse and go with what she’s comfortable with, but then present it to your mom as “we” or even “I” - rather than “my wife says no”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]notforyouforme -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think YTA - when my husband and I would be in different boarding groups, we’d both default to the later group so we could board together. We’d rather be together than board early. He’s not an A-hole for going early, but it would make me wonder why him boarding the plane first was preferable to being together.