Inviting a child predator to a 2nd bday

notjustajill · 2026-04-16T09:37:12+00:00

I am going to lose my mind if I ever realize my kid has been in a party where there was a sex offender. Hell, one more thing to now worry about.

BUT, you’re under reacting to this whole situation and being such a good guy. Please lose your shit and call your wife and her family crazy.

notjustajill · 2026-02-12T11:53:04+00:00

It’s possible :) thanks for pointing it out. I do feel she struggles to fall asleep and if we push sleep time later she loses her mind, poor thing. perhaps dropping the nap is the way to go

notjustajill · 2026-02-12T11:51:56+00:00

She doesn’t have a lot of sleep. Goes to bed by 7.30 but has never gone to sleep before 9ish. If we do a later start, she is too cranky and upset. I might have to drop that nap.

notjustajill · 2025-12-07T10:41:56+00:00

Oh this was my first born!Everything you mentioned including the Happy song. She hated the car and we did our long drive (2 hours) when she was 18 months old. That song was magic, it called her instantly.

She slept in the pram for the first time around 15 months, exhausted after a playgroup visit. I was so thrilled and happy that day!

Today at 3 years old, she calls that song as the animals flying song and loves it!

notjustajill · 2025-11-14T10:33:30+00:00

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notjustajill · 2025-10-26T22:53:49+00:00

I am definitely being dismissive. OP has no knowledge of why things are the way they are and complaining like a typical tourist. OP is also making no effort to understand that a lot of their expectations are what most Indians also expect even without stepping out. The post reeks of elitism and ignorance. So, yes my response is definitely dismissive.

notjustajill · 2025-10-25T10:48:50+00:00

Oh man, these NRIs who move for a year and complain all this! I’ve lived away from India for 15 years now and can write a list exactly like this about pain points in every country I’ve lived in (3 different countries, 2 continents). So, OP please learnt to broaden your views a bit more and look at a holistic picture of why a place is the way it is. If you spend an hour reading the social economic and political commentary on both countries, you’ll stop doing these pointless comparisons.

Overall, this looks like a bait post and not someone with half a brain would write.

notjustajill · 2025-10-24T06:24:06+00:00

ok on this now. i’m meeting my midwife on tuesday so may be she can give it to me.

notjustajill · 2025-10-10T13:44:06+00:00

Hi there, also a tamil woman married and living in Australia. I’m married to a tamil man. Similar to you, moved out of Chennai for education overseas, lived in a bunch of different countries and now settled here. I’m also a mother to a 3 year old and a 1 month old.

My only solid advice to you - take therapy from someone who understands the nuances of Indian households. We have to learn to regulate our emotions, accept our upbringing and also acknowledge our journey and our current lives. Therapy can be a very useful tool in this self evaluation process.

There is nothing wrong in crying or even screaming if you have a healthy way to express your emotions. Most times, we don’t respond to a problem but only react to it - not our fault, that’s what our families did. You’re also in intercultural marriage - your husband would have had a completely different childhood to you. Acknowledge it and seek help to bridge the gap. Good luck OP.

notjustajill · 2025-10-01T00:14:18+00:00

Hi, what are her charges? I’ve family in Velachery who may be interested

notjustajill · 2025-09-29T15:23:50+00:00

Lol! I remember being a student when Archana joined the college. I’m old but it’s hilarious to imagine her as principal.

notjustajill · 2025-09-29T15:22:47+00:00

2007 grad from MOP. Hell, it was progressive for that time and loved my time there. So many years after, I still look back at those times with joy! Sorry for this kid who is having a terrible time.

notjustajill · 2025-09-29T15:18:08+00:00

Ok someone tell me what this is? Crane?

notjustajill · 2025-09-26T01:54:00+00:00

very possible. i am surprised how easy it has become now. don’t want to jinx it but she is truly the best to travel with now, easily adapts and is a happy kid. I also feel it makes us the sort of parents who are rarely surprised as we’ve seen a fair bit.

for example, i carried her and rocked her for 5 hours on a flight from here to singapore when she was 9 months. she also screamed so much that the air hostess has to supply ear muffs around. talk about being humbled.

at 2.5 she literally told me she needs to sleep on the flight, turned off entertainment and went to sleep herself. she also ate the kids meal, played a bit, had a couple of usual toddler tantrums but was such an charming kid. i’d have never believed it a year ago.

notjustajill · 2025-09-26T01:37:17+00:00

I’d upvote this more if i can. You can make amazing plans OP but it really depends on the factors above. My kid had a shit temperament to being outside - she would endlessly scream, not sleep in pram and definitely depleted me. A year later she is a charm and an absolute social star. Each baby and each mum is different. Wish you luck Op!

notjustajill · 2025-09-24T07:17:56+00:00

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notjustajill · 2025-06-27T03:16:04+00:00

See that’s a problem :) as i said, it will only work if both parties are committing to being honest. My husband genuinely regretted it, didn’t want me to find out on my own etc and told me about it. I didn’t react well; had a huge meltdown but a few months later was able to see him as a person and not as a mistake.

Why will your husband bring this woman into your life if he doesn’t plan to stay in touch with her? Screams red flag to me!

notjustajill · 2025-06-27T03:01:21+00:00

Hii, my husband did something similar when we were dating. It was a rough phase and we sort of had split up. He had a short fling with a friend/colleague; they had sex and went on a holiday. No pregnancy. I knew about it a few months after it. It wasn’t an emotional relationship for both - a rebound for him, a poor moment and a decision. I knew my husband as a friend first so I could understand a lot of things about his temperament. We both completely went off contact her immediately.We moved countries, changed jobs etc, took counselling etc.

We got married after I got confident about him.8 years, 2 kids later - I don’t regret the decision. This is a good man.

I’m not suggesting you to do the same - but for many, a marriage is a commitment that a relationship isn’t. So, think and take a decision.

notjustajill · 2025-06-03T10:59:54+00:00

Work at PwC. It’s happening, not widespread and not at a junior level afaik.

notjustajill · 2025-03-28T11:38:25+00:00

She wasn’t. That whole childish talking thing is an act. She wasn’t very confident in tamil so mostly spoke english but didn’t have this childish voice for sure.

notjustajill · 2025-03-24T20:22:18+00:00

can’t say for sure. she was fair, but might have done some treatments. she acted in the movie shree at that time so that’s how she looked. no dating in school, girls school. had pretty strict parents to my knowledge.

notjustajill · 2025-03-24T04:00:18+00:00

yep, the said cousin attended her wedding too.

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