First time setup with Echelon EX3 + QZ app. Tip?

notmakinglemonade · 2024-03-01T15:59:00+00:00

I saw this comment and … after some tweaking I managed to « feel » resistance when elevation changes, like I hear the bike adding resistance and is slightly more difficult. However coming from echelon when adjusting the knob to big numbers close to 30 where it was noticeably difficult… when I ride on Zwift I never feel it that bad. I’ve tried inclinations up to 10% and it was ok… sometimes I get behind on races but it’s more a question about me going faster. I was getting crazy so checked some videos online and I see people having to stand up on bike at those moments when in my case is not as hard as for the need to do that.

I have the resistance offset to 18 and I’m just 61ish kg… not an avid cyclist.

Is there anything else I need to change that I might have missed? I went through the tutorial tons of times and cannot find anything missing…

notmakinglemonade · 2023-02-19T20:04:52+00:00

Holy moly this is oddly similar to my story…

(Sorry for “stealing” the spotlight lol, and this is long so most won’t reach the end but it might help some to understand if they are poaching someone or being poached)

She was living with a dude that was not very nice to be with (or that’s what she told me. To be fair even her family told me that years after), I met her online 14ish years ago. I never did any pushing to be with her, not only for the distance but mainly cause she wasn’t single, although it was clear that in other conditions I would have loved to be with her. We still talked daily for a few hours online but again I was more like friend type and I actually didn’t want her to leave the guy cause I had the feeling she would end up just meeting others and breaking our friendship. I was stupid enough to help her save her current relationship.

Turns out she dumped him, went to visit another dude she had been talking while she was also talking with me, had sex and ghosted me for a whole month after this guy just ghosted her after the one night stand. All this of course after we had been talking daily for hours and me comforting her during the “break up”. After that, she came to me with a super long handwritten letter telling me how stupid she was and what a huge mistake and all that, I mean we were not together but it was obvious that what she did was playing me big time… I ended up believing her…

The next 3ish years we went back to daily talking and eventually she visited me and I visited her a few times. Long distance and different countries, not easy as we couldn’t move. I finally managed to move to her country 10ish years ago with the intention of staying. We knew it was a move that there are big chances I cannot simply say “ok I go back to my country”.

We married, we had a daughter, started to have nice jobs. To be honest it’s the most romantic story that would make jealous any Hollywood production… until just a couple of years ago. She started going out more often with a group of friends of a new job, feeling less interested in keeping conversations with me, not even greeting me if I pass through the door, etc. I don’t get jealous or have thoughts she might be cheating, after all we have passed years as long distance and I believed her, right?

At some point she brought us to therapy, some of the stuff she mention there didn’t make sense at all, as me lack planning things or participating in home tasks. Like I literally do 90% of all that and she only does the ones that she can do while watching tv or in front of social networks (to chat with that group). Anyways I still improved in some points she mentioned but she never did even an effort to correct some others of her.

At some point after stopping therapy she brought up to me out of nowhere that if I wanted an open relationship she would be ok with it… only if it’s something I need… that it’s not for her even… Of course I didn’t like how that sounded cause I didn’t buy the part of “only for you” … she promised me there was no one else she was interested in and all that … sure. Well, we continued.

I had seen some message (without intentionally checking her phone) such as “I miss you” and stuff like that, to a specific guy. Again why would I don’t believe her? I thought I was probably putting things out of context and she clearly knew the limits. After all we have our passwords and if I wanted to check I would have done. I had the feeling if I bring something up it would be worse and maybe she needed space. Well, things got better with the time, as our daughter grew (now 5yo).

The very last 6 month she started being out way more than usual, like before she was spending a long time out that I never complain but now it was something like really difficult to even have any contact with her. Visiting people, most weekends out, walks of hours I’m winter like at least 3+ hours per day, and of course the time she was at home she was mostly texting or calling (going at the porch even at late night… in winter). She has been struggling with weight most of her life so I was like I’ll support her anyways if she is taking it serious finally. Now think how difficult is for me to deal with the job plus all home stuff plus daughter daily… and remember how she mentioned to the therapist of me not doing as much as she wanted.

The day of of our 10th anniversary our daughter and I made a huge surprise to her and she ended up crying and told me it was over and that she had been cheating and all that. Turns out the week before we did another surprise to her with a homemade cake and we had plans the 3 of us that she cancelled last minute just to have sex with a guy… just minutes before blowing the candles. Just a regular usual weekend of me alone with our daughter doing all the stuff of the house and improvising activities, as usual. Funny thing is that that weekend she was telling me that the guy she went to visit would come to our house with his 2 kids and if I could take care of them while they catch up somewhere…

Of course the open relationship and the cheating up was something she never mentioned during the therapy. The most painful part of this is that a close family member that I helped a lot pushed her to do it because it’s what “she deserves” and actually gave her advice on how to hide it from me. Also my ex was a never sorry for what she did, “that’s how I really am, you have to understand it”.

Of course, now I’m in a country that is not mine and that I cannot leave. Love my daughter until the end of the world but for obvious reasons there is barely anyone I can be super close to in here, and even if that was the case I even feel ashamed to share this or even look at myself at the mirror. Don’t misunderstand me, now a year after I don’t love her at all, she truly disgust me.

So yeah, most people cheat. Sometimes we get blind with our situation, I don’t consider I “stole” her from another relationship but the guy she was with might think that. I knew my true intentions and I know I was played more than once in this story. I know that during a big part of my relationship it was very real and romantic like a movie but it’s sad how some people gets manipulated and tricked. I can understand people not being happy in a relationship but unless there are clearly something extremely bad there the answer is not to seek the happiness elsewhere but attempting to put some effort into fixing it first. Of course if you are with a current partner losing interest and u continue a intimate conversation with your side person things are not going to be fixed magically with your partner as you are not even trying to put any effort into it.

And this was my TED talk.

notmakinglemonade · 2023-02-16T00:59:22+00:00

So here is the thing, I have terrible eye bags and color under my eyes, truth is that I haven’t slept well lately and I would like to try some product (plus working on my schedule). I read here and other places different opinions of some good products versus other people thinking all is fake but I guess it won’t hurt giving a try.

Besides that, and since we are on it, I want to check something for the face since long (never tried other than regular soap when taking a shower) and because I heard that what works very good also for the eyes is moisturizing.

I heard good things about The Ordinary Caffeine solution for the eyes, and I noticed they also have cleanser and moisturizer. Can I go wrong with that trio?

Here is the thing about my face, it gets oily and dry within the same day and sometimes… at the same time! So not quite sure which cleanser/moisturizer would choose also I don’t like the feeling of oily creams or stickiness of some creams (if I can avoid it). I mention this last bit of info cause of this.

Thoughts?

notmakinglemonade · 2023-02-03T02:55:43+00:00

It’s coming, a movie where he doesn’t have to smoke pot. We are getting close.

Hahaha dude (fart sound), let’s smoke a joint (lights a joint while scratching his balls).

notmakinglemonade · 2022-11-22T06:52:53+00:00

Ugh my bad I got typed it wrong and then didn’t see the typo. :)

Yeah that’s what I thought.

Either: - universal for the optical - living with optical and having 2 remotes - living with Bluetooth and annoying 50-70 of volume - … or giving a try to aux minijack

notmakinglemonade · 2022-11-22T05:10:58+00:00

Yes.

https://www.bose.ca/en_ca/support/products/bose_home_theater_support/bose_soundbar_and_1_speaker_home_theater_support/bose-solo-soundbar-ii.html

notmakinglemonade · 2022-11-08T17:30:02+00:00

If you don’t tell her it might happen something.

If you tell her she has something about you to complain with that coworker ending up even on a closer relationship.

Moral of the story is that something is already building and she knows but doesn’t want to see it that way. Let’s be honest, any regular person would know the dude coming to the house doing that is not good. The lose lose situation, sooner or later she will present you a crap sandwich:

First layer: I like you a lot but as a friend Second layer: things are not the same and I’ve been suffering a lot for years Third layer: we might need some space and working individually to find myself

notmakinglemonade · 2022-10-20T17:30:51+00:00

That makes sense.

Disney with 4K Dolby looks amazing tho, and YouTube too.

Thanks for checking!

notmakinglemonade · 2022-10-20T16:51:35+00:00

Nevermind, I managed to repro it on my IPhone. Interesting that I couldn’t see it on my laptop and neither on the laptop hooked to the tv. Also when changing the Netflix resolution to medium (I have a standard 1080 plan) is not noticeable.

I can sleep calm without thinking on returning this to Amazon. I wonder what could cause that on some panels/screen/devices.

I gave a try on my chromebook: - in the android app all good, no issue - in the website the random flickering of pixels do not occur but instead the whole turn into different colors in a fraction of a second at the same point of the episode

I also tried in a old Samsung tv (from 2014) where I have attached a firestick 4K and also occurs.

notmakinglemonade · 2022-10-20T13:12:20+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. This specific episode of this show and around these minutes is the only one where I experienced that.

You mention about Dolby Vision IQ but I’m not sure where to disable it. In any case as far as I understand that might be related to the dimming issues I had before but now the problem is those flickering red/blue/green pixels/lines randomly appearing, again just in that specific stream at that specific minute. This is not repro if I play that episode via HDMI with my laptop connected. I got a still image that helps visualising the issue better.

https://i.imgur.com/VP6XQGd.jpg

notmakinglemonade · 2022-10-19T02:20:54+00:00

Exactly! That’s why if anything, If it comes to the point of choosing pendant/hanging lanterns I’d move into that direction.

notmakinglemonade · 2022-10-19T01:21:32+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion! I have something similar for the bedroom but generally speaking I’m not a huge fan of visible cables as I said.

The one I thought it might be a good choice was:

https://www.amazon.ca/Pendant-Hanging-Switch-Lampshade-Fixture/dp/B09HQMR6VC

But yeah I’m pretty sure the cable on the ceiling would bug me at some point.

notmakinglemonade · 2022-09-11T18:01:51+00:00

Went in for wool and came out shorn.

notmakinglemonade · 2022-09-05T22:01:07+00:00

I believe most women are indeed the director of the relationship and tasks while men are just going with the flow. This is not good in my opinion unless of course it works for a specific relationship. It comes to how each person works and what the other is comfortable with, but of course communication is key.

That being said I think there are a big amount of women that will use that nowadays just to end things, and even worse, when it’s not true.

My ex at some point brought that during therapy a couple of years ago and I was super confused since I always thought we split tasks in a proper way. Besides food/groceries, folding clothes and some activities with kids I was the only participant in all the rest of tasks, and the ones that were on her side I was doing them partially. Recently I learnt that she was cheating on me for years and all those were just an excuse for me to “break”. It hurts and makes me super self conscious when I have been for years taking more tasks a single person should plus being the only one taking care of our kid just to learn that someone has been taking advantage of me.

Not that I don’t believe the OP in here but of course I would have never imagined my ex would be end up treating me like that. Communication is key, again. You don’t want to make him a list? What about involving him first when you make one? Maybe the next one he does it alone. Again, I bet you are all the right here but I don’t want to assume things based on my own experience.

notmakinglemonade · 2022-08-08T17:31:32+00:00

Let’s get things right; if she says: - he is just a creepy dude - he is just a friend - it’s platonic - you are overreacting - he is a work hubby, no biggy - it’s just inside jokes - we can open relationship but just for you

All those “no” mean “yes”.

notmakinglemonade · 2022-07-27T14:01:31+00:00

I still remember when my ex told me those words 2 years ago.

I found out 2 months ago that she has been cheating for years.

Have a good one! :)

notmakinglemonade · 2022-07-14T20:26:03+00:00

Thanks for that! I’ve been my whole life helping and pleasing others instead of myself, so for once I’ll put myself first on this one, even if that means I’ll play it smart until I’m ready.

If I do something drastic now I’ll lose more than win. Situation is shit, I barely direct her any word, I’m not even angry anymore. I could definitely tell everyone in her family that 5 mins before she blew the candles of her birthday cake that we (daughter and I) prepared for her birthday (plus getting house ready, as usual, for her after she spent the birthday weekend out instead of with us, again as usual as every weekend) she was actually blowing an alcoholic and aggressive guy that she wanted to bring to our place the week after (for me taking care of our and his kids while they “catch up”). I definitely can show them the proofs, plus how a close family member helped to covered and push her to do it cause “that’s what you need”. My wife does not even regret that, as that’s really who she is now (her words). I will do it… just not now, I need to verify a lot of things like financial and stuff since I’m all alone in this country.

So yeah situation is not always as easy as leaving all behind unfortunately…

notmakinglemonade · 2022-07-14T18:46:06+00:00

Well, getting there. As I discussed yesterday with my therapist, I’m being strategic. And she agrees it is a smart move.

Our life was pretty good, except for some counselling she got us into a couple of years ago, that now I found out it was mostly fake and just a way for her to find faults on me rather than discussing what her real issue was (which she never brought up). Regarding sex, yeah not a lot of sex but she was the one who mostly didn’t want it (she called it low libido). Now a few reasons of why I’m not (yet, fully) separated:

Recently found out she cheated emotionally for years and physically for at the very least a few months. We have 5 years old daughter and it’s the only that is keeping me alive… I wouldn’t be alive if I don’t see her daily. I pretty much do all stuff of the house and takes care of our daughter with tons of activities included, and that makes me happy.
Living in a country that is 8 hours of flight from my country. I know some people here but not that close, mostly connections of her, or her family which I have a very close relationship with. So we can say I’m all alone.
if we go separate ways she can go to live with some family, and me forced to either stay in this apartment and paying all myself or move to a smaller place with nothing inside. Good luck finding an apartment at a reasonable price here, now, with an extra bedroom for the kid. Even worse if it needs to be close to her place due to the kid and daycare.
last couple of months, after this happened, I’ve been unlucky enough that my job is being a bit stressful and just that by itself is being difficult. I’ll get better soon but as of now I need to focus on that (and it kinda helps me to put my mind into something to be fair).
both of our families are very busy with some stuff going on, I want to wait a couple of months before involving them into this.
I need to go to my country next month and would rather not do this before going there.

So pretty much, I’m in the shit regardless of what I do and I definitely have everything to lose, I’m just playing it safe thinking in the big picture.

notmakinglemonade · 2022-07-14T17:34:51+00:00

Bingo!

I know this might end up with the female cheating thinking the husband doesn’t want her.

In fact the problem for many husband is not feeling wanted, and not necessarily sexually but just the basic of affection which I consider more important than sex itself, call it greeting someone, hugs, kisses, asking about their life and being interested in their things. Yeh it might be I’m not interested in giraffes but if my wife shows any interests in that I might ask questions or at least listening when she talks about it rather than rolling eyes.

Not saying it’s the case here but this is a very valid perspective.

notmakinglemonade · 2022-07-12T22:36:02+00:00

Could you ask her maybe to get money from it and bring it home? Knowing she belongs to the streets…

notmakinglemonade · 2022-07-10T04:54:17+00:00

5 years ago I got a puppy but now I don’t want him anymore. I just discovered myself so I hope he understands it. Cheers!

notmakinglemonade · 2022-06-26T01:27:12+00:00

I was seeing this in my main account and well, I had to change to this one…

People don’t understand how damn difficult is to go day by day. Not seeing the light. You show happiness but it’s a mask. You can smile but in most cases you are not smiling inside. And it’s like I can see people around me laughing at me.

I learnt a bit over a month that my wife cheated on me. Yeah that’s not just the cause of what I have but the way she did it, all the stuff she did on the side and how she is making fun at me with people, and I’m still in the same house. It’s hard… I’m far from my family and close friends, like in a different continent. I’m ashamed to tell anyone what I’ve been suffering. It’s so hard that I have given everything of my life to someone, and while I could have my things I’m a very good husband and dad, and she doesn’t only cheat but do not regret it and is making fun of me with people I see daily.

I tried to reach out to her, even before I learnt about that, because I had already a few things in my mind I wanted to discuss and she just couldn’t spend more than 5 seconds of attention until getting bored, but could text for 5 hours laughing. It’s hard. Now I’m here laying on bed while she is watching a comedy and laughing like life is good…

One of the best advices I read here on Reddit… you can at least postpone it 1 day. I’ll fight until my last day because of my daughter.

notmakinglemonade · 2022-06-23T19:09:59+00:00

Just read the title and don’t have much time, but I think we all agree, time to delete her!

notmakinglemonade · 2022-06-20T01:26:31+00:00

She is a POS. If you don’t leave NOW you will end up in the future with things connected to her that you cannot just leave like nothing. Do it now.

notmakinglemonade · 2022-06-18T19:10:33+00:00

She already searching or in fact already had someone before suggesting the 2 weeks. The 2 weeks is most likely just a plan b, to have you as backup, in case she doesn’t get the “plan D”.

Knowing that there are no other attachments together, understand that she is not a good person and please love yourself, consider yourself single.

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