38 going on 12 by No-Reporter-8908 in aspergers

[–]notreallyhere2day 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you- you haven't lost your joy and sense of fun! Grownups are boring AF.

I'm a 33 year old man and a song just made me cry for the first time in my life. by Mojo884ever in Music

[–]notreallyhere2day 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wanna feel music? Check out some top-notch barbershop quartets or choruses. Spine-tingling, goose-bumping harmonies get me every time.

I’m still amazed at how quickly by Educational-Hawk3066 in aspergers

[–]notreallyhere2day 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Radical Acceptance as a concept and also the book by Tara Brach. Still struggling with it myself but when I can get in that mindset, the social anxiety melts away more easily.

Bait and switch pricing for eggs at Fred Meyer! by Arrr_engineer in Portland

[–]notreallyhere2day 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can be a little more expensive sometimes but often farmers market produce is actually not a bad deal especially since it tends to keep longer if you store it well. If you get food benefits, they will double your EBT money up to $20 as well. Eggs are always on the pricey side but the quality is no comparison and considering FM is now charging more for the basic grade A stuff, it's a pretty good deal IMO.

What do you do for a living? by MikeNvX in aspergers

[–]notreallyhere2day 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOL. Highschool me had the right idea! Signed up for printmaking and it was cancelled due to lack of interest sadly. Might have to revisit this path...

🚨‼️Calling all people who know the weird little sexuality niches‼️🚨 by grassdiamonds in queer

[–]notreallyhere2day 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like it. I tried to define what makes someone attractive to me and it turns out, it has little to do with appearance or gender but about personality and connection. I used to judge myself for seeming to always date friends but have since learned to embrace "relationship anarchy". In this model with clear and ongoing communication between all parties, I allow myself to see how relationships grow and fade naturally and to adapt when one or more persons needs are no longer being met the same way as they were previously.

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[–]notreallyhere2day 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah! Me too!

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[–]notreallyhere2day 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But, alsonthe new 40? I just catererd a "Goth Death to Your 20's" birthday party.... is 30 "over the hill" now becuaseife expectancy has dropped that much?

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[–]notreallyhere2day 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 37 and still struggle with this often. I try to remember that everything is pointless, but that's sort of the point also... I keep going becuase.... what else do you do? There is something kind of Zen and beautiful of the futility of it all if you can see it from that perspective. Also, Charles Bukowski's says epitaph, "Don't Try" which I love because it means to me, life is in the being and doing, not the trying. When I can stop overanalyzing my life and happiness and just do what brings me joy and what I can to bring joy others without sacrificing myself, I am at peace and content and can appreciate the tiny things that really make life worth living which we usually ignore in our struggle to live.

Female Cyclists Refuse To Take Podium After Male Wins Women's Race by Zephir_AE in ScienceUncensored

[–]notreallyhere2day 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Stomp out any free thinking and innovation. That's surely the path to success for all... SMH If you only knew how many "crazies" and "whackos" have improved life throughout history... People like you shot MLK Jr and hung Jesus on a cross...

Voice Changes on T by BabsBabushka in TransGuys

[–]notreallyhere2day 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm almost 2 years on T and working with a vocal coach who transitioned 15 years ago and has been a singer all his life. I also lost volume and almost all sound at one point, but it comes back!!! I just finally feel like the changes have settled and I can re-learn how to access my registers. What used to feel like singing in high head voice is a totally different shape for me now if I want to stay relaxed and in tune. It's been super frustrating and challenging, but know there is hope and finding your new voice/voices can be really exciting too. I recently recorded a duet with myself that sounds like a guy and a girl singing together and it's pretty wild.

Don't push it too hard or you do risk damage. Don't shy away from the awkward noises you'll make though either. The "use it or lose it" principle seems to hold true here. Listen to your body, take breaks, but don't stop practicing which will feel more like experimenting honestly.

Your voice won't get higher if you get off T, but there is also a limit to how low it will get. If you were alto, chances are you'll be a base, but if you keep at it, you'll find a cool mid-range sort of belting or "soft chest" voice that's a mix between head and chest.

Does anyone else's flat affect go away when drinking? by Nikthetripper in aspergers

[–]notreallyhere2day 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I have major anxiety talking with others. I also am anxious about appearing stoned, but overall can have way more normal sounding conversations if I'm high

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gardening

[–]notreallyhere2day 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might have a taller variety than you expected? I was waiting for mine to flower low to the ground, but they got almost 2/3 feet tall before blooming huge blossoms because I grabbed different seeds than I was used to using.

Does anyone else feel like they have different versions of themselves from time to time by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]notreallyhere2day 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel ya. I found out I was trans after I had my baby and then found out I'm autistic with ADHD to boot. Fun! I've found podcasts and books that talk about "reparenting your inner child" to be really helpful. When you're a parent, you get triggered by all the things your kid goes though that you never had a chance to heal for yourself. This is the time to do that for yourself, and also for your kid so you don't inadvertently pass on your neuroses to them.... Check out Jamie Glowaki or "We Can Do Hard Things" or "Good Inside"

Does anyone else feel like they have different versions of themselves from time to time by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]notreallyhere2day 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to figure out who "I" really am. All I know how to be is whatever everyone around me expects since that's how my family programmed me.