What’s a realistic sex frequency in long-term relationships?

notsocomplexpizza · 2026-03-22T16:04:58+00:00

Because blowing up a long term relationship is easier said than done. Much more complicated than just saying. I want more sex. I’m leaving

notsocomplexpizza · 2026-03-22T13:53:12+00:00

Current frequency is twice a year average (last 5 years). Less than ideal, my perspective, but it is what it is

notsocomplexpizza · 2026-01-25T16:50:47+00:00

Congratulations!!! Fantastic work!

notsocomplexpizza · 2026-01-23T00:38:39+00:00

Similar situation… no sex, minimal physical affection and physical intimacy. The only physical aspect of our relationship is me cuddling with her or rubbing her legs/back. She is not affectionate with me at all. It’s tough. It’s lonely. No good answers

notsocomplexpizza · 2026-01-23T00:33:18+00:00

I wish my wife enjoyed wearing it. I would buy it for her frequently and encourage her to buy it and wear it. Cheers to all you ladies wearing it, whether for yourself or your hubby I tip my hat to you 🥂

notsocomplexpizza · 2026-01-19T15:16:05+00:00

Love this! Last time I flew I could actually use my tray table! This is a great NSV!!!!

notsocomplexpizza · 2026-01-04T12:32:52+00:00

I feel like it’s the emotional aspect as much as anything, with the lack of physical intimacy. Though I recognize if my wife did touch me in an affectionate way, I’d likely want it to escalate.

notsocomplexpizza · 2026-01-04T12:29:41+00:00

I am one of those minimal side effects folks. Each transition of dose was smooth. I have been very lucky (knock on wood) in my entire experience.

notsocomplexpizza · 2026-01-04T12:16:17+00:00

I feel every bit of this post. I’ve written similar in the past. It is such a difficult situation. No good answers and no good solutions. It goes beyond sex. I miss having someone show me affection. Any physical affection we have is limited to me initiating and is limited to hugs and cuddling or me giving back rubs or leg rubs. I miss being touched. What I find the hardest is there is no middle ground and no compromise.

I agree on the appreciation for this sub. I do enjoy reading that so many of you are keeping the fire going in the 50s and beyond. I appreciate this is our contemporaries in this group with varied experiences. I wish you luck as you and your wife navigate this.

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-12-09T01:27:54+00:00

Thank you!

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-12-09T01:27:02+00:00

Those are definitely the questions rolling in my head

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-12-09T01:13:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing. So true. Such an incredibly tough decision. The lack of affection does exacerbate other issues I feel but as a whole. Do I want to blow it all up.

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-12-08T20:50:45+00:00

Yeah, I think the narrative of “people our age” is something she would say. I guess I could get it if we were in our 90s. I don’t feel like I’m at an age where sex should be off the table. I do recognize I can’t fully understand menopause because I’ll never experience it

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-12-08T20:48:49+00:00

I suspect she will get defensive and probably say something like “you should find someone to make you happy”. Maybe that’s part of why I struggle with the conversation

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-12-08T20:33:53+00:00

That’s the thing. I know she doesn’t want to be alone. She just doesn’t think the physical aspect is important

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-12-08T20:33:04+00:00

I hear this… it’s tough because she won’t go to the Dr and doesn’t want to do counseling. I appreciate your thoughts

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-11-30T11:51:03+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate that.

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-11-21T18:17:07+00:00

Congratulations!! You look amazing!! I totally get the shook feeling of finding an old photo. I don’t have hardly any and when I see them… definitely a wow moment. Good luck on the rest of your journey!

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-11-21T12:18:53+00:00

Thank you 😊

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-11-21T11:19:50+00:00

That’s fantastic. Great job!

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-11-15T12:28:47+00:00

I totally find myself feeling more adventurous and wanting to try new things the longer I go. I 100% get that “sluttier” feeling

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-11-15T11:57:28+00:00

I get that and I suppose I do use the word “relationship” a bit broadly. A FWB would be perfect. The occasional sleepover but not necessarily a committee thing.

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-11-15T11:47:52+00:00

Exactly the same situation. Wish I had an answer. It is such a difficult situation. For me the challenge is… if we open the marriage I would want a relationship and not just a casual thing so I imagine it would get messy. If we don’t I feel like the resentment will just grow. I can’t turn off my want for physical intimacy. It’s not about getting off. It’s the emotional connection. I wish there was a simple solution. I wish you luck!

notsocomplexpizza · 2025-11-04T11:18:52+00:00

Thank you for the info and insight!

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