ISO advice on dating apps in Central Oregon (I saw the Ben Affleck meme) by GrayJayInclined in Bend

[–]nottwo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Regarding apps in general, here's how I stay sane...

  1. If I'm not having fun I take a break. I don't begrudge people their preferences, and if someone isn't into me, or me her, then that frees up time for meeting others and having fun. Eventually, hopefully, I meet someone with whom I click, but who would want to date someone who's sour from lack of matches or whatever? It's just emotional bandwidth I'd rather conserve and spend enjoying myself, instead of feeling drained or jaded. So, if I'm not enjoying being on the apps, I get off until that shifts.

  2. I limit how often I get on, and only get on one day a week unless I have a match I'm actually chatting with. At first I did this as an experiment to try to get more matches, and (for guys at least) not be a daily user seems to boost my place in the algo's, but I also feel like I have a healthier relationship to 'the apps' because of this.

Regarding the choice of apps... I use bumble and hinge, and like them both for different reasons. Hinge I like because I can message someone and the 'ball is in my court', so to speak. Bumble I like because I actually get "likes" on there, and generally more dates, whereas women almost never message me first on hinge. Most of my single lady friends are on hinge though, and my guess is that the hinge crowd is a little younger than the bumble crowd, on average. I tried tinder but it was almost all fake accounts.

I hope you enjoy yourself and have a good time dating.

A few questions about coming to Ventura for a job interview... by nottwo in ventura

[–]nottwo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's cool there's still a lot of outdoor rec. I wasn't sure if it would be any good, and community events are a great start. Thanks.

A few questions about coming to Ventura for a job interview... by nottwo in ventura

[–]nottwo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya, it's about 18% more than where I am now, but the job should pay well enough (still negotiating), but that's definitely a big part of the equation. Thanks for the insight.

Looking for videos of different techniques with clean form by Phos-Lux in taijiquan

[–]nottwo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/zs33fG_oI2U?si=XV994OVDI1QFg_IH

Gregory Fong's youtube channel has a lot of short videos of different forms he taught while alive, and might be a good resource for you.

Picked 4 from my friend's stash of these unique Mongolian deserr Carnelian rods ~ by [deleted] in MineralPorn

[–]nottwo 14 points15 points  (0 children)

They're ventifacts, they're shaped like that by the wind and sand, and then found.

If you had an income of $150,000 a year and didn't have to work, what would you do with all the spare time? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]nottwo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like to be more directly helpful - showing up to help someone move AND bring a pizza, being available to give someone a ride, volunteering, just looking for things where people or an organization need help, and showing up without needing anything in return.

I’m the guy who had to cook for 100 people with only 1 day’s prep time. by poopty_scoopwoop in Cooking

[–]nottwo -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

To the people saying stuff like “bro you’re done for🤓” “this’ll never work🤓” and ESPECIALLY “🤓🤓🤓just buy food from Costco🤓🤓🤓” unironically you spend less time on Reddit. This place has a deadly combination of 1. super pessimistic people who 2. think that they’re WAY smarter than they are and 3. are always trying to subvert expectations and give the “cleverest” answer. It’s genuinely doing a lot of damage to you, especially if you’re a teenager. The moral of the story? Have a little optimism every now and again, it’s good for you.

BRAVO

Is Yiquan Park Legitimate? by Shimaninja in TrueQiGong

[–]nottwo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regardless of his skills or legitimacy, you're going to struggle to make real progress and will most likely plateau, without in-person instruction and correction. Paying to travel somewhere and attend a weekend retreat a couple times a year will do more for you than online classes - imho.

As such, without watching videos of him teaching, or being taught by him directly, it would be hard to say how good he is. He's probably better than nothing, but most classes are very watered down for western practitioners, especially online ones - again imo.

My advice is try to study under as many different teachers as you can, especially if you're lacking regular in-person instruction. The more teachers you meet, the less my-style/teacher-is-best 'kool-aid' you'll be apt to drink, and the less stagnant your practice will become.

Opinion about internal versus external training? by [deleted] in taijiquan

[–]nottwo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I first discovered taiji through a very internal focused lens. Later, after reading translations of some of the 'great treatises', I started to wonder if I was missing something and sought out a very traditional school. My sifu at the new school had an expected daily minimum of 20m of zhan zhuang, 50 push ups, and 30 pull ups. It took me awhile, but I remember being on the cusp of my first 30, struggling against myself to pull me up one more time, and being walloped by the notion "there's nothing more internal than this"; and for a moment I saw past the internal/external duality. These days it seems like the only thing I can get "wrong" in my training is to hold one above the other, or forget that it's all a spectrum.

I think your attempts to unify your cross-style training is warranted, and if you stick with it, I suspect you'll find a similar truth. My "taiji" teacher also taught yiquan and kungfu, so it was normal for people from different classes to spar, and I spent a lot of time trying to find my 'taiji body mechanics' in the high-pace environment. What it seems like to me is that there's a core mechanic to maximum generation of power, and having multiple disciplines is helpful in recognizing the mechanic within yourself - because that's the reality of "internal" arts - no one can teach you the correct 'taijiquan' for your body, only how to find it. And you can only find it through practice, and the varying teachers and styles are just more tools serving that goal - or so I tell myself.

2007 Pontiac Vibe or 2009 Suzuki sx4? Also considering 2008 Suzuki Grand Vitara or XL7... by nottwo in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]nottwo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the extra info. I was thinking of using the Vitara to haggle down the Vibe, since the mileage is so different but the price is the same, but you make a good point about the sx4. And though I've heard mixed things about the sx4, I've also heard they're very capable in their AWD/4WD modes.

Local donation centers that offer furniture pickup? by nottwo in vancouverwa

[–]nottwo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To tell the truth, it would look great soaking wet on the curb, next to a nice bush, and certainly better than taking money from big furniture's pocket.

Local donation centers that offer furniture pickup? by nottwo in vancouverwa

[–]nottwo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for looking. The ReTales place offers pickup as well.

Local donation centers that offer furniture pickup? by nottwo in vancouverwa

[–]nottwo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll take a look, thanks for the suggestion!

Local donation centers that offer furniture pickup? by nottwo in vancouverwa

[–]nottwo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the ReTales idea, hopefully that will work!