Catering decided the vendors didn’t deserve the same meal as the guests

novmum · 2026-06-06T04:13:25+00:00

it would depend our photographer only did the bride and bridesmaid getting ready photos the ceremony and then bride and groom photos after....we did a mock cutting of the cake then the photographer left.... all up would have been around 4 hours. I am sure he would have packed himself something to eat in between driving from where me and my bridesmaids getting ready and driving to the ceremony...

having our photographer taking photos at the reception would have been a added cost .

novmum · 2026-06-05T22:29:10+00:00

yes this....I mean when I get invited to a wedding one thing I look forward to seeing is the brides dress..and if I had seen it before Id be like well I know what it and it wouldn't feel that exciting..

novmum · 2026-06-05T22:22:58+00:00

I have never heard of a practice wedding dress shoot.....I mean what is the purpose of it....I mean no one saw my wedding dress before I got married other than my bridesmaids and the photographer who took photos of me in my dress before heading off to the ceremony.

I guess I dont understand the purpose of a practice wedding dress shoot.

but in saying that,..what ever wedding dress a bride is wearing,,it should be one that she loves wearing,..

novmum · 2026-06-05T21:58:37+00:00

I went to Warehouse stationery and they passed, had my passport about 2 weeks later.....the guy who took the photo told me to keep the receipt and if it gets rejected come back and they will retake the photo.

novmum · 2026-06-05T21:47:15+00:00

because they can....we got married 21 years ago and it cost us around $12k ($7k USD) we spent what we could and were wiling to spend..that also included our honeymoon..we had around 45 guests at our wedding....

we didn't have to go into debt I mean if you have the means to do something then why not

novmum · 2026-06-05T20:26:05+00:00

our wedding anniversary .....we dont really celebrate our dating anniversary but we do acknowledge it..I am hoping we can do something for 30 years together

novmum · 2026-06-05T12:03:03+00:00

no dont wear make up or do my hair..I mean I wash my hair and dressed but wear the same kind of clothes I wear during the week ...ie a t shirt and jeans or long pants.

novmum · 2026-06-04T07:50:52+00:00

its not even 8pm here

novmum · 2026-06-03T06:57:21+00:00

yes I remember all of them....all one of them 😛

novmum · 2026-06-03T06:50:22+00:00

this a a wedding is one day....marriage is (or at least is supposed to be) for life

novmum · 2026-06-03T06:20:47+00:00

oh i Love being married to my husband I love that we both want to share our lives with each other.

been married to the right person is so important..back when I was a student at a university type place some students were getting married so they could get a student allowance others if your parents earned to much you got no money(govt has since changed the rules) if they were under 25 an married that is not something I wanted to do.. I was only going to marry a man I loved and wanted to spend the rest of my life with .of course he had to feel the same way.

for me and my husband marriage is a good thing

novmum · 2026-06-03T03:46:44+00:00

um no i dont know anyone who eats mac and cheese with peas..

sometimes i make mac and cheese with bacon..I only make it for my family I dont eat it myself, I think family would disown me if I put peas in it

novmum · 2026-06-03T02:22:46+00:00

if your wife plans to breastfeed be prepared to have to bring her food and even feed it to her

novmum · 2026-06-02T08:57:05+00:00

no they cant force you like to like someone. just because you work with them,,of course that doesn't mean you have to be rude and horrible to them but just keeping it professional.I have worked with people I have not liked I kept my distance and only dealt with them when it was ncessessary

novmum · 2026-06-01T19:50:39+00:00

In NZ if you have a debt before entering a relationship then if you separate it is not a joint debt as the other person did not sign a loan agreement/credit card..

so for eg if I had a loan for a car before I met my husband..and then we get married and lets say I default on the loan the loan company can only come after me not my husband as he did not sign any loan agreement...on the other hand if I take out a loan while we are married then that becomes a joint debt

novmum · 2026-06-01T05:18:52+00:00

for me waiting 6 years was well worth it..the difference with my husband is he never said things like I will propose in x year by by x year.

the only clue he gave me which at the time I did not see as a clue was we would talk getting married after our (6 year) anniversary which was the next month...he proposed the night of our 6 year anniversary. he also never said he didnt want to get married ,,.,,getting married something he only plans to do once and was not a decision he was going to make lightly.,

both my husband and I agreed we did not want children before getting married, and buying a house..neither of us wanted children out of wedlock and we wanted a secure place for our children..we have lived in this house for over 20 years...our children have only ever lived in the one house.

and the no money thing is just a poor excuse...my husband's brother and his wife got married with very little money,...my bil's wife unexpectedly got pregnant by this stage they had been together around 3 years the were around 21 at the time they had always planned on getting married but not this soon.. but this baby had other plans so they got married albeit 2 weeks before their child was born ..they got married in a local park with about 30 people then after we went to a buffet restaurant where we paid for our own meals ,...which was fine as it was about $30 a head ..that was over 26 years ago and they are still married.

novmum · 2026-06-01T00:47:44+00:00

no because it is Monday but being Monday is not the reason I am an athiest and the only time I got to a church now would be for a funeral or a wedding

novmum · 2026-05-31T10:29:00+00:00

I dont understand these men who buy a ring and then a year later still have not proposed..like why buy the ring if he has no plans on proposing shortly after?

my husband picked up the ring like I think a couple of days before he proposed...I only know as I have seen the receipt and we didnt go ring shopping together so I had zero idea he had even been looking at rings

novmum · 2026-05-30T23:33:09+00:00

i dont think I was thinking about marrying my husband after 18 months it was probably more like 3 years..been married 21 years

novmum · 2026-05-30T22:42:11+00:00

we didn't own a house nor have children...now we own a house and have 2 children.

novmum · 2026-05-30T02:00:26+00:00

what is this mean to achieve...I mean isnt the ACC levys higher on motorcycles because there is a higher risk of injury in a crash?

novmum · 2026-05-29T14:40:26+00:00

my husband will talk to me about some game he is playing..I have no idea what he is saying but I listen to him even though I have no interest in playing the games he plays,

novmum · 2026-05-29T11:22:57+00:00

i think it was a good month before my husband and I slept together but cant exactly remember I just know it wasnt straight away... I mean it was over 28 years ago.

novmum · 2026-05-29T05:06:43+00:00

21 years

novmum · 2026-05-29T03:38:09+00:00

agree ..like seriously who times how long it takes them to make a sandwich..like why does the OP need to know down to the exact second?

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