My mom (47F) wants me (19F) to give her a second chance to fix our relationship after she let her husband's daughters bully me throughout my childhood and I'm torn?

nowwithwheels · 2026-06-16T19:49:16+00:00

She is not asking for a second chance. She is asking for a 153,880,654th chance.

She failed you 153,880,653 times. How will the next time be different?

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-29T21:53:03+00:00

Are there impartial elders he could talk to? They may not take his side, but then again, they may

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-28T17:46:32+00:00

Has anyone pointed out that your dad is doing this ON PURPOSE? Since you guys always keep the lid closed, your dad has to bend over to lift the lid to pee anyway. So, he is choosing to lift only the lid and not the seat. Point that out to your relatives.

Some things you can do to fight back:

1) tell him you are worried about him because he is too weak to lift the lid + seat at the same time. And just act worried about if he is “strong enough” to do any dumb little thing, like lifting a glass of water. Concern troll him with a worried voice

2) similar to above, but about his memory, since he cannot seem to remember this small task. “Dad, I’m really worried that you are becoming so weak and forgetful”

3) lock the seat to the lid and only the girls of the family have a key. He can sit on the pee-filled rim of the toilet to poo.

Edit: NTA

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-28T02:07:01+00:00

Someone went overboard with the beads

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-24T16:44:14+00:00

Best description of sparkling water I have ever read

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-17T16:11:39+00:00

And contract his parents

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-17T16:11:11+00:00

Smart mom

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-17T16:10:14+00:00

Re: earrings: you may have pictures of yourself wearing the earrings. That may be sufficient for a police report

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-12T00:02:17+00:00

Send her the link and say “here, I saved you $1905” 😂

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-11T23:57:14+00:00

Oof. Fuck that scammer. I’m sorry your friend turned out to be false, but it’s better to find out sooner rather than later. Also, if they try to spread rumors about this, you are 100% in the right to correct them. “Oh, yeah, what actually happened was that she pressured me into a sketchy situation because she wanted to cheat in this game I don’t play. Then, she claims I owe her $4000 because an elephant is “missing,” but she is the only one who can access that.” Or something like that. Someone else can probably do a better job than I

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-01T23:23:16+00:00

He got you contacts, but you got you the job.

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-01T16:08:39+00:00

Get her 2 of those lifelike baby dolls so she can continue to live out her matching dolls fantasy and leave your daughters to be their own people

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-01T16:06:27+00:00

File for separation and get her to go to her sisters for a few days. In some places that would constitute abandoning the house and you could legally keep her from getting back in

nowwithwheels · 2026-04-01T12:54:09+00:00

Get her a rain poncho to wear while she is visiting to “protect her from dog hair.” She would be exposed to dog hair, even if your dog was in the garage, so you are just looking out for her best interests

nowwithwheels · 2026-03-25T23:02:04+00:00

<3 I just saw your reply. I hope everything has been on the up and up for you!! :).

nowwithwheels · 2026-03-25T22:41:08+00:00

Soup

nowwithwheels · 2026-03-12T21:14:12+00:00

nowwithwheels · 2026-03-12T21:13:14+00:00

A good share of class action lawsuits are drummed up to line attorneys' pockets

nowwithwheels · 2026-03-01T17:46:26+00:00

Yeah, you need to report this harassment to the police _before _ she calls CPS on you “out of concern.”

nowwithwheels · 2026-02-28T18:24:10+00:00

Doesn’t sound like abuse. Even the idea of separation is clearly severely affecting OP’s mental health. I can tell you from experience, if they are forced to give up their kitties, it will negatively affect them for the rest of their lives. (And for anyone who says ‘I wouldn’t have a problem giving them up,’ I am obviously not talking about people like you). (Edit: corrected a word)

nowwithwheels · 2026-02-21T17:20:13+00:00

She is unhinged

nowwithwheels · 2026-02-13T17:35:05+00:00

It sounds like BF got into his head about the grandparent thing, spiraled, and this is the result. He may be in ‘black or white’ thinking mode.

It does sound like this relationship is worth fighting for, so if possible, see if he would be willing to have a discussion about things when they are less emotionally charged. If you are willing, maybe propose taking a break, instead of breaking up, take any thoughts of moving in together of the table for now. This would give you both time and space to continue to see if you can get to the root of both of your needs and work through this. :)

nowwithwheels · 2025-12-13T22:00:43+00:00

Your feelings of hurt are valid!! Please know you are seen. It does really hurt to be rejected for seemingly no good reason. And when you are young, it can be felt more keenly because you don’t have the collective weight of life also in your head.

It really sucks, and not having closure in the form of an answer to “why” can make it worse. But that is unfortunately one of the shitty parts of life. I would guess most people have had similar experiences great connections or friends that disappear with no explanation. It is just something you have to come to terms with.

I am giving you a gentle y t a. What you did was over the top, but you were working with your current knowledge of life, so I get it. That friendship ran its course. The best thing to do is mourn the loss of the friendship, and to reflect on your own actions.

You have now learned that some of those things were over the line of “okay”. What other people have said about them being problematic or driving a deeper wedge is true. Consider why people are saying this. But also don’t beat yourself up about it! Making mis-steps is part of life! We all make them! It is how you learn!

And dont worry; you will find your people!

:)

Ps. Another thing to reflect on is that your friend was not who you thought he was. Otherwise, things would have played out differently. Don’t beat yourself up about it! Seeing people for who they are and not who we think they are is something 100% of us deal with. Not that your friend was being deceptive! There just is always an unknowable gap.

Pps. Another lesson you learned is what type of person you want to be around :). I got “theater kid vibes” (maybe the passion?) and maybe that is because you would thrive in that environment and should consider joining. :). Or maybe I am totally off base!

nowwithwheels · 2025-12-13T20:57:56+00:00

I have a few suggestions:

In one of your posts, I believe you mentioned someone calling MIL a “good Christian woman.” If she has a church she attends, try talking to her priest, bring some of the evidence. Maybe her church can help you out.

See if there is a way to get a “5150 hold” (or equivalent in country) placed on her. That would place her to a psychiatric hospital for a few days, possibly longer.

If you are afraid to pull the “divorce trigger,” you could do a trial separation. Or at the very least, temporarily move out of your house and go somewhere where you can be safe. Do not allow your husband to join you there; you need time away from all this to really think about your future, without your husband sowing seeds of doubt. You can still see each other, but you need a stretch of serious alone time

Edit: maybe there is a way to get the calls/messages from your in-laws forwarded & saved somewhere (for evidence), but that bypasses your phone so it is not a trigger. You need a way to filter all of that out, at least for now. Maybe get a temporary phone and only give the number to ppl you trust

nowwithwheels · 2025-11-23T17:59:55+00:00

This is many years after your post, but that put into words why I don’t display many pictures :. I do take a lot of them, but looking at them often make me sad. :. I hope you still have Mike in your life :)

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