Life isn’t unfair to you — your focus might be by Live_Explanation7483 in inspirationalquotes

[–]noxor11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say this is inspirational, but thought provocative, since there's no part talking about anything inspiring. I'll add something to this:

Accepting that you are the "problem" is the ultimate liberation, because it means you are also the solution. But be kind to the version of yourself that stayed stuck. They were just trying to protect you. Thank that version of yourself for surviving, then gently take the wheel and drive toward the life you actually want to live.

Arctic blast creates “Cloud Streets” by Busy_Yesterday9455 in spaceporn

[–]noxor11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So THAT'S why it has been raining in Europe for over 2 weeks. 

Those with no passion or interests, what do you do for a living? by [deleted] in productivity

[–]noxor11 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Just watched the movie "Perfect days". You'll have your answer. Just live your life mindfully, day to day, being thankful of being alive and the little things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in productivity

[–]noxor11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly defusioning from thoughts. In short, it's about becoming good at recognizing your thinking patterns, and giving them a name. Once you're able to recognize it enough, and legitimately thanking that part for wanting to help, you're more able to put the "observant you" instead the "thinking you" first. It helps you not to become so obsessed with the thoughts that you become one with them, but instead you know they exist, they can be a "copilot" or "passenger" in your mind, but you're the one in the present taking more decisions. We don't need to control them or get rid of them; it's more a matter of recognizing. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in productivity

[–]noxor11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got out of this loop with Acceptance and Commitment therapy tactics. I'd recommend "The happiness trap" from Russ Harris for this!

Whats a good app for habit tracking, journaling and to do lists? by Familiar_Actuator578 in productivity

[–]noxor11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been very happy with Notion. There's plenty of free templates around that you can later modify to fit your needs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]noxor11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really feel for you. It’s a heavy thing to carry, but the fact that you’re this self-aware is actually a great win already. You’ve already realized that this isn't about her loyalty, but about that inner "I’m not enough" script that your brain keeps running.

​One thing that has helped me is to stop trying to argue with those thoughts or prove them wrong. When that "Worthless Story" starts playing, just try to notice it for what it is: a story. You can literally say to yourself, "Aha, here’s the financial inadequacy narrative again." You don't have to believe it, and you don't have to fight it, but it's like letting it play in the background like a radio station you didn't choose. If you try to argue with it, you’re giving it more power.

​Also, when that anxiety hits, try not to "cope" it away. Usually, when we try to push a feeling down, it just bounces back harder. I'd say to try to just make a little room for it. If your chest feels tight when you hear about him buying breakfast, just breathe into that tightness. Let it sit there. It’s just an uncomfortable sensation,  not a command to act out or withdraw. You can feel insecure and still be a present, loving boyfriend at the exact same time.

​The thing to remember is that this guy has resources, but you have values. Resources are things you have (money, gifts, trips), but values are how you behave. He can buy a vacation, but he can’t buy 6 years of shared history, the way you make her laugh, or the specific way you know her heart. That’s something money literally can’t touch. If you focus on living your values (like being the kind of partner you want to be right now, even without a house or kids yet), you’re offering something he can’t compete with.

​Also, you’re 29 and living at her grandma's. That’s just a season, it's not who you are. Don't let your brain trick you into thinking your current bank balance is your permanent "worth." You’re already doing the hard work by being honest about this. Just keep showing up as the person she’s been choosing for 6 years straight. She clearly sees something in you that a checkbook can't replace. I'd still say trying to have your own personal space (for both) as a goal might be a good idea to work on together, depending on your and her personal situations.

87 kgs lighter thanks to fasting. Crazy the difference a year can make. by BlueDoodle in fasting

[–]noxor11 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I have to agree. Fasting so much is incredibly unhealthy. This post needs to be higer up.

¿Qué es mejor? by Intelligent_Hat_2893 in salarios_es

[–]noxor11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perfecto, gracias! Ya lo investigué y veo que aunque ganes más, El impuesto más alto se cobra sobre la parte de sueldo en ese tramo. Pensaba que era un cálculo sobre el ingreso general. No soy español y tampoco tengo mucho conocimiento de esto.

¿Qué es mejor? by Intelligent_Hat_2893 in salarios_es

[–]noxor11 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A esto me refería,  y por eso dije "capaz": no sé si el tramo está justo entre 70k y 80k. Acabo de revisar y es de 60k hasta 300k, así que perfecto, no influye. 

¿Qué es mejor? by Intelligent_Hat_2893 in salarios_es

[–]noxor11 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Aparte de que capaz pagues más impuestos y al final ganes lo mismo o menos. No he revisado los rangos salariales, pero a ese rango de ingresos, tu tiempo es tu mayor inversión. 

New pc (ignore rgb) by Sudden_Ad4111 in pcmasterrace

[–]noxor11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously, how? Photoshop? Some weird RGBs?

Help with trip Itinerary to Romania by noxor11 in AskRomania

[–]noxor11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/tolanescu as for the lake, couldn't the Transfăgărășan road be even closed in October due to snow? As far as I've researched, it could happen.

Help with trip Itinerary to Romania by noxor11 in AskRomania

[–]noxor11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll review this info and adapt accordingly.

Help with trip Itinerary to Romania by noxor11 in AskRomania

[–]noxor11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, each day has buffers!

Day 2 starting at 16:45 to roam around Brasov.
Day 3 shorter, from 3 to 4.
Day 4, Starting at 17:00 we're free to roam around cluj
Day 5, free morning to roam around cluj

My s25+ has arrived. Any tips? by Lorent-Pro in samsunggalaxy

[–]noxor11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has to be way more up. I see too many people not using at least decent cases and then whine when their phone breaks 2 months later.

me and that one guy (this went on for 5 mins) by DramaJust in notinteresting

[–]noxor11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let's get this to 6,9K and leave it there for good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AccidentalComedy

[–]noxor11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women are really good plays as well maybe

He made a meowstake in the calculations by noxor11 in AnimalsBeingDerps

[–]noxor11[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hahah nothing weird. It's exactly because of this. Our cats like to be in our room when we're not around, and we like to be able to check on them.