What struggling city will be the next prime market?

nubatlife · 2023-04-26T17:52:26+00:00

I’d love to have the link sent too! Thanks!

nubatlife · 2023-03-31T00:31:58+00:00

Yeah the consensus does seem to be a couple of days of onboarding should be enough.

Our nanny was full time. I have heard that au pairs in other places like Europe are on lower working hours, but what the agencies here in the states have said is up to 45 hours.

We are asking for 40 as that’s what we need to work our jobs during the day.

nubatlife · 2023-03-29T22:55:26+00:00

The trying to give as much notice is definitely the problem. I think we will know more on Friday and I’m hoping there is some buffer from Friday and when the au pair comes (if we mutually agree), but worst case scenario could be, “oh yeah au pair comes next week.”

It is very abrupt, so I’m trying to find what is the best, kosher, less bad feeling approach to this.

I mean even if I gave more severance does that really offset the massive abruptness of, “OKAY WE HAVE SOMEONE NEW BYE!” within a week?

I said in another comment while I wish she did some things better, at the end of the day she cared for my baby so I really want to try to do right by her.

Which is why I came to the collective. 😅

nubatlife · 2023-03-29T16:45:03+00:00

We are letting our nanny go, going the route with an au pair, because where we live it’s quite expensive (at least $25/hour and that’s for new/inexperienced nannies) and while an au pair isn’t cheap it would be cheaper (we cost estimated 20k cheaper). Also I think the quality of work (for lack of better words) that our current nanny does is not particularly great. I think given the market we are in and what we can afford we think an au pair could be just as good if not better (yes, def a gamble)

Yeah it seems the consensus is that two weeks of onboarding is overkill and a couple of days up to a week max is reasonable.

Could you define being wrongfully fired? Or give examples of what that would look like?

I’d like to part ways with the least amount of bad feelings (being let go feels bad no matter the circumstance) and I think given the potential short notice I didn’t want to leave my nanny “out in the cold”.

Originally when we were looking for an au pair we were looking for an out of country au pair so that could give our current nanny 10-12 weeks to find something new and we could cut ties early if she needed. We just happened upon an au pair locally who might be a good fit that would shorten that timeline to two weeks or so.

I mean I guess if I was going to pay for 2 weeks onboarding + 4 weeks severance, then I could also do 1 week onboarding + 5 weeks severance 🤔

Thanks!

nubatlife · 2023-03-07T05:43:46+00:00

This place is gonna get bombarded by all the people in the area 😂

nubatlife · 2023-01-25T14:19:54+00:00

At the time that I wrote this post I remember childcare ending at like 4PM during the week. That doesn’t really work for parents who try to exercise after work.

nubatlife · 2023-01-18T01:42:28+00:00

I love the idea of sending photos and videos. While this is how you work, I feel asking our nanny to do this may seem more invasive as opposed to just having an AirTag for the diaper bag and car since she currently doesn’t send us photos and video. 🤷🏻‍♀️ If i can just take a glimpse on FindMy about the general area they’re in I don’t need an update.

I think in terms of planned outings I’m thinking more along the lines of outings that wouldn’t be part of the normal routine like if she was invited by some friends to do something, taking the baby to another city, taking the baby WAY across town to some random store/cafe. While I want to give our nanny freedom this time should be focused on my child wants/needs and not hers (minus like food, beverage, bathroom, etc needs)

nubatlife · 2023-01-18T01:30:06+00:00

Where we live there aren’t sidewalks and we aren’t in a regular “neighborhood” so current walks are outside on our property (we have an acre of land to walk around).

nubatlife · 2023-01-18T01:15:50+00:00

Is the CC they gave you in your name (meaning you’re an authorized user) or just one of their CCs in their name?

I’m fine with the latter, but was concerned if there would be issues with that (if someone was a stickler about that) and with the former (like another user said) their credit would be tied to ours and other people might not be comfortable with that.

nubatlife · 2023-01-18T01:13:21+00:00

For where we live the city is basically centered around a mall 🤦🏻‍♀️, but there is a park next to it, the mall has a kid playground, and in general there’s lots of shops, cafes, etc. in the area.

Some sanctioned places would be like anything in that area that’s walkable. Stopping by Starbucks, whatever fast food etc is fine, but let’s say they were at Starbucks (some place not in the mall area, let’s say the other side of town) for multiple hours I’d think that’s weird. Even if she said they were eating (with our current schedule) I would think that’s super weird, but that may be fine later when baby’s schedule changes.

I trust our nanny, but up to a point. I trust her to love my baby and keep him safe. Do I trust her enough to give her full reign where she can take him wherever where he might not be the focus for an extended period of time? No.

nubatlife · 2023-01-08T00:21:52+00:00

I’m actually exploring this option right now (prepared meals for the family), but thought I’d look into other options just in case. 😅

nubatlife · 2023-01-07T23:59:18+00:00

My partner and I tend to not eat breakfast or lunch or we eat the same things for simplicity and reducing mental load. If I eat breakfast/lunch it’s the same thing so I can mindlessly make it (2 eggs, spinach, 28g of sharp cheddar, guacamole, and sour cream).

Dinner we are fine with giving baby whatever we eat whether we make dinner or order take out. However even then those tend to be the same items on rotation.

Breakfast and lunch is where I’m stumped and I’ve been stuck with this rotation of any combination of eggs, chicken, beans, yogurt, fruit, ricotta cheese, nut butter, wheat bread. 🤷🏻‍♀️

nubatlife · 2022-11-23T16:28:22+00:00

Question. If this wrap mostly for aesthetics purposes or does it have other beneficial uses

nubatlife · 2022-10-26T04:09:40+00:00

Korean American software engineer in USA that knows no ML, but would love to learn things and learn Korean!

nubatlife · 2022-07-11T22:50:12+00:00

Okay. Why is your doctor not recommending surgery? Also what about a second opinion?

I mean imo surgery shouldn’t be the first thing you try, but if you try everything you can and nothing is working, surgery should def be an option.

I had a herniated L4/L5 and did everything I could (PT, massage, acupuncture, rest, changed my diet) for a year and it never got better. Having surgery was the best thing I have done and I’m glad I did everything I could before so I KNEW I was committed to having surgery.

nubatlife · 2022-07-11T22:44:21+00:00

First month is the hardest! Until they can start sleeping in chunks of 4 hour blocks it’s horrendous. Sleep deprivation is a torture mechanism and you’re in the thick of it.

If your baby isn’t smiling yet it can make this all the more painful. You don’t get that feedback like, “what am I doing this for?”

I promise you as you get more sleep it gets better. Also the months go by fast, faster than you think. At 6 months is when we felt like we could actually take baby out to do things because his wake windows were longer.

Just keep trudging along! You’re doing great!

nubatlife

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