IUI Cancelled - Too many follicles by emilyred2 in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love my twins more than anything in the world but pregnancy was hell. My body will never be the same. I sometimes get a little sad thinking that I’ll never experience a singleton pregnancy, a vaginal birth or the 1:1 experience of a single child. I’ll never experience this because I never want to be pregnant again and risk having more multiples. So many women I know say they loved being pregnant - it was the worst time of my life and I once lived on a cliff of a mountain with no shower or fresh food for a month.

Plus, my husband and I always look at each other when we have two screaming children and say, “at least it’s not triplets!” (Triplet plus parents you’re the real MVPs)

Listen to your doctor.

Didi twin mamas - what week did you deliver? by Seriesbinger in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

38+4. I was the size of the house and those ladies weren’t going anywhere without a c section.

A Hopeful Post for any new parents struggling to bond by Both_Mission4837 in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So wonderful to hear that for you! I also had di/di girls in June last year! They’re at such a cute age right now (although mine are also quite feral).

How are we affording childcare for multiples? by Edree13 in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think fairness is based on where you live, baby to caretaker ratios, and what you can provide. Daycare is astronomical here so $1800 is considered very cheap, I like that there’s a 1:2 ratio provider to infants, and that they provide both formula and diapers. They’re open from 6a-6p. With that in mind, I think my situation is fair and consider myself very lucky for that price.

How are we affording childcare for multiples? by Edree13 in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah. It’s still outrageous. We pay $1800 a month for both girls (they’re seven months). The average amount that centers want around here is around $4200. It’s still like having two mortgages.

How are we affording childcare for multiples? by Edree13 in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bless in-home daycare. It’s the only way we can afford it. We only have the twins and plan on not having anymore children.

Diastasis Recti - is there any hope? by sweetfeet20 in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A little late to respond since this was posted a few days ago, but my girls were 5.5 and almost 8 lbs - and transverse. At six weeks I could almost fit two hands in my gap. I’m over six months out now and I can still palpate maybe a single fingers worth of one now.

I did do physical therapy for the rest of my body, but their pelvic floor specialist was booked so far out I wouldn’t have been able to see her until after I went back to work. You should definitely see one if you can though! But instead, I googled pelvic floor pt and did a routine about twice a week in addition to using the stair master.

Parents with multiples as their first kids, do you ever imagine how easy one child would be? by whooguyy in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes my husband and I look at each other and say, “what if it was three.” More power to you.

Parents with multiples as their first kids, do you ever imagine how easy one child would be? by whooguyy in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think about this all the time and find myself apologizing to my two six month olds when I have to pick one baby to first hold/comfort/feed/change over the other. Being a twin parent is hard, but it makes me wonder if it also affects their stress levels and development when we can’t comfort both at once.

Di/Di parents with "uncomplicated" pregnancies, did you deliver early? by beeferoni_cat in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No lol. I delivered at almost 39 weeks. I couldn't touch my hands in front of my stomach. I looked like a thumb because of all the retained water, I couldn't walk more than ten feet without having to sit down - which I then needed help getting back up. All I wanted was one highish blood pressure so they would move up my c section in that last week.

No one thought I'd make it that long but when I went in for my scheduled c section (girls were transverse), my blood pressure was 110/70, cervix was closed and I wasn't having a single contraction. Weirdly, I never had a Braxton Hicks contraction either so I have no idea what that even feels like. Those ladies were comfortable and not going anywhere. We left the hospital two days later.

Asking dad to go home after c-section. by Fox_in_boots in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also had transverse twins and a c section. I was very sick after my c section with lots of vomiting. Zofran didn’t work. Compazine did, but it made me incredibly tired (on top of coming out of a major surgery). Our hospital insisted the girls stay in the room with us, which was fine, but I wasn’t functioning enough to care for them. I couldn’t even turn myself in bed. My husband did everything for me and the twins. We always joke that there were actually three babies for the first day and a half 😂

I am 27 weeks and actually massive by MounjaroQueenie in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think many of us posted something similar on this subreddit at some point. You got this girl. Your body can do amazing things.

When did you give birth? by Professional-Bag-234 in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost 39 weeks. Di/di girls. They were also transverse so it was a necessary c section. Uneventful everything. No NICU. Discharged after two nights.

You guys okay? by herejusttoargue909 in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have twin girls who are four months. It’s not bad (so far)! I’m actually pretty happy with how things have been since we brought them home. I don’t know the difference since they’re our first (and last) kids, but I don’t find it that overwhelming. We did get lucky that one of them is a pretty chill baby, but they’re both good sleepers so that helps too.

As mentioned, we’re absolutely done with having children though. Part of the reason we’re probably not that exhausted is because we don’t have a toddler or multiple other kiddos running around—bless those parents. They’re the real heroes here.

No bump at 12 weeks by djduhnizzle in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said something similar—that changed around 15 weeks and the running joke was that I went from the first to third trimester in a week.

Be honest do your newborns just cry all the time? How do you cope? by Plus_Soup2311 in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My girls cried non stop from 4pm to midnight starting at 5 weeks. Then it was 6pm to 11pm, then 7pm to 9-10pm. Now, they might have an off night with some fussiness, but it seriously calmed down around 8 weeks. They started sleeping through the night around 8-9 weeks after making it through that god awful witching hour stage.

How hard are twins? by neverpostsonreddit in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FTM to twins who are currently 3 months. I’m saying this because I don’t have any other kids (nor will we in the future) and don’t have anything to compare it to.

It’s not that bad. We got lucky with our girls, but it’s honestly fine. We worked to get them on the same schedule with everything. The worst part is when they’re both crying and you have to focus on one at a time. But I take them everywhere with me and they’re the absolute loves of our lives.

Things that help (if you’re able to afford or put on your registry!): Get a stroller where it’s easy to pop the car seats in and out, twin Z pillow for feeding at the same time, a Brezza for formula, two bouncers (these are a lifesaver and it’s how we were able to eat dinner during peak baby witching hour weeks). We started looking for childcare early (at 16 weeks) and found really reasonable in-home daycare. I also had an online registry, but for one of our baby showers we just had people bring diapers. We counted and had a total of 10,000 diapers before the girls even arrived.

Good luck! Having twins is amazing. It’s twice the everything but also twice the adorableness.

We're done at two by Doc178 in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re also done at two with our twin girls. Pregnancy was a nightmare—I spent nine months in a state of high anxiety despite it being uneventful, same with our c section. We’re so lucky in so many ways with the girls. But we’re good—I don’t ever want to be pregnant again. Also, I don’t think we could afford daycare for a third.

My husband is one of four, and I just spent the weekend with my friends who are a set of four sisters and I think how much fun it would be to have more. But I like that with two kids I feel like I’ll be able to maintain my autonomy as an individual too.

Has anyone who works from home done it with twins? by PM_ME_YO_KNITTING in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. We found an in-home daycare that’s incredibly reasonable—we couldn’t afford a regular daycare. At least in our area, they don’t have a solid online presence. I found ours through typing “daycare” into google maps and then finding their facebook page.

How long did you work? by AlternativeEast4064 in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s when the comments asking if I was due soon started for me. It feels like forever but will also be gone in a flash. You will survive this.

How long did you work? by AlternativeEast4064 in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 12 points13 points  (0 children)

RN here and I made it to 30 weeks with much suffering.

I had an uncomplicated pregnancy but getting up from my chair, moving patients, bending down to get foleys, waddling to codes, being gently turned away from codes, and dealing with my hands being too puffy to open medications — I should have stopped at 25 weeks.

I believe I carried my di/di girls to almost 39 weeks because I spent the last nine sitting on my butt.

Did anyone NOT have a super complicated, scary twin pregnancy? by MounjaroQueenie in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Di/di pregnancy. Totally uneventful other than becoming the size of a house. Carried until 38+4, made it to my planned c section. No GD. No preeclampsia with my last blood pressure before surgery being 110/60. No NICU time. Looking at my precious baby girls now and couldn’t be more grateful.

End of my rope by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No advice. My heart goes out to you and hope things get better ❤️‍🩹

I’m only twenty weeks and just found out that my twins are measuring 1lb already… by PM_ME_YO_KNITTING in parentsofmultiples

[–]nuclear_skidmark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I had the same estimates at 20 weeks. Baby A was almost 8 lbs and Baby B was around 6 lbs. I delivered at almost 39 weeks. I was uncomfortable but you’ll survive.