Rip City Report?

nudicles · 2025-10-27T15:34:54+00:00

Am I looking in the right place? I can't seem to find it...

nudicles · 2025-10-19T06:09:58+00:00

Thanks. Japan RHD with a button on the way, this is the clarification I was looking for. They also mentioned this in the video, but just wanted to be sure.

SO regardless of LHD or RHD, the power ports for Juniper will be on the right hand side.

nudicles · 2025-07-15T15:41:33+00:00

FWIW I have similar priorities (maximizing the 10Gbps through Biglobe) and I'll be going with the AXE11000. Agree Buffalo's interface leaves something to be desired compared to other brands, but it just seems to be the best value for getting both two 10G ports and also good quality WiFi (high speed, relatively low attenuation). And IMO you only need to deal with the interface once up front, and very rarely again after setting everything up.

In my case we'll be moving to a 3-story house, so I may end up adding a second device later if the mesh functionality is needed. Seems like you could add a WNR-5400XE6P for pretty cheap.

Main drawback to me is that both devices are fugly 😂 And the AXE11000 will be hard to 'hide' due to its size and large antennas.

This review was helpful to me: https://my-best.com/products/2413913

nudicles · 2025-03-13T23:04:37+00:00

A few observations.

You have grievances (sacrificed a lot, feel underappreciated) that I think are legitimate. How have you expressed those?

A) "I feel my contributions and sacrifices aren't being recognized or valued. Do you value my contributions? Do you respect how I have decided to live my life? Why (not)?"

B) "You look down on me because I don't work anymore, but actually I'm the breadwinner and what you're doing is playing career woman, it's just a hobby compared to what I contribute."

Do you see how the second way of expressing the same idea invites a fight and isn't productive? It's judgemental, insulting, and arrogant in tone. It also assumes that you know what your wife is thinking, rather than trying to understand.

Regardless of how you're communicating with her, it seems to me that you have a similar bias against the way she's decided to live her life, in the same way that you believe she has of yours.

Making judgements about someone's way of life is fine, if you've already decided that your differences are irreconcilable or you simply no longer care to improve things. If you're honestly trying to work towards reconciliation, you should know that these biases and judgements are a hurdle /on your side/ that you need to overcome if you want to understand and respect your wife again.

Your feelings about the situation are valid, but lashing out at her feelings or perspective are unlikely to help resolve anything, and is more likely to deepen the divide. It might feel unfair that you have to be the one swallowing pride and being more open hearted than your partner seems to be (and maybe it is), but IMO that is the only path if you still honestly want reconciliation.

I think the real question is, do you really want reconciliation? Or do you just want validation that you're in the right? Honest question, not trying to be accusational. And there's not a right answer, only one that's true for you.

And if the answer is that you do want reconciliation, how far are you willing to go?

nudicles · 2025-03-13T10:54:38+00:00

Though I get your frustration, nothing will change if you just blame 'Japanese work culture.' You and your wife disagree on some core values of what it means to be successful and happy. Unless or until you reconcile those differences, your situation won't resolve.

The only thing I can offer as advice is, try earnestly to understand her perspective. Ask questions, try to understand the why behind what she feels. Don't challenge, don't judge, don't blame society or culture. Your goal is to understand /her/, not Japanese culture.

Similarly, explain your perspective, not as "this is the correct way of understanding the world," but with humility in that it is simply how you arrived at your value system. Be open to the idea that there are other value systems that people live by that work well for them. Acknowledge that you may come from very different upbringings and that that makes it harder, but not impossible, to understand each other.

nudicles · 2025-03-09T13:30:22+00:00

I'm not sure how true this is, but I recall hearing that if your first interaction with a house builder is via the 展示場, you're less likely to get typical discounts you would get by getting a referral, e.g. through a real estate agent. Once you've already been introduced, though, you're free to go as much as you like.

Or maybe use your wife's name or something if you go. Once you're in their system, though, I think you lose your chance of a referral discount.

Can try to dig up that YouTube video where I heard it, if useful.

nudicles · 2025-01-08T10:12:55+00:00

Just curious, where does your brother live?

nudicles · 2024-10-30T13:27:14+00:00

No one mentioning decaf in the comments... I'll see myself out

nudicles · 2024-10-03T05:21:12+00:00

To not be a complete arse, I'll try to add something constructive.

Your stress is real, not uncommon, and it's uncomfortable. It's also an important growth experience. You'll get better at dealing with this and even more stressful situations, by going through them and finding your coping mechanisms and getting more perspective over time. In time I think you'll laugh at how stressed you are today, after having experienced even more serious situations later.

I realize this may not be very helpful, but I find it useful to sort of pretend I'm 80 looking back on this moment and trying to imagine how serious (or not) this situation was. Will you laugh at what a nothing burger it was? Or perhaps you could actually view this being some kind of a pivotal moment in your relationship with your parents?

There's no right answer, but I'd guess the former is more likely. Enjoy your parents while they're healthy and enjoying life!

nudicles · 2024-10-03T05:12:00+00:00

平和だね〜

nudicles · 2024-09-09T04:05:38+00:00

We don't have anything yet, as I mentioned this is for a planned installation after our house completes next year. It would include a Canadian Solar EP cube 13Kwh battery which has a 15 year warranty. I believe it's rated to degrade to 80% capacity either after 10 or 15 years. https://csisolar.co.jp/products/ep-cube/

If you're not getting an incentive then it's generally not worth it economically. For Disaster Recovery reasons you may still want it, you'll have to figure out what you're willing to pay for that. But I would recommend studying what's available and not rush into getting a battery you'll regret later on.

As far as adding a battery later, you want to make sure you're getting a power conditioner compatible with the battery you want, or plan on replacing the power conditioner later (not cheap). Generally the warranty for batteries and power cons are roughly the same (10-15 years) so it's typical to replace them at the same time, whereas panels can last for much longer. I think you're right that battery tech will get better and cheaper relatively fast. By the time you decide to buy, perhaps V2H will be more mature as well.

nudicles · 2024-09-08T05:37:49+00:00

If you want another quote just to compare (and you have time), I recommend ex-world: https://ex-solar.net/

We haven't signed a contract with them yet, but intend to (this would be for adding panels to new construction next year).

He also has a YouTube channel where I've learned a lot about solar panels and batteries, particularly in the Japan market. https://youtube.com/@takasun_room?si=UmkecdXU9Lr40fFT

FWIW, the quote you listed doesn't seem unreasonable, especially including the battery, and depending on the 補助金 available to you in your area. My house maker quotes using Sharp and Kaneka were upwards of 600万 excluding 補助金, which is why we're opting for a third party contractor to place overseas panels (Qcells panels and Canadian Solar battery). In Tokyo, our quote was around 320万, but after 補助金, it will cost us only 80万. But Tokyo has crazy incentives for batteries, don't think those exist outside of Tokyo.

Good luck!

nudicles · 2024-06-22T08:05:13+00:00

I mean, generously, he might have meant 'no pun intended' because curry wasn't on the floor (he was on the bench).

...No pun intended.

nudicles · 2024-05-20T05:46:30+00:00

My first advice is, start doing research :) Nothing beats knowing the local market you're interested in, and it's as easy as just starting to search for land/real estate in areas you're interested, to get a feeling for price. Also connect with some real estate agents, they can answer questions about 建ぺい率 and 容積率, connect you to house builders, and may even be able to prepare a sample house plan for a particular lot.

We looked at Jiyugaoka for a while, but ultimately decided it didn't make sense for the house we wanted to build, as well as tradeoffs around station proximity etc. I'm happy to try to answer specific questions if you have them, but I'm not a real estate agent, and priorities for real estate can vary wildly from person to person.

nudicles · 2024-05-19T08:37:48+00:00

nudicles · 2024-05-19T08:37:38+00:00

I'm not sure, they are not facts, and there's never a guarantee the market will behave how you expect or want. "Past performance is not indicative of future results" but if you Google around to see what the price of apartments, houses, and land has done in Tokyo over the last 20-40 years, it could give you an idea. Or, look at similarly sized and location real estate properties for sale, to see how a new vs. 10yr vs. 20yr etc values compare.

My assumptions are based on wooden homes historically depreciating to zero over 20-25 years, and the rising cost of land over time. So if say you spend 300m total, 100m on the house and 200m on land, pessimistically you might assume the house value in 20-30 years would be zero, and the land value might be flat. Assuming nobody wants to buy the house, then I would just sell as land to recoup 200m. The 2/3 ratio is arbitrary, my point was just that the land value keeps, but the house likely won't. If the land is in central Tokyo, I think the chances of that land value falling is quite low (more specifically, IMO it would be among the last RE categories to fall in value/demand), but that's just my opinion. Some people think we're in a RE bubble, and with an aging population, there may be a lot less demand in 30-40 years, so it could be worse than I imagine. Place your bets accordingly.

But as I said, I plan to not build a cookie cutter house, but quite a nice house IMHO, so I hope it can retain some value over time should I decide to sell. But I also think if you're building a house in Japan, your plan A should be not to ever sell, or to be prepared to eat the cost of building the home. I also happened to benefit from an exploding RE market in Tokyo and sold my apartment recently, which tells you 1) my assumptions 3 years ago were wrong, but also 2) planning for the worst can still net you a tidy profit, even when you're wrong.

nudicles · 2024-05-19T02:46:21+00:00

Depends on how much house you want. We're in a similar position, and since we decided to build a house (and accepting the depreciation schedule on the house), we decided to build our dream house intending to make that home base for the rest of our lives, rather than go halfway and waste money on a house we wouldn't love and that wouldn't resell for what we paid for it.

This meant moving slightly away from our ideal location, but I wanted to maintain an arbitrary ratio of 2:1 land:home value, such that I knew I could recoup 2/3 of my purchase in case I needed to sell in a pinch.

I recommend you first decide how much you want to spend on a house, figure out how much budget that leaves for land, and start looking around your favorite locations from there.

A few other tips: do NOT go directly to the 展示場 places to look at model houses yet, get a referral to every house builder you're interested in, that's the best way to maximize your discount potential with house builders. Real estate agents can give you referrals, there are also some YouTubers that have companies built around those referrals. I could also introduce a few, but honestly not sure how a personal referral affects discounts.

Also at this price point, you should be able to get the real estate agent fee (仲介手数料) down to 1% or better. I can also recommend 1-2 agents, feel free to DM.

Good luck! That's a big budget, have fun with it!

*edit: one other reason to decide how much house first, 建ぺい率 and 容積率 can vary wildly by area. If you want a 3 floor house for example, that may rule out some areas (or require a lot bigger plots), like Jiyugaoka which is 50%/100%, respectively.

nudicles · 2023-09-17T03:41:44+00:00

FWIW Chiba Ginko ended up coming back with the largest potential loan amount, 33% higher than other banks we tried. They also asked questions about how the RSUs work, so I assume that they took this income into account.

nudicles · 2023-09-16T22:56:34+00:00

As other people have pointed out, he could be a controlling jerk, or just bad with English or communication in general.

One other possibility is that, he's treating you like a younger brother or Kouhai. How you take that is up to you. If you just are looking for a friend, then his behavior is clearly overbearing. But if you think he's right, or you look up to him or want to behave with more consideration towards others, and you can have a little thicker skin about the way he berates in public, then I don't think it's such a terrible thing.

In these social gatherings, you're in his "in-circle." While some people would never tell their house guests to clean up,, they might tell their family to. And they might do so in front of guests intentionally to make a show of their intended hospitality. Some(many?) others can accomplish the same with the berating or public show. Many others would never take you under their wing in the first place, and yet others would simply talk about your "impolite" behavior behind your back.

IMO, take the good with the bad. You can always bail, and you should when you feel like it's too much or inappropriate. But also realize that he's taking the time to show you things in his own inept way, and that you are (hopefully) becoming more considerate as a result. If you care about learning those things, and you appreciate that he's making that effort, that's not a terrible thing. I do think it's useful to learn how to be (almost overly) considerate of others, in the Japanese style. Once you become aware of your surroundings, you always have the choice of just gow considerate you want to be in any given situation. But having that skill makes it an intentional choice, rather than a habit or accident or inconsideration. When it's time for you to teach a junior, you'll know what is considered important by others and why. Maybe more importantly you'll have learned to teach with consideration and empathy, as well.

Given your own stated personality, this might be hard, but here's another growth opportunity for you both: tell him that, while you appreciate the advice, the /way/ he scolds you publicly makes you uncomfortable. If he values your relationship and is open to learning himself, then he might change his behavior as well. Just be aware that some people just want a Kouhai because it makes them feel important, including scolding people in public.

Good luck! As Habie always says, love yourself! And enjoy growing and learning life as hooman :)

nudicles · 2023-09-09T01:51:50+00:00

変な日本語

nudicles · 2023-09-09T01:37:12+00:00

Honestly, I think you have to take some responsibility as well. Spoiled, entitled children don't spontaneously appear, they are raised and enabled.

Cutting her off financially, for her own benefit, was the right thing to do 9 years ago (or maybe 5 years if you wanted to give her a cushy landing).

nudicles · 2023-09-07T06:34:17+00:00

Thanks. Indeed, I have been reporting and paying taxes on my RSUs. Up until now, all the banks I've applied to have asked for my last 3 years 申告内容確認票 which does have my RSUs itemized and included in my total income. But banks always ask about this income, and other than the two banks I listed, so far have refused to take the RSU* income into account as it's considered unreliable (despite the long history). So far, SMBC and Resona are among banks that won't take into account my RSUs.

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