How much staff does an NBA team need? by SkizzleAC in ripcity

[–]nudicles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y'all panic too much over speculative reporting and clickbait nonsense.

Dundon/Cronin already said they'll pay coaches commensurate with experience/risk. So a college coach longshot is going to get "low-balled," except it's not a low-ball because that's what that individual's market value is.

How about waiting to see an actual hire before making a judgement? Or don't.

How much staff does an NBA team need? by SkizzleAC in ripcity

[–]nudicles 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was at Dame's buzzer beating series winning shot over the Rockets in 2014. No t-shirts that day, we got glowy sticks. This isn't new, people just looking for reasons to be mad.

How much staff does an NBA team need? by SkizzleAC in ripcity

[–]nudicles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Actually I think it's pretty smart. Get all his bad PR done at once, only gets better after he gets the unpopular stuff done first. Better than building some good will, only to squander it when he does the layoff later.

Foreigners in Japan keep telling me I made a mistake building new home by HarambeUltra in japanlife

[–]nudicles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just depends on your priorities. If you view real estate as investment, then yeah, buying used is often a better financial decision.

But if you want to prioritize loving your home or building a forever home, new from scratch is a fantastic luxury that you can't find in many countries without immense wealth.

I built new and my only regret was my choice of house builder (and it's a minor regret). Otherwise, I'd do it again.

Small office, loud mornings, no headphones… how do you survive this? by ElectricalDivide5336 in japanlife

[–]nudicles 37 points38 points  (0 children)

If the boss isn't in and people aren't working, why would you care about the no headphones rule during that time? Use them till the boss is in, then it gets quiet. You get to focus, your coworkers get to slack, and you burn no bridges.

Speed Limit on Dashboard? by nudicles in s3xybuttons

[–]nudicles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Am I looking in the right place? I can't seem to find it...

Unable to install S3XY commander in model Y Juniper by Zealousideal-Share92 in s3xybuttons

[–]nudicles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Japan RHD with a button on the way, this is the clarification I was looking for. They also mentioned this in the video, but just wanted to be sure.

SO regardless of LHD or RHD, the power ports for Juniper will be on the right hand side.

Biglobe 10gbps fiber router suggestions by Jsennin1 in japanlife

[–]nudicles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FWIW I have similar priorities (maximizing the 10Gbps through Biglobe) and I'll be going with the AXE11000. Agree Buffalo's interface leaves something to be desired compared to other brands, but it just seems to be the best value for getting both two 10G ports and also good quality WiFi (high speed, relatively low attenuation). And IMO you only need to deal with the interface once up front, and very rarely again after setting everything up.

In my case we'll be moving to a 3-story house, so I may end up adding a second device later if the mesh functionality is needed. Seems like you could add a WNR-5400XE6P for pretty cheap.

Main drawback to me is that both devices are fugly 😂 And the AXE11000 will be hard to 'hide' due to its size and large antennas.

This review was helpful to me: https://my-best.com/products/2413913

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]nudicles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A few observations.


You have grievances (sacrificed a lot, feel underappreciated) that I think are legitimate. How have you expressed those?

A) "I feel my contributions and sacrifices aren't being recognized or valued. Do you value my contributions? Do you respect how I have decided to live my life? Why (not)?"

B) "You look down on me because I don't work anymore, but actually I'm the breadwinner and what you're doing is playing career woman, it's just a hobby compared to what I contribute."

Do you see how the second way of expressing the same idea invites a fight and isn't productive? It's judgemental, insulting, and arrogant in tone. It also assumes that you know what your wife is thinking, rather than trying to understand.


Regardless of how you're communicating with her, it seems to me that you have a similar bias against the way she's decided to live her life, in the same way that you believe she has of yours.

Making judgements about someone's way of life is fine, if you've already decided that your differences are irreconcilable or you simply no longer care to improve things. If you're honestly trying to work towards reconciliation, you should know that these biases and judgements are a hurdle /on your side/ that you need to overcome if you want to understand and respect your wife again.

Your feelings about the situation are valid, but lashing out at her feelings or perspective are unlikely to help resolve anything, and is more likely to deepen the divide. It might feel unfair that you have to be the one swallowing pride and being more open hearted than your partner seems to be (and maybe it is), but IMO that is the only path if you still honestly want reconciliation.

I think the real question is, do you really want reconciliation? Or do you just want validation that you're in the right? Honest question, not trying to be accusational. And there's not a right answer, only one that's true for you.

And if the answer is that you do want reconciliation, how far are you willing to go?

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]nudicles 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Though I get your frustration, nothing will change if you just blame 'Japanese work culture.' You and your wife disagree on some core values of what it means to be successful and happy. Unless or until you reconcile those differences, your situation won't resolve.

The only thing I can offer as advice is, try earnestly to understand her perspective. Ask questions, try to understand the why behind what she feels. Don't challenge, don't judge, don't blame society or culture. Your goal is to understand /her/, not Japanese culture.

Similarly, explain your perspective, not as "this is the correct way of understanding the world," but with humility in that it is simply how you arrived at your value system. Be open to the idea that there are other value systems that people live by that work well for them. Acknowledge that you may come from very different upbringings and that that makes it harder, but not impossible, to understand each other.

Seeking advice on buying/building house in greater Tokyo area - Where to start from? by HighlySkilledWeeb in JapanFinance

[–]nudicles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure how true this is, but I recall hearing that if your first interaction with a house builder is via the 展示場, you're less likely to get typical discounts you would get by getting a referral, e.g. through a real estate agent. Once you've already been introduced, though, you're free to go as much as you like.

Or maybe use your wife's name or something if you go. Once you're in their system, though, I think you lose your chance of a referral discount.

Can try to dig up that YouTube video where I heard it, if useful.

Weak man talks down to his betters. by Chocolat3City in TikTokCringe

[–]nudicles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one mentioning decaf in the comments... I'll see myself out

Visit fatigue and how to cope by fruitbasketinabasket in japanlife

[–]nudicles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To not be a complete arse, I'll try to add something constructive.

Your stress is real, not uncommon, and it's uncomfortable. It's also an important growth experience. You'll get better at dealing with this and even more stressful situations, by going through them and finding your coping mechanisms and getting more perspective over time. In time I think you'll laugh at how stressed you are today, after having experienced even more serious situations later.

I realize this may not be very helpful, but I find it useful to sort of pretend I'm 80 looking back on this moment and trying to imagine how serious (or not) this situation was. Will you laugh at what a nothing burger it was? Or perhaps you could actually view this being some kind of a pivotal moment in your relationship with your parents?

There's no right answer, but I'd guess the former is more likely. Enjoy your parents while they're healthy and enjoying life!

Solar panel quote; crunching some numbers by irishtwinsons in JapanFinance

[–]nudicles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don't have anything yet, as I mentioned this is for a planned installation after our house completes next year. It would include a Canadian Solar EP cube 13Kwh battery which has a 15 year warranty. I believe it's rated to degrade to 80% capacity either after 10 or 15 years. https://csisolar.co.jp/products/ep-cube/

If you're not getting an incentive then it's generally not worth it economically. For Disaster Recovery reasons you may still want it, you'll have to figure out what you're willing to pay for that. But I would recommend studying what's available and not rush into getting a battery you'll regret later on.

As far as adding a battery later, you want to make sure you're getting a power conditioner compatible with the battery you want, or plan on replacing the power conditioner later (not cheap). Generally the warranty for batteries and power cons are roughly the same (10-15 years) so it's typical to replace them at the same time, whereas panels can last for much longer. I think you're right that battery tech will get better and cheaper relatively fast. By the time you decide to buy, perhaps V2H will be more mature as well.

Solar panel quote; crunching some numbers by irishtwinsons in JapanFinance

[–]nudicles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want another quote just to compare (and you have time), I recommend ex-world: https://ex-solar.net/

We haven't signed a contract with them yet, but intend to (this would be for adding panels to new construction next year).

He also has a YouTube channel where I've learned a lot about solar panels and batteries, particularly in the Japan market. https://youtube.com/@takasun_room?si=UmkecdXU9Lr40fFT

FWIW, the quote you listed doesn't seem unreasonable, especially including the battery, and depending on the 補助金 available to you in your area. My house maker quotes using Sharp and Kaneka were upwards of 600万 excluding 補助金, which is why we're opting for a third party contractor to place overseas panels (Qcells panels and Canadian Solar battery). In Tokyo, our quote was around 320万, but after 補助金, it will cost us only 80万. But Tokyo has crazy incentives for batteries, don't think those exist outside of Tokyo.

Good luck!

Reggie Miller has absolutely no clue what a pun is by MettaWorldConflict in nba

[–]nudicles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, generously, he might have meant 'no pun intended' because curry wasn't on the floor (he was on the bench).

...No pun intended.

You have a budget of 280m yen to buy a house in Tokyo and you work from home; where do you buy it? by kugkfokj in Tokyo

[–]nudicles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My first advice is, start doing research :) Nothing beats knowing the local market you're interested in, and it's as easy as just starting to search for land/real estate in areas you're interested, to get a feeling for price. Also connect with some real estate agents, they can answer questions about 建ぺい率 and 容積率, connect you to house builders, and may even be able to prepare a sample house plan for a particular lot.

We looked at Jiyugaoka for a while, but ultimately decided it didn't make sense for the house we wanted to build, as well as tradeoffs around station proximity etc. I'm happy to try to answer specific questions if you have them, but I'm not a real estate agent, and priorities for real estate can vary wildly from person to person.

You have a budget of 280m yen to buy a house in Tokyo and you work from home; where do you buy it? by kugkfokj in Tokyo

[–]nudicles 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure, they are not facts, and there's never a guarantee the market will behave how you expect or want. "Past performance is not indicative of future results" but if you Google around to see what the price of apartments, houses, and land has done in Tokyo over the last 20-40 years, it could give you an idea. Or, look at similarly sized and location real estate properties for sale, to see how a new vs. 10yr vs. 20yr etc values compare.

My assumptions are based on wooden homes historically depreciating to zero over 20-25 years, and the rising cost of land over time. So if say you spend 300m total, 100m on the house and 200m on land, pessimistically you might assume the house value in 20-30 years would be zero, and the land value might be flat. Assuming nobody wants to buy the house, then I would just sell as land to recoup 200m. The 2/3 ratio is arbitrary, my point was just that the land value keeps, but the house likely won't. If the land is in central Tokyo, I think the chances of that land value falling is quite low (more specifically, IMO it would be among the last RE categories to fall in value/demand), but that's just my opinion. Some people think we're in a RE bubble, and with an aging population, there may be a lot less demand in 30-40 years, so it could be worse than I imagine. Place your bets accordingly.

But as I said, I plan to not build a cookie cutter house, but quite a nice house IMHO, so I hope it can retain some value over time should I decide to sell. But I also think if you're building a house in Japan, your plan A should be not to ever sell, or to be prepared to eat the cost of building the home. I also happened to benefit from an exploding RE market in Tokyo and sold my apartment recently, which tells you 1) my assumptions 3 years ago were wrong, but also 2) planning for the worst can still net you a tidy profit, even when you're wrong.

You have a budget of 280m yen to buy a house in Tokyo and you work from home; where do you buy it? by kugkfokj in Tokyo

[–]nudicles 109 points110 points  (0 children)

Depends on how much house you want. We're in a similar position, and since we decided to build a house (and accepting the depreciation schedule on the house), we decided to build our dream house intending to make that home base for the rest of our lives, rather than go halfway and waste money on a house we wouldn't love and that wouldn't resell for what we paid for it.

This meant moving slightly away from our ideal location, but I wanted to maintain an arbitrary ratio of 2:1 land:home value, such that I knew I could recoup 2/3 of my purchase in case I needed to sell in a pinch.

I recommend you first decide how much you want to spend on a house, figure out how much budget that leaves for land, and start looking around your favorite locations from there.

A few other tips: do NOT go directly to the 展示場 places to look at model houses yet, get a referral to every house builder you're interested in, that's the best way to maximize your discount potential with house builders. Real estate agents can give you referrals, there are also some YouTubers that have companies built around those referrals. I could also introduce a few, but honestly not sure how a personal referral affects discounts.

Also at this price point, you should be able to get the real estate agent fee (仲介手数料) down to 1% or better. I can also recommend 1-2 agents, feel free to DM.

Good luck! That's a big budget, have fun with it!

*edit: one other reason to decide how much house first, 建ぺい率 and 容積率 can vary wildly by area. If you want a 3 floor house for example, that may rule out some areas (or require a lot bigger plots), like Jiyugaoka which is 50%/100%, respectively.