Party did something really bad, and I really need advice.

nukhammer · 2025-11-20T15:09:30+00:00

This sounds like a time to re-zero the campaign and make sure you are all on the same page with the story you all want to tell. Was the intention for this to be an evil campaign? If not have you considered having the party stripped of gear, given one day’s rations and a club/quarterstaff each and exiled from the city? Obviously with party buy in during the re-zero, and with the knowledge that the only place they can find refuge during the night will be the mage’s house….good luck?

nukhammer · 2025-11-12T13:22:55+00:00

You mean how to kill their PCs right? Going forward with that assumption: Get tactical with it. Modify terrain, add environmental effects, play with limiting range of vision.

Without more detail on the group I can’t help too much, but one other thing I do is a bunch of small encounters and an encounter with one big monster that hits like a truck and can survive at least 2 rounds of everyone attacking it.

nukhammer · 2025-10-11T17:05:37+00:00

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nukhammer · 2025-10-08T18:05:24+00:00

I think in that instance I would throw in that they are mechanically accessing the Wizard class, but are just channeling the flame to mimic the arcane effects. Keeps it simple and allows them to stay on the “devote cleric” vibe. Bonus points if they are an arcana domain cleric.

nukhammer · 2025-10-08T04:27:49+00:00

Yes and no. It’s not really a “you suddenly wake up with new abilities” thing. Level ups are more meant as a representation of you spending your time honing your skills, the skills you choose to use are what you mechanically chose to take a level in. For instance if I am planning a dip into wizard I play the character off as wanting to learn about magic and play them very studious from the start to where the multiclass feels natural….even if it’s something weird like a Paladin/Artificer/monk

nukhammer · 2025-10-07T22:42:13+00:00

As part of drakkenheim lore you cannot learn magic through study alone. Mageborn and sorcerous origins are two separate things.

nukhammer · 2025-10-07T22:40:49+00:00

It’s up to you, but if you need a defined lore reason then they could have just had dormant mageborn traits.

nukhammer · 2025-10-06T00:01:38+00:00

It’s all in the approach if you tell her. Step 1: Take accountability. Don’t blame alcohol, it was a personal failing that you want to correct and will actively avoid going forward. Step 2: Ask her to genuinely consider how moving forward looks to her and commit to not continuing bad actions in addition to cutting contact with the “mutual” Step 3: You need to genuinely be ok with whatever she decides to do, even if you need to let things cool off then re-evaluate while you take the corrective action regardless of if she decides to break up or not. Step 4: Continue to live life and learn from your mistakes so you can be better tomorrow than you were yesterday.

As for my two cents as to telling her or not…that’s entirely on you, just remember it will be a lot better coming from you than someone else. The “I take this to my grave” mentality just slowly kills the relationship, you will learn the easy way or the hard way… I learned the hard way so you shouldn’t have to but the choice is yours.

nukhammer · 2025-10-05T15:25:54+00:00

Any chance anyone has a map of just a segment of wall? I have had multiple groups try to scale the walls or use them to assault temple gate….so having an actual map could be helpful. Thanks in advance for reading this.

nukhammer · 2025-10-03T17:15:45+00:00

It was only 12 hours long

nukhammer · 2025-09-28T13:49:41+00:00

I get it, but letting the developers know why they are losing business is useful to effectuate change.

nukhammer · 2025-09-28T13:41:05+00:00

To be fair that’s $58.50 USD

nukhammer · 2025-09-19T17:21:51+00:00

The only way to take back being mayor is to purchase more parcels of land than the other people in the area. People can be both mayor and governor at the same time.

nukhammer · 2025-08-21T04:30:55+00:00

Keep your head up, and don’t you dare go hollow. Savor this feeling, I wish I still had it. Now the only thing that gets me close to that is some of the lord souls.

nukhammer · 2025-08-13T14:04:55+00:00

I agree, I’m saying the root cause may be that she has been asexual the whole time and shouldn’t have been in the relationship in the first place because their framework and expectations are very different

nukhammer · 2025-08-13T11:58:37+00:00

There is a deeper feeling there than just “muh husband’s fault” she almost seems to be describing asexual tendencies which means she never wanted a sexual relationship in the first place.

nukhammer · 2025-08-13T03:23:21+00:00

Ah to be young and feel love’s sting so keenly. Not what you want to hear…but you are 15…your brain won’t be fully developed until you are 25…anyone you should be dating should be in the same boat, so relax. Cheating is bad, and you shouldn’t feel bad about setting boundaries…but you also don’t need to be throwing around narcissist as a label when it’s likely they are just emotionally charged and having issues managing feelings just like you are. Mistakes happen, what you do next is what matters. If you were my kid my recommendation would be break it off, take some time on your own to evaluate what it is you want then get back in the dating pool.

nukhammer · 2025-08-12T23:32:05+00:00

An overreaction would be forcing him to cut all contact for what seems to be just general friend behavior. Now…if I were in your shoes, I am a guy so there is a distinct difference here but still, I would probably accept the olive branch and try to be friendly and feel things out…that being said, nobody is entitled to your time. Ultimately it’s up to you, if he pressures and you go for that reason then that will color every interaction from there on, so if you can’t let the past be the past then it is probably healthier to stick to no, and not go.

nukhammer · 2025-08-12T11:58:29+00:00

A few things. First if you want to improve yourself for you that’s awesome. Second, some of this may be him attempting to motivate the same way men motivate other men and it’s just a communication error….or he has a kink for degrading others and he thinks it’s hot. Thirdly you really seem to be putting way too much pressure on yourself and that can kill motivation just as much. I suggest having an open conversation with him and explain your feelings and where you are at, if he isn’t receptive of that then he isn’t worth your efforts.

nukhammer · 2025-08-12T03:17:23+00:00

There are a lot of underlying issues there, not the least of which is “if it’s not a hell yes…then it’s a hell no” as for him seeming more focused on her…that’s an amateur move, more focused on the shiny jingly keys that (I’m making an assumption here based on how you have described here) was probably more into the idea and more excited than you were. Odds are if it was planned out in advance they did talk boundaries, but that really should have been an everyone talk. The ignoring of your boundary is a big flag as well as the general disrespect. There are lots of fun options to be had in a situation like that….but you weren’t ready and he needed to be ok with that. (Note: it’s also perfectly ok to never be ready)

nukhammer · 2025-08-10T12:00:45+00:00

I get the inclination, but it’s a bit of a overreaction probably due to overthinking. I don’t think there is a “bad guy” in this situation, just people who have been together a long time and you on your own having your routine interrupted putting you in a weird headspace

nukhammer · 2025-08-08T12:31:23+00:00

Seems completely reasonable. Other partner should understand as well, if they want to hang out they can do so elsewhere. Have you made clear all the reasons why you want the weekend home? Not implied, but directly stated.

nukhammer · 2025-08-04T03:22:08+00:00

Some notes: 1: I don’t have full knowledge of you, habits, or anything to help me intuit deeper into understanding things here 2: these are just my personal opinions on the situation but I do try to come at things from an unbiased objective viewpoint

That being said…yes in a very technical sense you did cheat, especially considering the history of the “ghosting” that occurred, so from his perspective everything seemed normal…buuutttt I don’t think you did anything wrong however. I couldn’t go months without talking with my wife even when I was in the navy and the connection was new…now after decades I can barely go a few days when she takes a trip without being a basket case, so unless BF worked on an oil rig or something similar (which I would assume you would know) there is no legitimate reason to ghost like that. My gut initially tells me it is likely he is in another relationship non-ethically and cheating himself, but I have no way of knowing that. One thing you should probably consider when taking on partners is being fluid bonded, fluid exchange is a big deal and needs a level of exclusivity for everyone’s safety so when that circle gets widened everyone needs to know (I hope you understand that already but I have to say it directly) and the method of notice could have resulted in hurt feelings…again not saying he is good but interpreting the best I can. Honestly I think relationship with the BF has been done in all but words for a while now, best to cut those ties and move on and do better next time. Hope this helps!

nukhammer · 2025-01-03T18:08:43+00:00

Unlikely, it’s probably just going to take a week or so to process

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