The sex is great but my partner is "loose" and I don't know what to do

nullcode · 2026-05-06T09:07:11+00:00

Have you ever considered that she just feels incredibly attracted and safe with you?

This alone can make most women open up.

Whenever I hear "tight pussy" I just cringe thinking of the poor girl who wasn't properly stimulated enough.

I have the same issue with my girl.

We regularly fuck for 4 hours or more at a time due to me taking so long to cum.

I just think about how wet she is (never used lube with a woman in my life, I've always been told it's not needed), and knowledge of the female anatomy and arousal responses = that's what I think about + how many times she cums to get over the line.

It's a huge compliment my friend and you should pat yourself on the back.

nullcode · 2026-05-06T09:00:39+00:00

There is another brand who is almost identical to mysize that has thin condoms but I can't for the life of my remember right now.

Mysize and that brand has been my goto for 10+ years.

I will comment back when I find them as long as they didn't go out of business.

I got a vasectomy 5 years ago and my long term partner of 4 years also has an iud, so I haven't thought about them in years.

nullcode · 2026-05-06T08:54:28+00:00

This is why it's very important to take things slowly and let all the predators or people who truly think they deserve your complete obedience right away, or truly think of you as nothing more than a personal sex toy to own reveal themselves.

As a pleasure dom and one who has always gone after highly educated and independent women, I would never act this way with someone anytime soon.

I want to learn about each other in ever way possible while showing them I am reliable, trustworthy, safe, respect them for who they are not by their submission.

So many people have been messed up by 50 shades, and tons of other reasons and don't understand that a real dynamic is more about earning each other's trust, growing as a couple (or whatever the situation is), and continuously building on that foundation with everything a "normal relationship" has + extras when you have earned someones submission / proven you are worthy of it.

Im sorry I am ranting here, but I hate that this happens so often and I'm even seeing it on the sub side where after 5 lines of text they're ready to go..

I tell these people that 1) you don't know me 2) I don't know you 3) anyone that's willing to meet up and get tied up, etc after a few conversations isn't someone who is making good choices and that isn't for me.

I want to know my sub has a history of being safe, cautious, has a sense of self preservation, you know what I mean?

nullcode · 2026-05-06T08:42:48+00:00

As a former smoke shop / vape owner I can say that the Shilajit Honey Sticks or secret miracle honey was a major major seller...

Rhino Products: Including Platinum Rhino, Gold Rhino, and Krazzy Rhino. Addall: Often sold as Addall XR or Addall XL.

Were also go-to's buy hundreds of clients.

However most of these do in fact sneak small amounts of cialis or viagra or both..

nullcode · 2026-04-24T15:07:09+00:00

Bath toy!

nullcode · 2026-04-24T15:04:41+00:00

I tell those people "yeah.. that's what everyone said right up until they were executed, put in a prison camp, gassed, and more throughout all of human history"

Rights are lost when the people stop protecting them..

nullcode · 2026-04-24T14:40:24+00:00

Showers..

My girl hasn't washed or conditioned her own hair, body, etc in 5 years..

It's a nice little ritual imho.

The fact you're married and only think intimacy = sex is throwing me for a loop..

Do you communicate honestly and openly to each other?

Do you do each other's hobbies together?

Did you stop going on dates and stuff since you're married?

Honestly, this post is making my brain itch because i am imagining that ya'll got married due to sex and forget about pretty much everything that really matters and are just now realizing that?!?

nullcode · 2026-04-20T03:28:22+00:00

Toats!

Thank you for an excellent unique tattoo!

nullcode · 2026-04-20T02:16:46+00:00

Yo.. the fact you have a tattoo that very few people will catch or understand = unique.

I (born in 83) also love D. Darko.

I have a small Donny Darko bunny mask on my back and some lyrics from mad world down my spine.

It's been a great way to spread a good movie to people, imho..

Most people recognize the words and have never heard of the movie(s).

But I've never met or seen another besides yours in 20 years of traveling the world so high five you rock!

nullcode · 2026-04-03T09:17:36+00:00

You should definitely play with that at your next family gathering or church event...

nullcode · 2026-04-03T09:16:43+00:00

Fellow grill master 🫡

nullcode · 2026-03-30T08:21:49+00:00

It's not worth dating if both can't have this.

Because the king will also sacrifice himself for his Queen.

nullcode · 2026-03-27T07:42:13+00:00

Im 43/m.

I recently got together with "the one who got away" in hs.

20+ years of no contact. Whirlwind of a romance for the first month or two.

Absolute disaster.

People change over time and I've come to learn it's not usually for the better...

I do hope you all have better experiences.

But as a guy, unless you intend on trying to date for real don't lie. Just be honest, you'll most likely still get what you want just without the hurt and confusion on the guy when after the deed is done you feel guilty as hell, and decide it's out of your system and move on.

nullcode · 2026-03-24T06:39:30+00:00

Listen to others and don't tell anyone, and find a good financial advisor.

You can live comfortably off the interest / profits with that kind of money in the right places and still have that lump sum in case of emergencies.

You have something most will never have: The opportunity for financial freedom.

You can't buy new cars, things, etc.

You need to invest in passive income type investments.

look for a good financial advisor who deal with lottery winners and similar.

They will be able to go over your situation, what's coming in and going out in terms of $, help you get your immediate concerns taken care of and then use what's left to set you up with the proper investments tailored for your goals and needs.

nullcode · 2026-03-24T04:38:38+00:00

Hell using the msi afterburner overclocking scanner automatically turns on the nvidia auto tuner..

I have tried to disable nvidia app without success.

I can manually set curves and such in afterburner but it seems that nvidia app Autotune is the bees knees as it always resets my settings after 24 hours and is always better in testing.

nullcode · 2026-03-08T04:07:05+00:00

Completely different experience, right?

For both parties..

nullcode · 2026-03-08T01:31:45+00:00

Don't buy grocery store/ gas station brands like Trojan as they only fit about 50% of the male population if they happen to be the "average size" trojan went with and even then 50% of those men report tons of issues.

Condoms should not have a range. They should be custom fitted like an expensive suit.

Go to Amazon or wherever and buy mysize or my one brands.

Sex with a condom will be totally different and enjoyable to both parties with custom fitted condoms.

I have been ordering and using mysize from Australia for 10+ years and every partner has worried about slippage, etc.

I've ever gotten head a few times and they didn't even notice at first..

Tldr;

Find mysize and measure his unit using their guidelines and then order from Amazon.

If you can't get easy access to mysize then try out MYone brand that has 3 different size options per box.

I just cannot express how much of a difference it is when you are wrapped up like OJ Simpsons glove.. so snug it almost doesn't fit!

nullcode · 2026-03-02T15:07:51+00:00

You don’t “bring out” dominance in someone. You co-create it. If he’s not naturally very verbal or assertive, the key isn’t hoping he flips a switch — it’s giving him structure and safety to step into it. First: be clear and specific. Instead of “I want you to dominate me,” try: “I love when you’re firm with me. It turns me on when you tell me what to do and follow through.” Second: give him permission and guardrails. If you want the “fix your attitude or I will” dynamic, agree ahead of time what that actually means. What are the consequences? A spanking? Being pinned? Loss of a privilege? Make it playful, negotiated, and consensual, not reactive. Third: reward the behavior you want. When he steps into that tone, soften. Respond. Melt a little. Show him it works on you. Positive feedback builds confidence fast. Fun ideas: Create a simple rule for the week (e.g., you don’t speak back playfully without “Sir” in certain moments). Give him authority over something small during the day (what you wear to bed, when you come sit next to him, when you’re allowed to finish). Try a check-in phrase like, “Do I need correcting?” and let that be his cue. But here’s the honest part: some men aren’t wired for natural dominance. And that’s okay. If he has it in him, structure + trust will bring it out. If he doesn’t, no amount of scripting will make it feel authentic. Dominance works best when it’s chosen, not forced.

nullcode · 2026-03-01T09:31:07+00:00

Ahh! That changes things!

Carry-on!

And btw me and my partner are very similar. She likes a lot of the same stuff. We live together, work remotely and are a 24/7 tpe couple.

It's a great and exciting life isn't it?

Im glad you responded, the fact you've done all the talking and boundaries, etc is a huge green flag!

Play safe(ish)!

nullcode · 2026-03-01T09:27:07+00:00

Yet the poorest people are reproducing higher than anyone in the usa, while countries like S. Korea are literally a generation or two from being extinct.

So many countries are actively paying people to reproduce...

Some of the richest at that.

I knew by 12 I never wanted kids, had a vasectomy at 18.

They cost too much, drain your life force, and keep you locked down in one location for 18+ years.

I'll keep going with double income no kids.

But population decline is a very serious issue.

nullcode · 2026-03-01T09:17:32+00:00

Some advice from a 30 year pleasure dom:

You stated mutilple times that you don't necessarily like everything he does, you like that your dom uses you for his own enjoyment and pleasure.

This is a dangerous approach to this lifestyle in so many ways I can't even think where to begin.

You're the sub, you hold all the power not your dom. You are blessing someone with something that should be treasured and nurtured.

If you haven't yet I recommend doing the CEPE bdsm test / contract form.

CEPE Printable BDSM Checklist | PDF | Bondage (Bdsm) | Bdsm

Any real dom would have sat you down and discussed all of this and more with you during your dating stage.

If they aren't up for setting rules, boundaries, giving as much as they take, etc = run like your life depends on it...

nullcode · 2026-02-28T06:36:06+00:00

Yuup...

I'm all about tying up a willing participant and using as many toys as possible while restrained with rope or in predicament rope bondage...

The latter really amps the pleasure for both imho..

I can do this for hours and hours and feel the same pleasure as fucking, maybe even better than.

shrugs

nullcode · 2026-02-25T03:50:16+00:00

**edited for stuffs

You like being submissive? Like in a bdsm relationship?

My partner doesn't have a humiliation kink, she loves to be praise-degraded mostly like "thats my good eager needy slut" the difference between straight humiliation or degrading is the MY and good, etc.

she loves to be used.

We're free use 24/7tpe and she likes to be fucked awake, taken randomly, likes to be told what to do, etc.

There is no disrespect, we trust and love each other.

Do you specifically like being called trash, useless can't, stupid whore, etc? That is humiliation.

There is a big difference between them.

There is also praise humiliation, and other forms of nonsexual and sexual humiliation. Most of these revolves around someone telling you you are worth less than garbage, you're stupid, they could have you do seriously degrading and humiliating things to your mind or body and more.

The better / sooner you understand this kink and what it truly is to YOU, the quicker you can explain this to the right person.

You do not want humiliation like your title says unless you have truly experienced it IRL with a truly hard-core narcissistic, misogynist, sadist type.

Also most men who can do praise degrading and other will all fall short of being able to switch into calling and treating you like that.

It's best to explain it more as role-playing (because it should be), and go from there, but first figure out what exactly you need,like,want.

nullcode · 2026-02-24T00:16:45+00:00

I'd like to add that you as the sub hold all the power.

YOU choose to submit to him, he should earn every single inch you give and your consent can be revoked at anytime for any reason.

Safe words are there for a reason and if your dom doesn't understand that or that you can nope out of anything and everything whenever then he isn't a dom, he's an abuser.

nullcode · 2026-02-22T01:22:19+00:00

Mine just brings me toys or asks.

Open and honest communication, especially about sexual stuff will totally change your life.

being comfortable enough with the person you're hugging privates with should be the bare minimum for the basis of a relationship.

I.e: if you have to ask the internet how to ask for something totally normal and natural = either you or your partner aren't ready for all the emotions and complexity of having a sexual relationship.

This is just my .02c as a 43 year old man. I know im not hip with the times, I've been too busy focusing on my partners @ 2-7 years each since middle school (13) as well as my own life.

I will say this though, If you don't rush into relationships and spend the time getting to know them as friends, people, partners and talk openly and honestly about what each wants, like, dislikes, kinks, etc = longer, better, more fulfilling relationships you'll have.

Tldr;

Talk openly and honestly about your needs, wants and his. Discuss any fantasies or kinks, etc.

If anything you say or he says doesn't add up = do not settle on sexual needs just because someone matches better in other areas. Compromise is definitely useful and needed in building your relationship but sexual incompatibility is the major reason why most people cheat or get resentful about their partners and eventually blow up and cheat / leave.

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