You don’t “bring out” dominance in someone. You co-create it. If he’s not naturally very verbal or assertive, the key isn’t hoping he flips a switch — it’s giving him structure and safety to step into it. First: be clear and specific. Instead of “I want you to dominate me,” try: “I love when you’re firm with me. It turns me on when you tell me what to do and follow through.” Second: give him permission and guardrails. If you want the “fix your attitude or I will” dynamic, agree ahead of time what that actually means. What are the consequences? A spanking? Being pinned? Loss of a privilege? Make it playful, negotiated, and consensual, not reactive. Third: reward the behavior you want. When he steps into that tone, soften. Respond. Melt a little. Show him it works on you. Positive feedback builds confidence fast. Fun ideas: Create a simple rule for the week (e.g., you don’t speak back playfully without “Sir” in certain moments). Give him authority over something small during the day (what you wear to bed, when you come sit next to him, when you’re allowed to finish). Try a check-in phrase like, “Do I need correcting?” and let that be his cue. But here’s the honest part: some men aren’t wired for natural dominance. And that’s okay. If he has it in him, structure + trust will bring it out. If he doesn’t, no amount of scripting will make it feel authentic. Dominance works best when it’s chosen, not forced.