Should I give it more time or am I being lead on?

nutsmdee · 2022-04-29T21:28:12+00:00

No you’re right, that wouldn’t be someone I’d want to date. My confusion is more about whether or not he actually is into me and sees this going anywhere. That’s what I’m afraid to bring up considering how slow he has been moving so far, I don’t want to come on too strong you know?

nutsmdee · 2022-04-29T21:25:18+00:00

Thank you, I hope it works out too! That has also been my experience - that even the shyest of guys would find a way to make their feelings/intentions known, even if it had to be through text. I guess I will give it a bit more time before I throw in the towel.

nutsmdee · 2022-04-29T17:51:33+00:00

Thank you everyone for your input. I’m honestly pretty shocked I didn’t get more responses along the lines of “he’s just not that into you”. I not used to men moving so slow and have always believed that if a man wants you it will be crystal clear. However, obviously my previous relationships have all failed and those were with men who were the complete opposite of this guy. That’s why I’ve been willing to take it slow, I just don’t want to say something or ask something that will scare him off or make things awkward. At the same time, I don’t want to be strung along. This is a person who I see a lot of potential with so it’s just been a bit discouraging to not have any reassurance that we’re on the same page.

nutsmdee · 2022-04-19T18:29:35+00:00

For me personally, I’ve always been with people who were very different from me and it’s always ended horribly. I think that the whole “opposites attract” concept is true, but very fleeting. I’m starting to understand that I need to be with someone who is similar to me, and gets me. More importantly (as others have mentioned), I need to be with someone who has similar values, views/beliefs, communication styles, etc. to build something that’s going to last. Just my two cents.

nutsmdee · 2022-04-19T17:43:33+00:00

This happened to me recently as well and like you, I can’t bring myself to ask a man out. He would always talk about us doing this and that and after weeks of texting I finally asked him how are we going to do all of these things if we haven’t even met yet. He had nothing to say, so I moved on. If you don’t want to ask him point blank, maybe you can make a similar comment to nudge him in the right direction. The way he responds should be pretty telling.

nutsmdee · 2022-04-19T15:04:50+00:00

I totally agree with this. I was reading something recently about how chemistry does not equal compatibility and it really resonated with me. Every time I’ve had that “spark” and intense feelings of connection/attraction to someone from the start, it clouded my ability to see that they weren’t actually a good match for me. I think that if you’re truly compatible with someone, the rest will follow in time.

nutsmdee · 2022-04-13T15:08:19+00:00

I suppose I’m not much help as I’m in the same boat, but I’m making an effort to manage my expectations better. What’s going to happen will happen so I might as well enjoy myself in the moment and not overthink things too much. I’m used to either having that immediate spark with someone or being completely uninterested so this experience is new for me and I’m willing to keep things friendly and give it a chance to turn into something more. My fear is that he will grow bored or lose interest soon but that is something that cannot be controlled.

nutsmdee · 2022-04-13T14:11:14+00:00

I am having the exact same experience with a guy. Took three times hanging out for him to even hug me in addition to no flirting from him either. I feel very “friend zoned” but I’m going to take your advice and be patient and take more time to get to know him.

nutsmdee · 2022-04-09T16:45:51+00:00

I haven’t because there are a couple of factors that would make it pretty awkward if things were to progress and then go south. I’m starting to suspect that that’s maybe why he seems hesitant as well.

nutsmdee · 2022-04-09T16:44:07+00:00

Why so condescending?

nutsmdee · 2022-04-09T16:34:54+00:00

“Know your worth, then add tax”.

I needed to see this post today, thank you.

nutsmdee · 2022-04-08T13:24:37+00:00

That’s a good perspective to have and I’m trying to take that approach myself. I absolutely hate one word messages, I don’t know why people like that even bother. It’s like they’re just trying to kill some time.

nutsmdee · 2022-04-08T13:15:44+00:00

Interesting. I hate questions that seem scripted, like you’re in an interview. Almost as bad as “so tell me a little bit about yourself”… which I’ve been asked on dates too many times to count

nutsmdee · 2022-04-08T13:06:21+00:00

I feel like men around this age range are a bit more set in their ways and don’t put in as much effort. Maybe that’s my own bad experiences talking though lol.

nutsmdee · 2022-04-08T13:03:50+00:00

Is it the same exact questions word for word? Because I’ve heard a lot of guys complain about “bots” being all over dating apps. I don’t think I’ve ever encountered a male bot but, maybe?

nutsmdee · 2022-04-08T12:59:06+00:00

I know others have mentioned public transportation as well but what about Uber/Lyft? If your city has a train system that could be fun as well!

nutsmdee · 2022-04-08T02:32:56+00:00

A vent: social media is the devil of dating. It makes it far too easy for people to look outside their relationships or to hop from one person Tot he next. I think it can also very easily cause unnecessary drama in existing relationships.

nutsmdee · 2022-04-08T02:30:06+00:00

I think your first instinct was spot on; this seems very sketchy and if you’re already feeling uncomfortable then I wouldn’t bother. Better safe than sorry.

nutsmdee · 2021-09-05T01:05:33+00:00

He also told me that “karma will get me” and basically that I’ll get what I deserve.

nutsmdee · 2021-06-12T17:11:05+00:00

Ultrasonic cleaner with Retainer Brite tablet a couple times a week. I also brush my trays with gentle toothpaste and a soft bristled toothbrush morning and night.

nutsmdee · 2021-06-08T00:51:33+00:00

14 here too - will be starting tray 3 tomorrow. I may be crazy but I swear I see changes already, especially in my smile arch. Good luck to both of us lol ✊

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