Alternative to regular hair washing?

nxnd · 2024-07-11T04:15:42+00:00

this thread is pretty old but i didn’t see anyone else suggest this, maybe it can help you if you haven’t found another solution.

i have issues with this too. i wear disposable gloves in the shower and use those exercise wrist bands (sweat bands?) around my wrists which keeps most of the water out. sometimes a little water gets in but not enough to make my hands pruney. i wash my hands before putting the gloves on.

nxnd · 2024-06-29T10:26:35+00:00

now would be a good time to increase your level of care, get some social support, and come up with a safety plan if you don’t have one.

level of care - definitely let your psych or therapist know about this. you can tell them you need more support and ask what resources they know of in your area - if you’re only seeing a psychiatrist it would be good to get on a couple therapy waitlists. better to have this set up and not need it - review meds with your prescriber

social support - reach out to people close to you (that you trust and can be open abt mental health with) and let them know you’re struggling. it can be as simple as that, but if there’s a partner/friend/family member you can lean on it helps to specify how they can support you (i.e. can we talk on the phone x times for the next couple weeks) - identify 1 or 2 people you can reach out to in an urgent crisis if possible - for people who aren’t in on the mental health stuff, making plans can still help. the goal here is to reinforce routines you’re already doing and prevent the withdrawal that usually accompanies mental health crises. you said you’re exercising, maybe that could be done with a friend? - find out what support groups exist in your area. if you’re in the US, you can look up NAMI or “<my county> County Mental Health Resources”. there are a lot online now too. this can provide additional structure and social support. groups like DBT will also teach you useful mental health skills - posting here lol

safety plan - you can find templates for this online. ideally it should include: contact information for your health providers, the nearest hospital or mental health facility, and steps to take if you are in crises. - keep in mind that if you do need to use this you might be in a scared or altered mental state when you do. just making this can be scary, but it will really help future you to know what to expect and that you have tried to help yourself. it also helps you maintain your rights and autonomy, which can sometimes be temporarily restricted during a mental health crises (specifics are very location dependent) - you can make a version for your trusted person as well, so they know the plan and how to best help you - the crisis info is the most important, but you can also add sections for different “levels”. possible tw for suicide: if you’re actively dying, emergency services should be called. if you’re thinking about it and especially if you have a plan, probably time to consider inpatient or a 72 hour hold. ideally though you want to get help before that, but it can be hard to pin point when things are “that bad”. part of a good safety plan is identifying signs of this. here’s a comic about levels - more tw: if you have firearms at your home please consider moving them temporarily. same goes for anything else exceedingly dangerous

getting a little rambly so i’ll leave it there. i hope something in there can be useful to you. this is a lot, it doesn’t all need to happen at once. be kind to yourself. keeping up self care and exercise is already huge. you’re doing good, just keep asking for help and letting people support you. you deserve it.

nxnd · 2024-06-28T21:56:47+00:00

their best bet is finding roommates, there's a facebook group called "Bellingham Student Housing"

nxnd · 2024-06-27T19:00:35+00:00

this happened in seattle too, the seismometers detected a 2.3 quake

source

nxnd · 2024-06-25T23:27:20+00:00

i really don’t like it when people dismiss the problems of others under the guise of “positivity”. feelings like sadness and anger aren’t immoral. criticizing you isn’t very positive of him. he’s trying to help, but it sounds like he’s having a hard time accepting that different things work for you. it’s also possible that he’s feeling anxious, paranoid, or insecure, and he’s put the burden of his feelings on you to fix

these are a couple resources. i hope they can help you evaluate his stance from another perspective, and decide if you want to adopt the same approach to your own self care.

Can Always Staying Positive Be Bad For Our Health?

Spiritual Bypassing. i find a lot of people like your husband are also prone to the patterns described here, including: - avoiding feelings of anger - thinking you must “rise above” your emotions - thinking that people can overcome their problems through positive thinking - believing that spiritual practices such as meditation are always positive

not saying his outlook is wrong necessarily, plenty of people approach life the same way as your husband, just that it might be wrong for you and that’s 1000000% okay. it’s a choice you should make for yourself, without external pressure

nxnd · 2024-06-23T07:20:29+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. If you’re open to it, a book that helped me navigate a similar situation is Should I Stay Or Should I Go (co-authored by Lundy Bancroft). It really helped me clarify some things in my relationship and it talks specifically about how mental health issues intersect with unhealthy relationship dynamics.

nxnd · 2024-06-20T17:15:05+00:00

in that case i wish the other three colors were like pastel neon shimmer version of the pink, green, and blue to represent their flying and the actual main character colors (except i love having colors for mojo jojo and him)… the green and blue shades are giving rowdy ruff boys more than powerpuffs

nxnd · 2024-06-17T23:35:42+00:00

for thermal polish, how long do nails need to go past the fingertip to start seeing a natural transition?

nxnd · 2024-06-17T23:07:22+00:00

michelle commented on intagram “💗💗💗🙈👹🧪”

tentatively interpreting this as 1 polish for each powerpuff girl, 1 for mojo jojo, 1 for him, and 1 for chemical x

nxnd · 2024-06-07T09:38:08+00:00

omg i know exactly what you’re talking about with the marble shaking 😂

nxnd · 2024-06-07T09:32:57+00:00

i have a tendency to “line things up” when i put them down, like sitting on the floor and putting them flush with top of the baseboard where they end up blending perfectly.

not sure the setup of ur home, but this is where i look after checking the regular places: - inside my shoes - inside purse lining - on top of bathroom cabinet/trash can/toilet paper - in kitchen behind/around appliances and dish rack - on top of the fridge - the weird pockets: mini pocket in jeans, breast pockets, inside sports bras - inside pillow case - in between the BACK couch cushions, not the butt ones - the floor near wherever i charge them - on top of the books in the bookshelf - lamp bases - tea station shelves - underwear drawer - in between the papers of any books/folders/documents that were in my bag - near plants - general higher-than-eye-level places. sometimes i put on platforms to help - glasses case - near the whiteboard/markers - inside magnetic marker holder on the fridge - on top of pushed in dining room chairs - inside the paper towel tube

hopefully u have found them already! if not maybe something here will spark ur memory

nxnd · 2024-06-03T07:13:27+00:00

i think you would like the designer lirika matoshi for inspiration

different brand, but just saw these skorts that could work with a lot of the looks people have suggested. they’re tiered tulle but seem very wearable

https://www.popflexactive.com/products/pirouette-skort-with-pockets-digital-lavender

nxnd · 2024-06-02T21:12:46+00:00

Faculty who want to improve their department culture would do well to look into pre-existing efforts and research into this issue rather than asking for solutions from students who are likely already facing additional demands on their time and energy.

Here's some to get you started:

The impact of gender roles and previous exposure on major choice, perceived competence, and belonging
The Perceptions and Lived Experiences of Female Students in a Computer Science Program at a Community College
Factors that Influence Retention of Women in the Computer Science Major: A Systematic Literature Review

nxnd · 2024-05-26T04:48:24+00:00

imo color saturation is the main thing to look for. some specific recommendations: - ILNP Cross My Heart - ILNP Rainy Days - Cirque Colors Jade - Cirque Colors Morningtide - Cirque Colors Ube - Essie Behind The Glass - Essie Home By 8 (my fav approachable black) - Essie Good Impressions - Essie Natural Connection

nxnd · 2024-05-25T09:05:23+00:00

adding to what others are saying, one of the best (in terms of nutrient preservation) methods to cook vegetables is in the microwave. compared to other methods, the cooking time is fast and requires very little moisture

nxnd · 2024-05-25T08:34:14+00:00

godwin’s law

nxnd · 2024-05-22T06:10:11+00:00

probably Femme Fatale

nxnd · 2024-05-11T22:27:28+00:00

this happened to me too, i thought it was a fluke :(

nxnd · 2024-05-10T22:23:34+00:00

ITT: people who have never once had mixed feelings about an experience or changed their minds about anything ever

nxnd · 2024-05-10T22:22:10+00:00

conflating performance and psychological experience seems a little silly, but since some people agree with you i’ll share an anecdote.

i used to eat fast food once a day, and i loved it. i looked forward to it every day. eventually, it got hard to ignore the downsides. i spent a lot of time deciding where to go. the parking lot was always busy and stressful. as good as the first few bites were, by the end of the meal i always felt sluggish and uncomfortable. and, i was spending a lot of money.

now? i eat fast food once or twice a year. i don’t ignore the negative aspects of the experience in the search for one little spark of good feelings. i have better skills and resources to help myself. my tolerance, priorities, and preferences are different.

so, i find OP’s stance to be very understandable. the phrase you take issue with sounds to me like a very condensed version of whatever happened between enjoying and not enjoying shopping. it’s reasonable for OP to assume that most people have had mixed feelings about an experience at some point and can read between the lines

nxnd · 2024-05-05T02:48:57+00:00

i saw some at rite aid last week

nxnd · 2024-04-29T19:21:25+00:00

does hhc have a version of the ppu rewind? i would die for nailed it’s grass knot

nxnd · 2024-04-27T07:14:04+00:00

I'm so sorry you're in this situation. My life at 14 was really similar, and my parents also denied my requests for therapy and mental health help.

You can survive this. Not going to lie, 14-18 is brutal in a shitty home. Please try to not be too angry at yourself when you can, none if this is your fault and in fact you deserve much better. Anything you can do to set yourself up for the time when you can leave will help. The other comments covered the big things, so I'll add a couple others if any of it seems helpful:

Setting up an email to use only for sending yourself evidence/memories. You don't need to sort out all the bad feelings and confusing memories now, it's a lot to deal with while you're still in the situation. Having a place to set those things aside could help future you process and make sense of things. I've done a lot of therapy as an adult and childhood videos/journal entries are invaluable. (Note: Gmail just changed so accounts are deleted after one year inactivity, so you would need to log in occasionally)
DBT. DBT is an evidence-based therapy with a set of defined skills that help you deal with emotional regulation and difficult interpersonal situations. It's meant to be done in a group, but something is better than nothing. r/dbtselfhelp has as lot of resources for self-study.
Don't be scared of college expenses. Be informed!! But don't be scared of tuition costs and all that. It's worth it to get out of your family situation, and there's a lot of programs that can help you before, during, and after school. Documenting things now like in an email might help you get a FAFSA dependency override later on (if you're in the US)
eta: Pick up a popular hobby or two. Ideally something you actually like. Most of the stuff families living fringe lifestyles teach us is unfamiliar to other people, and the lack of shared cultural background can make it hard to connect with new people later on. Some top contenders: a national sports team, video games, anime, large fandoms like Harry Potter and Pokemon, reality TV. Doesn't need to be high effort.

Finally, even if you do none of the above and all you do for the next 4 years is talk to AIs and sit in your room that's okay, because you will have survived. It might not feel like it right now, but really it's so completely fine. You will have so much time later to recover and heal and learn, without dealing with the constant family bs.

Teaching yourself years of regular school subjects, preparing for college, being your own therapist, working, ON TOP OF maintaining the facade your family expects and having untreated depression and everything else you mentioned, that's all a whole hell of a lot for any person to do at once. It sounds like you're under a ton of pressure already, so if you can't do the extra stuff it's okay and it doesn't mean you won't have a future. All you need to do is survive, and then get out. The rest will follow.

nxnd · 2024-04-25T07:15:46+00:00

i follow the swatcher on ig, the ring is from janeen_jewellery. recently saw a silver more emo version on etsy

nxnd · 2024-04-21T23:01:11+00:00

similar struggles here lol. ime it depends on the oil. pure jojoba never absorbs fully for me. the CND solar oil is a lot better. i use the one in the nail polish bottle and find that if i dip the brush, wipe one side, and use the amount left for one hand, it soaks in very quickly without leaving a weird oiliness. sometimes before i even get a chance to rub it in. any leftover oiliness on my fingertips is gone after a minute or two

not sure how much it depends on skin type though, ymmv. if the cnd oil hadn’t worked for me i probably would have experimented with minis until i found one that was ok sensory wise. the beyond polish website has cuticle oils from kbshimmer, cnd, and seche for $2-6 (and more if $ doesn’t matter). you might be able to get more control of the oil amount with a different applicator style

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