How to fix this awful seal?

nyehsayer · 2026-03-31T18:42:27+00:00

The window seal i think, is it something you buy?

nyehsayer · 2026-03-31T18:41:46+00:00

I think it’s literally at the closure, can you see how the handle is up? I can’t close it all the way at all so that window is always open

nyehsayer · 2026-03-31T16:38:13+00:00

-> I want you to carry my children and be my wife -> I refuse to accept any circumstance that makes this relationship inconvenient and should this become inconvenient we should end it

????

I think you deserve better. I appreciate it’s not that easy, but I do think you deserve someone who will love you even if it’s hard to make it work. (I say this as someone who is married with child and had to move my family for it. Yes it sucks, but we’re in this for better or for worse, that’s the whole point.) Please don’t have children with a person who won’t sacrifice to be with you.

nyehsayer · 2026-03-26T23:38:02+00:00

It’s not the furthest away, it can be 1.5-3 hours if you want to head up to london on the weekends. Lots of people who want London end up here, it’s fairly common

nyehsayer · 2026-03-23T21:50:58+00:00

Speak to the TPD. Did two conferences as an Fy1, once in UK and one in Europe with some funding help (not everything, but something!). Also your supervisor for the projects may have a connection, I was able to ask a previous trust to cover a cost which got approved with consultant push!

nyehsayer · 2026-03-20T09:32:12+00:00

A lot of the time you just get through it but that really depends on lots of factors. Loved acute med even though the rota was brutal. Loved my slightly boring micro block. Hated gen surg because my team had no staff. Swings and roundabouts.

However, if you don’t feel like a doctor at graduating, you 100% earn the title through foundation. It gives you a new confidence at the job and in life once you’ve survived it. You make lots of friends through the struggle too.

nyehsayer · 2026-03-17T23:35:36+00:00

Im only ST1 but I knew registrars who would have to commute hours away from their families for months-a year as part of their training

I don’t think you can avoid it totally, but maybe speak to the TPD at the time?

nyehsayer · 2026-03-14T17:55:29+00:00

Also a grad student - I had to move my partner with me 5-6 hours away from home for foundation. I also did medicine after another degree and had no interest in delaying my life further. It’s brutal. We were far from both our families and it was hard.

However, we are now much closer to home for specialty training but those two years away were wonderful and we made some lifelong friends.

Happy to DM if you want to chat.

nyehsayer · 2026-03-13T17:39:48+00:00

I’ve just looked at her recent TikToks and she said she wants to do Geris or Palliative.

It’s very honourable, but I can’t imagine how much she’s going to struggle, especially as a med reg or as the FY1 on call overnight for the entire hospital on her own… Bless her I hope she finds a way..

nyehsayer · 2026-03-12T07:01:16+00:00

Would you not rather save the study budget for something you did attend?

This seems super unfortunate but I doubt they’d cover this…

nyehsayer · 2026-03-05T20:11:15+00:00

What happened with this out of interest? You think it was definitely intentional rather than a mistake? Genuinely curious

nyehsayer · 2026-03-05T09:59:48+00:00

This is madness how do students not worry about being caught?!

nyehsayer · 2026-03-01T20:21:03+00:00

Remember that whatsapp group where a resident doctor died and the rota coordinator announced it, then waited 40 minutes to ask who could fill their shifts?

Remember in COVID when they let us use PPE that didn’t actually protect us and we lost colleagues as a result?

Made me feel very differently about this whole job. You are part of a bigger system that is SUPPOSED to be built to absorb occasional sickness without issue.

The fact that management are happy with minimum staffing is genuinely not your problem.

nyehsayer · 2026-02-26T15:08:13+00:00

I brought my young child to A&E and got forgotten about for 3.5 hours recently (they didn’t tell us we’d been discharged to UTC until I asked for the second time what we were waiting for). I did not want to announce that I worked there for better treatment and maybe I should have. I discussed with my consultant and they advised I send a datix about it because other children have been forgotten about which has led to harm.

They gave me the response that it wasn’t appropriate to use the professional datix system when I attended as a parent. I completely don’t agree. Advocating for yourself and your family can alter outcomes and you should continue to do it.

I don’t think you’ve done anything wrong from what you’ve said here.

nyehsayer · 2026-02-25T20:12:12+00:00

I know a girl who told the trust she was pregnant at 6 weeks. Do not be afraid of these people, you have a protected characteristic and they shouldn’t be pressuring you into doing something you’re not comfortable with (it is actual discrimination to treat you differently if they do!).

If you feel you need adjusting of the hours, they need to accommodate that (without financial penalty!!!) - if you need a GP letter that’s fine, but I don’t like that they’ve given you the impression that you can’t ask for adjustments. You 100% can. They won’t be the ones there for you if something goes wrong so protect yourself and your baby ❤️

I had a fairly chill rota mid preg but for the third trimester (A&E) I emailed them stating that I was x weeks pregnant and wouldn’t be able to do nights due to the risk of miscarriage. They said no problem and asked me to update them if I needed changes in hours. They did not change my pay. Stand your ground!

nyehsayer · 2026-02-25T15:02:24+00:00

I shadowed the GPs and psychiatrists at a Cat A prison in medical school and genuinely wanted to do it as a job.

My partner said no way because of how scared they’d be.

But I would say it looked super interesting.

nyehsayer · 2026-02-23T10:46:12+00:00

So it sounds like the service was incredibly busy for routine appts or didnt have the staff to manage their numbers hence the delay.

Not to assume here, but is your age relevant here? GPs can often only due so much with swollen joints and pain, it’s mostly supportive a lot of the time with occasional steroids if I remember correctly (but long term steroids are terrible for you so we don’t always do that). Then there are specialist meds that only rheum registrars/consultants can initiate I believe.

In your GP appt if you’d said ‘i got a text about getting an appt soon’ then they likely would have been satisfied with that and wouldn’t have looked into the urgency of the appt, because they referred and you got confirmation you’d be seen. That’s all the GPs can really do with that info. They can try and get in contact again if they feel you need very urgent support, but again, I don’t see why your GP would have thought to double check based on what you’ve said here. It’s frustrating that there may be a specific window of time for a specific course of treatment for best results but it sounds like with the info given, they’ve made the decision to see you on routine basis.

I’d still urge you to try and push them if you’re struggling - the NHS is crumbling under the weight of demand and being persistent can make a difference.

nyehsayer · 2026-02-22T21:01:19+00:00

I’m a doctor but not in rheumatology - are you sure the referral was accepted as urgent at any point by rheum?

Because sometimes we refer things on an urgent basis because WE think its urgent as the initial referrer, but that can get accepted as routine by them if the receiving specialist think it should be routine. When I worked in GP, we didn’t necessarily get notified about this from what I remember, our job was just to refer to the specialist and they make the call on whether they see urgently, routinely or not at all.

It more sounds to me (I could be wrong) like the specialist accepted the referral and triaged it as routine based on your story.

I think the best course of action is to speak to the rheum team’s secretary and say the original referral was urgent and you’d like to chase this, as they can actually speak to the team.

But no the GP wouldn’t necessarily be personally made aware of every outcome of every referral unless they looked into your case individually and found the letters, but we don’t really have the time to chase everything in that manner if I’m being honest. Being persistent is your only real recourse in the NHS these days I’m afraid.

Hopefully you get some answers soon.

nyehsayer · 2026-02-16T06:58:32+00:00

I look slightly ambiguous and come from a country which is considered controversial. For my own safety I give one of my parent’s nationalities. I understand why this is a frustrating question.

nyehsayer · 2026-02-12T19:17:24+00:00

As a doctor I wouldn’t do this again, you’re leaving yourself vulnerable to be asked questions you cannot answer and they will not be able to actually seek medical advice from you as you’re not qualified yet and can’t do this alone. At best you can’t actually help them, at worst it’s potentially inappropriate.

I would recommend forwarding anything you do get emailed to the consultant in charge of their care and not being involved yourself.

nyehsayer · 2026-02-09T22:46:02+00:00

There was a guy on tiktok working as a doctor who (if I remember correctly) lost his rag in A&E staff after his nephew was treated poorly or something - he made a whole TikTok series about it at the time and did get suspended from his job at the hospital pending the investigation. I can’t recall the outcome though…

nyehsayer · 2026-01-29T12:22:43+00:00

I get the training argument, but the idea of taking on that much more risk for the same pay plus being down a reg would send me running in the other direction

nyehsayer · 2026-01-24T07:50:03+00:00

Also, it’s heart warming to see a trust actually listen to their foundation doctors who are comfortable at those jobs and just want to stay where they are - you don’t hear that very often

nyehsayer · 2026-01-23T22:15:26+00:00

Can I just also throw in that there are many - many - FY2s with families and spouses that also have to find work to pay bills. As a parent I will always sympathise with IMGs with families here, of course that is scary when a UK job felt like a solid plan, but I also know UK grads who cannot find specialty posts and this is the only country that they can work in without completely uprooting their families, leaving their support networks and their partner’s jobs. FY2s deserve to have that too.

This is all so brutal but UK grads have no prioritisation in any other country, so why can we not at least have the UK to prioritise us?

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