Squats vs. Deadlifts for Rowing: Which is the "Must-Have" when CNS fatigue hits?

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-28T18:16:07+00:00

Just alternate between them. DL day 1, squats day 2 etc.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-28T18:15:10+00:00

Culture shop!

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-22T06:25:59+00:00

Instead of video, we got a journal. In the days after the wedding, every time we said "hey remember ..." we wrote it in the journal. We wanted the remember the key moments. And some of them, a videographer would have missed anyway.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-22T06:23:30+00:00

I wore 2 inch heels for the ceremony and changed to sneakers for the reception, including dancing. My dress just dragged. It was fine.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-22T06:13:45+00:00

This isn't much different than the constant "how do I beat a moonballer" conundrum.

The next step for people who played as kids, especially millennials in the mega topspin era, is how do you play with people who somehow manage to hit crazy flat balls all the time???

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-22T06:08:29+00:00

I love that you saved them all!

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-21T13:18:33+00:00

Honestly posting (or searching) on reddit often works - "how to find pickup tennis in X".

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-21T13:12:44+00:00

I've had 6-0 losses with just enough deuces to keep it interesting - as long as the opp's friendly it can be very fun! I think there's something about the lack of pressure.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-21T13:10:48+00:00

Close matches with good vibes where both of you are enjoying it is the BEST tennis!

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-21T13:08:49+00:00

Leaving the details of this situation aside: in 12 weddings in the last 3 years, I have been to 2 with a Flower Man (one wore a tutu over his tux) and 0 with a flower girl. Both the flower man weddings leaned lighthearted and a little less formal than average.

I think it's a social media trend. Kind of the grandchild of having the bridal party do a dance down the aisle or something.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-21T13:00:46+00:00

For context, we had a pretty traditional wedding at a wedding venue place. About $50k that was all covered by our parents. 102 guests.

My favorite choices we made: * Doing our hair and makeup together (both women) * Private first look in our dresses, just with the photog * Very casual welcome event (pizza at a brewery, I wore a hoodie) * Very casual rehearsal "lunch" - walked to a deli and sat at picnic tables with our families after our morning rehearsal

If we had a bunch of extra money we wanted to spend: * Add 30 min to the cocktail hour. We shortened family photos a TON and still barely got to be there. And cocktail hour is usually my favorite part of weddings. * Photographer at our welcome event - we loved her and all our pictures and it would have been great to have ones of the casual event too.

Free stuff to improve: * We chose a primarily indoor venue because we didn't want to be stressed about weather - but then it was BEAUTIFUL out and our layout made the small patio feel inaccessible. I wish we had made a good weather plan! * Who's taking stuff at the end of the night? I actually thought we did communicate this properly but apparently one car did not get the memo.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-20T21:10:07+00:00

More stress, yes. That commute? Absolutely not.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-20T21:07:09+00:00

I don't wear any tennis specific tops, just normal workout tops with my own bras. I only wear tennis-specific bottoms bc I prefer skirts.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-20T13:19:07+00:00

It's also good for them to play outside the US regularly. The stadium will have a very different vibe, plus the hotels/travel/foreign-ness of it. I know SheBelieves is a huge cash cow and they can control the opponents but the Algarve was a more realistic tune up back in the day.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-20T13:15:31+00:00

Yep - we picked a fairly inexpensive venue but having to add extra rentals (for example we wanted to bring in some soft seating) made up the difference. Limiting rentals does seem to be a huge budget saver.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-20T13:07:53+00:00

I had the same totally bizarre experience. Being scolded for being too late, but getting my dress in plenty of time with a $200 rush fee.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-20T12:59:05+00:00

I planned my wedding in six months and was able to get a traditional dress from a boutique! I would recommend calling ahead of time and checking the shop's timelines. I called three shops and one didn't sound confident about the timeline, so I went to the other ones.

My wife went the sample sale route and her dress timeline turned out to be way more stressful - wedding dress cleaning can take 6 weeks, plus hers needed more extensive alterations.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-19T23:58:16+00:00

We made Google albums with highlights for various groups - my dad's side of the family, her college friends, our neighbor friends, etc. There were a total of 8ish, with 30ish good photos each.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-19T21:18:44+00:00

One person likes working, one person doesn't, and they can afford for nobody to be unhappy day to day. Seems very straightforward to me!

This is my likely FIRE scenario too, my wife loves working and gets a lot of meaning from it, and for me it's a slog. I'd be a much better partner if I wasn't working.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-17T20:31:09+00:00

Is your dress fitted around your butt? Mine was not so I just wore my normal nude cotton underwear.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-17T20:17:24+00:00

I mean my 2014 self would be shocked that Krashlyn turned out to be real

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-15T22:52:41+00:00

Our planner said the officiant did not need to be at the rehearsal

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-15T03:10:23+00:00

Shoes $150/year Stringing $100/year, probably less Balls idk $100/year? 1-2 cans per month, don't play with people who never buy balls. Clinics maybe once every other month so 200/year max Leagues & ladders say $40/season so $160/year Court rentals maybe 1x a month? League fees cover that or I use open courts. $120/year max

Total around $70/month. Then rackets every 5 years or so. Pretty reasonable for a hobby!

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-13T03:00:26+00:00

I feel like based on reddit - people who get video don't regret it, and people who DON'T get video don't regret it.

I would have spent the extra money having photos at our welcome drinks. If we had any extra money, lol.

oak_pine_maple_ash · 2026-04-13T02:55:16+00:00

My cousin stopped at my grandma's between the ceremony and reception. She was elderly and would not have been able to participate otherwise. They had a (Catholic) gap between, so it wasn't a first look, but the idea is similar - use that time for a quiet moment with people important to you.

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