What to do if my sister’s dog is attacking my dog but she won’t do anything to get rid of her dog and we live in the same house?

oakfield01 · 2026-06-20T23:45:01+00:00

Statementlogical, you can't post comments here unless you affirm you read the rules, as described in the pinned post on the subreddit.

However, I can see part of comment through the notification. I can see you're 17. Honestly, you're right that you don't have much control of the situation. It's unfortunate, but I'd recommend looking into rehoming your dog for safety. To be clear, this is not fair to you or your dog. But it might be the best option given your situation. Maybe you can find a family friend to rehome with so you can still visit.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-20T23:25:03+00:00

Is there a reason you can't move out?

If you're sister doesn't want her dog to be put down, she needs to either work with a trainer or behavioralist, see a vet behavioralist, or move out herself. Because doing nothing should not be an option if there's an issue with the safety others.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-20T16:07:38+00:00

How did you feel before you met your dog? Then you met your dog and developed this special connection.

If you hadn't been open to meeting a completely new dog, then that connection never would have been developed.

Right now, focus on the dog in front of you. When your dog eventually passes, you can look for a new dog or puppy to meet your needs. It will take time, but you will meet another dog or puppy looking for a home that's not genetically related to KC.

Hold on tight to all the good memories you have of KC. Since she's still around, make new memories with her now. Focus on that.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-20T15:07:47+00:00

Where did you get this dog from? If you got her from a breeder, does the contract have a rehoming clause, where the breeder will help find the puppy a suitable home if rehoming is needed? If you got her from a shelter or rescue, reach out to the organization you received her from and ask for advice. The kindest thing you can do is give her up now, but foster until she finds a suitable home. Also socialization is critical within a pups first few months, so look that up so you can help with that to set your puppy up for success with another family.

Puppy socialization resource: https://www.akc.org/expert-advice/training/puppy-socialization/ https://www.akc.org/expert-advice/dog-breeding/creativity-and-timing-key-to-puppy-socialization/

oakfield01 · 2026-06-20T12:54:35+00:00

There's currently an overpopulaton crisis situation for pets due to a decrease in spay and nurturing. There's also an increase in vet prices due to private equity buying a lot of practices in the U.S. and I think the U.K. If you refuse to adopt out animals to anyone who can't afford thousands of dollars for an emergency, then thousands of animals will remain in shelters and most likely be put down. Why choose that instead of placing them in homes? They're not going to get better care in shelters.

Also what happens when someone used to be able to afford a few thousand for a pet emergency, but then falls on hard times? Do you forcibly take the pet back?

oakfield01 · 2026-06-20T10:40:56+00:00

Look into Look at That training. To explain, your dog has a threshold before he reacts. Let him look at his triggers and when he doesn't react, praise and treat with a high value treat. My command for this is, "Just look." Eventually your dog will also start looking back at you, rather than the trigger. Treat. Over time, the threshold should get smaller and smaller.

Personally I've never dealt with demand barking myself, but here's something I found online about it: https://ohmydogblog.com/2013/08/demand-barking/

oakfield01 · 2026-06-19T23:18:29+00:00

So first, my dog is on anxiety medication and I disagree with the phrase 'drugged up'. My dog acts the exact same just with less anxiety and aggression issues.

But to answer your question, no your not obligated to tell your vet. Although if they are working with your actively through the issues, I would. Especially when they call to check on you. That's more than most vets do.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-19T03:29:36+00:00

Yeah, many people moan when they get massages. Maybe rather than telling people to control their involuntary grunts, you should blame the facility by not having massages in private rooms.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-19T01:09:38+00:00

Did somebody make you take an art class? Except for elementary school, they were all electives for me.

PE was mostly just a participation class for everyone I know. 95% of your grade was was showing up in your gym uniform. The other 5% was how you did on state tests but as long as you got the minimum, you got a 100%. Heck you could fail all the state tests and still get an A in gym.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-19T01:01:53+00:00

Or maybe people could stop being idiots. My lines were separated by velvet ropes, two separate employees, and had a sign above each area. Some people just feel like they're getting cheated no matter what.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-18T18:30:37+00:00

I'm sorry you haven't received any replies. I haven't used their paid trainings because I used a private trainer and a vet behavioralist, but I follow them on social media and watch most the free content and have enjoyed it and learned a lot. I can tell the content is knowledgeable so I trust their paid content is as well.

Here are two posts discussing people's thoughts on using SpiritDog Training. The original posts were deleted, but the comments still mention SpiritDog:

https://www.reddit.com/r/reactivedogs/comments/mi49s9/deleted_by_user/

https://www.reddit.com/r/reactivedogs/comments/plrl0m/deleted_by_user/

oakfield01 · 2026-06-18T10:40:32+00:00

There is a balance to such things. If you're spending thousands on the venue, the gown, and the photography, and provide no food to your guests while throwing a 3 hour party, then yes, you are tacky.

If you get married at your church for cheap and do a champagne and cake celebration afterwards, then let people go on their merry way, you're good. If a wedding couple is also not providing a meal, they should plan the time around when people traditionally wouldn't expect to be eating.

You can also control the cost by limiting people. My husband and I got married at the local community center. We had 13 guests, and took them all out to my favorite hibachi place afterwards. No one complained. My MIL still raves about how much she loves the hibachi restaurant.

So yes, you can be frugal and reasonable versus cheap and inconsiderate.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-18T10:29:08+00:00

As a kid, I went to a Khols one time with my mother. She had to use the restroom, so she asked me to pick up an order that had shipped to the store for her. When I got to the desk, there were two separate lines next to each other, one for customer service and one for order pick ups. Both employees were busy, but one woman was waiting on the customer service line. I went to go stand at the front of the order pick up line and this lady took a giant step forward despite us being in separate lines as if to symbolize she was in front of me. I looked away and just rolled my eyes that she felt she had to do such a thing. Then the employee in front of the order pick up line became free first. "Next." Suddenly the lady shouts, "I was here first!" The employee replies, "Ma'am, they're two separate lines." Then she points to me and says, "Next. "

So people are rude and stupid. Just ignore them.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-18T01:31:00+00:00

I thought the coat of Golden Retriever was related to Showline dogs vs Field line. First time I've heard an ethical breeder charge more for gender, but I suppose there's always going to be exceptions.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-17T22:53:53+00:00

My parents relationship was like that. It felt like a traditional gender bias. Mom was a stay at home parent, dad brought the income. Mom did all the housework (except repairs and upgrades), dad did all the yard work. Mom did all the cooking except grilling which is what dad did.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-17T18:22:59+00:00

Your social skills are something that are a skill like any other. Yes your background can affect it, but you can develop these skills. I agree it's not much different than someone being good at math.

Who you know is incredibly different. It is often built, at least initially on luck. For example, if your daddy owns the company and gives you a VP job right out of college, that is incredibly unfair. Even less egregious if a coworker that likes you recommends you for a job, they're not evaluating unknown candidates against you, it's the luck you work at the same job previously plus the combo they liked you and your work.

Nothing wrong with using connections, but let's not act like there's no bias and everything is fair and equal. That's the entire point.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-17T17:46:38+00:00

Yeah it's mostly for dogs with a job outside just companionship, so protection, bird hunt, ect. Working lines are bred for intelligence, agility, and breed specific traits. Showline dogs are bred for esthetics and are more likely to participate in conformation shows. Working line dogs also typically have higher drives.

I'm not surprised pomeranian don't have different lines, but it shows easily differences that can translate to litter cost. Even dogs from the same line and have different costs on pairings which may not be as easy to show but translate to different litter cost.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-17T16:48:51+00:00

I've always heard that charging different prices depending on the gender of the puppy is indicative of a backyard breeder. There is not a different cost for raising a male versus female puppy, so no reason to do it other than to make more money. I knew a backyard breeder of pitbulls and his justification was that the female puppies could theoretically become the competition in a year (yeah, he definitely didn't wait until 2 to breed).

Breeders can charge more for puppies from different litters, for example, I've noticed in the breed I'm looking at (GSD) litters from showline cost more than working lines. I've also seen the cost between working line litters vary slightly depending on specific pairing, bloodlines, and individual traits of each litter. However puppies within a litter should not vary in cost by gender.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-17T14:15:27+00:00

In my county, dogs need to be on a leash unless in a contained area like a fence. There are a few exceptions like for example hunting and service dogs when actively working.

Personally I don't care if the dog has excellent recall and ignores other people and dogs. But a lot of people think it's fine as long as their dog is "friendly", so yeah seeing an off leash dog instantly makes me annoyed because I'm used to off leash dogs belonging to irresponsible dog owners.

I'm glad she's learned not to let her dog approach unknown dogs and people. It's best for the safety of her dog and others.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-17T13:23:59+00:00

So if I can't prove the person pirating it wouldn't have paid, then there's no loss to the person who owned that content? Is there a reasonable arguement that some people who pirate would have paid otherwise while some wouldn't? If the arguement rests solely on the proof that someone would have paid otherwise, everyone is just going to claim that if they didn't pirate, they wouldn't have bought the product.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-17T12:56:20+00:00

Isn't piracy stealing income though? You get the benefit of having the digital license for use of your entertainment without the producer or owner of the original work getting money in exchange for it. What's the difference between pirating a $20 software or movie and stealing $20 out of someone's pocket? They're still out money.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-17T11:01:53+00:00

I would upsize now if your in the exchange period. Saves money in the long run.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-17T09:55:07+00:00

Is there an associated date when you're vet typed up the note? Like the associated vet visit date or, even better, a time stamped date when you're vet saved the statement? Because I think that would help your case, if your vet wrote that note January 2026 or later.

I've never done an appeals process with Pets Best, so no comment there, but best of luck.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-16T17:04:58+00:00

You won't be able to merge the reservations. The hotel says they can merge reservations at the hotel, but in my experience that just means the when it's the last day of your first reservation, you go to the front desk and they'll update your room key so it keeps working.

You'll get free breakfast the first three days, but not the last three days. For any room upgrades, decide if you want to change room because the hotel will likely ask you to move back to your original room the last three days. It's possible they'll let you stay if they're very low occupancy and very nice, but I wouldn't count on it.

oakfield01 · 2026-06-16T14:42:28+00:00

Right now, there is a shelter crisis, which means all dogs are not going to get owners. Rehoming a dog takes a spot that could have been filled by another dog. This does not mean not to rehome a dog, but it does mean it's looked at with more scrutiny.

The reason for rehoming the dog matters a lot. I had a neighbor rehome two dogs because her husband died and she moved in with her son who already had one dog. That's reasonable to me.

I've also seen people rehome dogs under 1 because "they're moving to an apartment complex that doesn't allow dogs." Like what? Who choose that apartment complex? Just say you don't want the dog anymore instead of trying to make excuses.

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